How To Deal With Weird People

My parents were there when my first child was born.  They had raised five children of their own.  I asked them, “What parenting advice do you have for someone just starting out?” My Dad looked at me and said, “Raise them according to their personality…That is where I went wrong with you.” I was not sure exactly how to take that, but then he continued, “I raised you like a typical little boy. Little did I know my son was growing up with the heart of a poet.”

That was a powerful moment in my life. I have tried to live out my Dad’s advice, not only in raising my children but in every other area of life as well. It has helped me be a better parent, spouse, employee, leader, minister, speaker, coach, and friend.

Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

Here is a brief overview of the four major personality styles and how to best work with each:

 

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George Washington was a “Heart”.

 

HEART

  • Security-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Past
  • Biblical Example: Moses
  • Desires: Connection and Accomplishment
  • Trusts: Authority
  • Characteristics: Dependable and Cautious

When working with Hearts, keep in mind they are motivated by schedules and timelines. They typically enjoy having timelines to get tasks accomplished. They will sometimes get stuck or at least sidetracked whenever they feel they are not in control of the situation. Schedules and to-do lists can help them feel like they have more control. The way to get a heart back on task is to encourage them to stop organizing and get started. Sometimes Hearts try to gain so much control they lose track of the goal.

 

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Michael Jordan is a “Body”.

BODY

 

  • Thrill-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Present
  • Biblical Example: Peter
  • Desires: Fun and Activity
  • Trust: Their Impulses
  • Characteristics: Fun-loving and Spontaneous

When working with Bodies, keep in mind they are motivated by fun and excitement. They typically will do whatever they feel will be fun. They will sometimes get stuck or sidetracked if they get bogged down with what they feel is too long-term or boring. With their time focus on the now, they need to know they can do something now. The best way to get Bodies back on track is to help them find the fun in it. They will work harder than anybody if they find some kind of excitement in what they are doing.

 

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Princess Diana was a “Soul”.

SOUL

 

  • Identity-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Future
  • Biblical Example: Barnabas
  • Desires: Meaning and Purpose
  • Trusts: Their Intuition
  • Characteristics: Enthusiastic and On a Spiritual Journey

When working with Souls, keep in mind they are motivated by meaning and developing people. They typically enjoy doing something that will have long-term benefits for others. They can become stuck if they do not connect value or meaning to a task. Souls must see the connection between what they are trying to accomplish and the long-term effects. Sometimes, in order for Souls to get back on task, they need to take a mental break or to simply work in solitude. Because Souls sometimes live in their own little world, they may have to visit that world in order to gain momentum.

 

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Albert Einstein was a “Mind”.

MIND
 

  • Knowledge-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Intervals
  • Biblical Example: Paul
  • Desires: Individuality and Efficiency
  • Trusts: Logic
  • Characteristics: Strong-willed and Skeptical

When working with Minds, remember they are motivated by intellectual challenges like how to improve something or solve a problem. Just like Bodies like to work with their bodies, so Minds like to work with their minds. Minds can sometimes get stuck because they over-analyze to the point they do not complete the task. Sometimes they can simply think themselves out of doing. In order for Minds to get back on track, they may need to take some time alone. Similar to the Souls, Minds need time alone with their thoughts.

The important thing to realize is that we are all different. What motivates you may not be the same thing that motivates someone else. We all see things differently. The goal is not to get other people to be more like you. It is to better understand your tendencies and other’s tendencies so everyone can bring their unique selves to whatever may be taking place.

God made us all different for a reason. If there are two people just alike then one of them is a waste. Remember other peoples’ tendencies whether you are parenting, leading, being a spouse, a team member, an employee, or a friend. Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

If you want to dig a little deeper, my 1-hour training DVD “How to Talk to Weird People” may be a great resource for you.


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Do You Want to Know Why You Got Fired?

Nothing is more important than relationships. Not politics, championships, or even religion.  Nothing is more important than relationships. Regardless of your call in life, the stronger the relationships you have, the better off you will be. Here are just a few facts I have heard about relationships.

  • Over 99% of counseling is relationship counseling

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Zig Ziglar tells in his How To Stay Motivated series about a counselor who believed, in his educated opinion, more than 99% of counseling is relationship counseling. That makes sense. Marriages are about relationships, parenting is about relationships, jobs are about relationships, depression is often about relationships, drug and alcohol abuse is often about relationships, pre-marital issues are about relationships… everything seems to be about relationships! If we could all get this relationship issue under control, we would put professional counselors out of work.

  • 70% of fired people are fired because they did not get along or fit in

trump - firedThis is another statistic I got from Zig Ziglar. How often people are fired – not because they could not do the job, not because they were lazy, not because they stole from the company – because they did not get along or fit in with the other employees!  Relationships. Relationships apparently play a significant role in employment which plays a significant role in the health of our economy.

  • 20-year Harvard study shows that relationships affect health more than food, exercise, or genes.

Relationships even have an effect on our health. Our emotional health influences our physical health. If you really want all that time in the gym to pay off, try investing just as much energy into your significant relationships.

  • Mark 12:30-31

When Jesus was asked, “Of all the commandments which is the most important?” (Mark 12:28, NIV). Jesus responded, “’Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:30-31, NIV). No commandment is more important than our relationship with God and our relationships with other people. Even if you look at the Ten Commandments, you will discover that four of them are about our relationship with God and the other six are about our relationships with people, but they are ALL about relationships!

20170605_172611A few years ago, my wife and I found ourselves allowing other things to become more important to us than our relationship with each other, our kids, our friends, and even our God. We drastically changed our focus and it has changed our lives. Sometimes we leave important things undone because we focus our time, energy, and attention on our relationships and especially our relationship with each other.  Oddly enough, we have discovered we are much more productive when our relationship with each other is going well. It actually gives us energy!

What can you do to focus more on your relationships? Maybe go on a couples retreat with your spouse, take your kid fishing or just out for the day, invest some time with a friend. Do whatever it takes to grow your significant relationships because, in the end, your emotional well-being, your career, your physical health, and even your faith depends on it!


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Keep Your Eyes on Jesus

Stan McDanielMy college professor had a catch phrase he would use whenever the discussion seemed to get to a point of no resolution. A controversial conversation would be taking place and out of the blue Dr. Stan McDaniel would say, “Keep your eyes on Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith.” I think Dr. McDaniel or Stan as most of us knew him, reflected a pretty good philosophy with that statement.

Of course, that line comes straight out of the Bible; Hebrews 12:2, Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author, and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (NIV). What a way to look at the world by looking to Jesus. The Voice version of the Bible says “Now stay focused on Jesus.” In the midst of everything going on in the world and everything going on in our personal lives let us simply “Keep our eyes on Jesus.”

Not only is Jesus the “author and perfecter of our faith,” he is the one and only perfect example of how to live, think, feel, and believe. If we keep our focus on Jesus, we know we are moving in the right direction.

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When we get bombarded with social and political issues, when we find ourselves in the midst of a theological and doctrinal debate with others and even inside our own minds, when we are so distraught with the burdens of this life, let us keep our eyes on Jesus. When I am in the right state of mind, my focus is not on whether I am right and you are wrong. My focus is not on my financial situation.  My focus is not on the state of my country. My focus is on Jesus. All of these other issues only matter to me to the extent they are related to my focus being on Jesus.

So, thank you, Dr. Stan McDaniel, for helping me keep my focus where it needs to be in the midst of all the distractions. Thank you for giving me a go to verse in the midst of confusion. Thank you for influencing me to be influenced by Jesus!

As we go through the process of discovering our purpose, setting goals, and answering God’s call on our life, as we read and grow to become the best version of what God created us to be, as we climb to our God-given potential let us remember this:

“Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed – that exhilarating finish in and with God – he could put up with anything along the way: cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God” (Hebrews 12:2, The Message).


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One Ingredient All Healthy Relationships Must Have

sinHave you ever noticed that we like to classify sins? We typically classify sins into two categories: big ones and little ones.  “Little sins are the ones I do, big sins are the ones you do.”

It is important to note that the Bible makes no such distinction. Sins are like links in a chain, if any one, single link is broken, then the chain as a whole is broken. All sins are big sins.

The purpose of this blog is not to show the similarities between our sins and links in a chain. It is to point out that we should be as gentle with other’s faults as we are with our own. In other words, if we want to build winning relationships we must be more than willing to forgive.

Henri Nouwen says, “Forgiveness is love practiced among people who love poorly.” Let’s be honest, we all love poorly. Therefore, we all need forgiveness. Let’s be as gentle with other’s faults as we are our own.

Ephesians 4:32 says, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ, God forgave you” (NIV). When we stop and reflect on the immeasurable amount of forgiveness God has poured out on us, how can we not, in turn, pour out forgiveness on those we come in contact with on a regular basis? We all do stupid stuff. We all need forgiveness. This forgiveness is key in building winning relationships. A healthy relationship does not exist without genuine forgiveness from both sides.

Look at what Jesus had to say about being judgmental and forgiveness: “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you” (Matthew 7:1-2, NIV). In other words, we are going to get back what we dish out. If we want other people to be gentle and forgiving of our faults, then we must be just as gentle and forgiving of their faults. This does not mean ignoring each other’s faults, but it means handling those faults in a non-judgmental, forgiving way.

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Jesus goes on to say, “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye” (Matthew 7:3-5, NIV). We cannot adequately deal with our own sins if we classify our sins as smaller than the sins of others. We must honestly deal with our sins before we can adequately help somebody else deal with theirs.

Then Jesus says something I think most people completely misunderstand, “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces” (Matthew 7:6, NIV). Most people teach that Jesus is telling us here to not waste our time trying to lead people to him who are not willing to follow him. I do not believe that is what Jesus is teaching here at all.

sin5In the context of what Jesus had just said about not judging people and dealing with our own sins before we try to deal with the sins others, I believe Jesus is talking about not wasting our precious and valuable time and energy being a nit-picky Christian. A nit-picky Christian is someone who is always pointing out other people’s faults but never acknowledging their own. That’s right, they classify their own sins as little sins and other people’s (or at least the people they disagree with) as big sins.

If we want to build winning relationships with our co-workers, kids, and spouse we must be as gentle with their faults as we are our own. We all have faults and we all need forgiveness. The best relationships are NOT the ones with the fewest faults, they are the ones with the most forgiveness.


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Are You Wasting Your Life?

How many times have you heard someone make the comment, “I am the same person I have always been”? I am not sure exactly what they mean by that, but I cannot help but see that as an insult to themselves. To say, “I am the same person I have always been” is to say “I have never grown up” or “I am not any smarter now than I ever was” or “I just don’t give a crap about getting any better in any area of my life”.

I know many people reach a plateau and never really grow beyond a certain point. That seems sad to me, not something to brag about.

If you are the same person at 40 as you were at 20 you have wasted 20 years of your life. As we grow older we should be growing in other areas as well. Unless we are perfect, (and none of us are) we should always be growing.

ludicrousThe reason most people do not grow is that growth means change and sometimes change can be painful. There is no growth without change. We have to consistently be changing if we want to grow. That means we will not be the same person we have always been. When we grow, we become different. We change and become better.

If you want something you have never had, you will have to do something you have never done. That is the process of growth. If we just settle, then we will never reach our God-given potential. God is not done with you. So, do not settle. Keep growing. Keep learning. Keep stretching. Do whatever it takes to get from where you are to where you want to be.

I can remember being so shy, I would not look the cashier in the eye as I made a purchase. I hoped they would not talk to me so I would not have to speak. Thankfully, today I am not the same person I had always been.

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I  can remember a day when I hated school or any kind of academics. I had no desire to stretch myself in this area. Thankfully, today I am not the same person I had always been.

Before I got married, I would preach and teach often on marriage and relationships. After I got married I stopped! I realized I was clueless about marriage and relationships. I was married for almost 15 years before I felt mentally, emotionally, and spiritually prepared to teach on marriage and relationships again. It has been a brutal learning process for me; but I have learned from experience, books, audio programs, classes, and especially from other married couples who were much better at this marriage thing than I was. As I have learned, I have become a much better husband, dad, and teacher. Thankfully, today I am not the same person I had always been.

You can change! You can grow! But not if you are satisfied being the same person you have always been.

God is not done with you…so, never settle, live with enthusiasm, and turn the world upside down… Here we go!


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5 Clues to Uncover your N.I.C.H.E.

Over the past two blogs, we have looked at our first purpose and our general purpose. However, there is another level of purpose we have not yet discussed. Not only does everyone have their first purpose (to know, love, and follow Jesus), and their general purpose (Worship, fellowship, discipleship, ministry, and evangelism), but each one of us also has a specific purpose. While our first and general purpose are universal, our specific purpose is unique for each and every one of us.

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Galatians 6:4-5, says; Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life” (The Message). As you better understand who God made you to be and the work he wants you to do, you will better understand your specific purpose. God has equipped you to fulfill a purpose that he specifically put you on this earth to fulfill.

Here are five areas to “carefully explore” to better understand “who you are and the work you have been given”.

Natural Abilities
What are you naturally good at doing? What seems to come easier for you than it does most other people? What are some of those talents and strengths you have naturally developed?

Inspirational Gifts
Everyone who has decided to follow Jesus has received what the Bible calls spiritual gifts. I would encourage you to read Romans 12:3-8; 1 Corinthians 12:1-11 and 27-31; Ephesians 4:11-12; and 1 Peter 4:9-11, for a list of spiritual gifts. There are some spiritual gift surveys available online and they are helpful in discovering your spiritual gift. However, the best way is to simply try something that appeals to you and see how it goes. If it seems like a good fit, perhaps you have discovered your spiritual gift. If it is not a good fit, try another one.

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How did God wire your brain? When I talk about understanding your character I am talking about your personality style. God has wired each one of us differently to serve him in the way he wants us to serve him. Discover your personality style and it will help you better understand your God-given, specific purpose. My DVD “How To Speak To Weird People” comes with a personality style survey and gives descriptions of each style.

Heart
What are you passionate about? What keeps you up at night because of enthusiasm and excitement and what wakes you up early in the morning for the same reason? What do you love to talk about? If you knew you could not fail and money was not an issue, what would you do? These are just some questions to help you discover your passion…your heart!

Experiences

How have past experiences equipped you for what God wants you to do? Evaluate both your good and bad experiences, because God uses both. What physical experiences, emotional experiences, intellectual experiences, and spiritual experiences have you had that has shaped you into the person you are today?

Niche2If you noticed, those five areas spell the word NICHE. What is your niche? What are your natural abilities, inspirational gifts, character, heart, and experiences? Once you make a “careful exploration” of these five areas, you will have a better idea of “who you are and the work you have been given”. Then you will better understand what your God-given, specific purpose may be!


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Is Jesus Your Leader?

Ephesians 1:11-12, says;
It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, had designs on us for glorious living, part of the overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone (The Message).

purpose3The only way we can fully discover our specific purpose in life is to be in Christ. Our first purpose is to come to know, love, and follow Jesus. It is only in him “that we find out who we are and what we are living for.”

The first purpose of our lives is making Jesus the forgiver and leader of our life. That is how we discover our specific purpose and it is through Jesus that our purpose is given the most meaning and significance. When Jesus becomes the leader of our life, he leads us in the path that God created for us, our purpose. “For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10, NIV).

If you have not made that decision, I would encourage you to do so. Put your trust in Jesus. Change your direction to follow Jesus’ lead. Make a conscious decision to make Jesus the forgiver and leader of your life. Make that commitment solid by being baptized, and at this point, God’s Holy Spirit will help you live the way God designed you to live. This is the most important decision you will ever make in your life and it will determine how well you live out your purpose in this life.

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As we look at the different levels of purpose over the next two blogs, realize that this step must take place first. As a follower of Jesus, I must say that my life has a level of meaning and purpose it would not have had I never made this decision. Our first purpose in life is to know, love, and follow Jesus.


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Why Are You Here?

purposeLaurie Beth Jones once asked a group of troubled teens, “Who are you?” After a few answers, she asked, “What are your biggest fears?” She got a few more answers and then she asked, “If you knew you could not fail and money was not an issue, what would you do?”

I know you are eager to find out what those troubled teens answered, but I think it would be more important to answer those questions for yourself. Before you read on, try answering those three questions for yourself. Go ahead, do it…I am watching you 🙂

Hopefully, you answered those three questions from the first paragraph. If you did not go do it now. If you did, think about those in connection with your life purpose.

So often we do not fulfill or even discover our purpose in life because we do not understand ourselves, we allow fears and limiting beliefs to hold us back, or we have simply not thought about what we would do without all those limitations.

Genesis 5:6-27, is a list of different people over the course of about six generations. Here is the typical format of that passage: “______ had lived ___ years, he became the father of _____. And after he became the father of _____, he lived ___ years and had other sons and daughters. Altogether, he lived ___ years, and then he died.” So, if this was written about me it would read something like this: “Tommy had lived 31 years, he became the father of Appolonya. And after he became the father of Appolonya, Tommy lived 69 years and had another child. Altogether, Tommy lived 100 years, and then he died.” (Yes, I do plan on living 100 years. You are invited to my 100th birthday party if you can make it.)

Is not life more than just living, dying, and having kids? Is this it? Just survive and reproduce? I believe there is more. Our purpose is bigger than just living, dying, and having kids. Our God-given purpose is to make an eternal difference in people’s lives and to make this world a better place in the process.

Of everyone who goes to college 30% never finish. Of those who do finish 80% end up in a career unrelated to their field of study. How great would it be if we had some indication of our purpose in life before we invested in our education?

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What is your purpose? What difference would knowing your purpose make in your life? God has put each one of us on this world for a reason, what is yours?

Over the next few blogs this week we will discover the three levels of purpose.


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Step 4 to Finding Real Happiness: A Deep Spiritual Connection to God

Over the past few blogs, we have looked at how to find real happiness and joy. To read those blogs please click the links below:

Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

God Did Not Create Us to be Alone/Step 2: Find Someone

Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

Today we will look at the fourth and final step: connect spiritually. The ultimate happiness in life is not discovered until we connect spiritually. The first part of a spiritual connection is to come to know and love Jesus. However, there is more to deeper spiritual connection than just knowing you will go to heaven when you die. There are several practices to help you grow into a deeper spiritual connection with God. There are four that are foundational to spiritual growth and connection.

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Spiritual connection is limited at best if we are not reading the Bible. The Bible gives us direction, connection, and affection. The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us. He wants you to hear his voice, listen to him. The Bible is not so much a rule book as it is a love letter from God. Open it up and find out how much God loves you.

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Prayer
The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us, prayer is the primary way we speak to God. Reading the Bible and prayer is how we have conversations with God. No relationship can grow without authentic communication. If our spiritual connection, our relationship with God, is going to grow, we must have authentic communication with him through reading the Bible and praying to him.

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Fellowship
If we are going to grow in our spiritual connection, we must grow in our connection with other people who desire to grow in their spiritual connection. That sentence may be worth reading again. Jesus established the church, which is our primary place for getting this type of connection. I know, I know, some of you are saying “the church is full of hypocrites and they have lost the meaning of true spirituality”, and there may be some truth to that. However, we often do not hear the positive side of the church. Churches really are most responsible for the positive change that has taken place throughout history. We have done some things very wrong, but we have done much more right. If you want more input on that subject please read “An Open Letter to the Church”.

The church is what Jesus established for his followers to come together for a deeper spiritual connection with him. With all its faults it is still God’s chosen vessel for deep, spiritual relationships. If we want to grow in our relationship with God we must grow in our relationship with other followers of Jesus.

Giving
If we are to grow in our spiritual connection with the ultimate giver…God…We must become givers ourselves. Giving can be our time, talents or treasures. Better yet, it should be all three. One of the best ways to find real happiness is to become a giver. Psychologist Alfred Adler put it this way, “We could be cured of depression in only fourteen days if every day we would try to do something good for somebody else.”

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I encourage you to schedule time to read your Bible. If you do not understand it then look for a different translation that is easier to understand. Here are some of my favorites: New International Version, The Message, and The Voice. If you do not like reading then listen to it. You can get it on CD or even look it up online for free.

Set aside a time of prayer. However, do not limit your prayer time to just scheduled times. Be open to spontaneous prayers as well. My wife and I have scheduled times when we talk, but we are not limited to those times. We spontaneously talk throughout the day as well. It is the same way with God.

If you are not already part of a church then I encourage you to find one. Please do not just attend, get involved. If you can find one that has a strong small groups environment it may help your connection even better.

Look for opportunities to give of your time, talents, and treasures. Give to your church, give to your community, give to your favorite cause, just be a giver. To some extent the more you give, the happier you will be.


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Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

happy-7.pngSeveral years ago my wife and I went through a series of four classes at our church. Each 2-hour class was offered once a month. The classes were about the purpose and values of the church; how to grow spiritually; how to get involved in ministry at the church, and how to tell other people about Jesus.

Four months later, the teacher of that fourth class asked if we had taken all the other classes. We responded, “Yes.” He asked,  “Well, you know what you have to do now?” My wife and I looked at each other. Then responded, “No, what?” He smiled and said, “Somethin’”.

In a very simple way, that was extremely profound advice. If you want to find true happiness and joy, you must do ‘somethin’. Happiness will not just show up on your doorstep. Get out and take action.

Nothing happens until somethin’ happens. John Maxwell puts it this way, “What separates the developer of a successful dream from a mere daydreamer is committed action.” If you want to be happy, if you want to be successful, if you want to climb to your God-given potential you must get up and do somethin’.

happyIf you have a dream, write down some actions to take and then pick one to do right now. If you are going to make a significant change in your life it must be done immediately and enthusiastically. Do it now and do it with enthusiasm. If it is worth doing then why put it off? Do it now!

If you do not know what to do or maybe you do not have a specific dream to work towards, then just do something constructive. Volunteer with your church or community, go visit someone in the hospital, call someone you have not talked to in a long time. Do somethin’!

Happiness and joy will not find you, it must be sought out. However, if you only self-indulge to make yourself happy, you will never find happiness. If your actions are only for your benefit, then happiness will elude you. The more “others-centered” you become, the bigger difference you will make in your own joy. That is a principle and not a tactic.

So, step one in finding real happiness is “do something”. Tomorrow we will look at step two.  But first, do step one by writing down an action you will take and then get up and do it! DO IT NOW!!  Take a moment and send it to me using the form below…. I’d love to hear your first action step!


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