Using The Power of Focused Attention to Create Genius

In my last blog, we looked at writing out your “Dream List” or what some people call their “Be, Do, Have List.” If you have not read that blog you can go to it here.

Now, it is time to choose one focus goal from your “Be, Do, Have” or dream list.  You are no longer in the brainstorming stage so pick one that you really want to work on, one that stirs up enough passion in you that you are not going to give up when it gets difficult, because it will get difficult.  If it were easy, you probably would have already reached it.

FOCUS GOAL

Pick your goal to focus on (focus goal) and write it down.

After you write it down, look at it and see if you can make it any more specific.  For instance, instead of saying, “I want to lose weight.” Say “I want to lose _____ pounds.”  How much weight do you want to lose?  How much more money do you want?  What kind of new car do you want?  How much more reading do you want to do?  Make it as specific as possible before you go any further.

It is even better if you write it in the present tense. So, instead of saying “I want to lose ______ pounds.” Write it this way: “I weigh ______.” Our brains help us create what we see as a reality.

Two clarifying questions about your focus goal:

Question 1: What is the purpose of reaching this goal?

Now that you have made your goal clear and specific, let’s get clear about what this goal will do for you.  Ask yourself this question:  What is the purpose of reaching this goal?  In other words, what can this goal do for me?  How will my life be different after reaching this goal?  Will reaching this goal make my life better or worse? What is the purpose of reaching this goal?  The reason you must ask this question is that first, there is no reason to strive for a goal that has no purpose.  Second, it helps you focus on the benefits of the goal which is a motivator for you.  There will be times when you feel like giving up.  If, during those times, you make the effort to focus on the benefit of the goal rather than the trouble of getting there, it will often motivate you to keep going.

Question 2: Will this goal help me reach my purpose?

The second question you need to ask yourself is “Will this goal help me reach my purpose?”  Every focus goal must help you reach your purpose in some way.  If it does not, then it cannot be one of your focus goals.  Your life purpose is your ultimate focus.  So, if your focus goal does not move you in that direction then your whole life is out of focus which means it is not a “focus” goal.  Did that make sense?  I hope so.

Your whole life is about following your God-given purpose.  Any goal that does not move you in that direction does not need to be a focus goal.  You can still have it on your “Be, Do, Have” or dream list and you can still reach and accomplish this goal (as long as it does not take you away from fulfilling your life purpose) but it just does not deserve your focused attention.

 

Once you have run your focus goal through the focus goal filter you are ready to give it your focused attention. Remember, genius has been described as the “ability to focus on one thing at a time.” Do not try to have a whole list of focus goals. Pick one you can give all of your attention.

 


I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life,  design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Schedule your free session here.  If you don’t do it now, you may never make this a priority.  Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

 

 

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Organized Dreaming – 5 Real Steps to Turn Your Dreams Into Reality

When I first got into personal development material, 20 years ago, I got frustrated with all the numerous steps that each author or speaker would teach. I decided I would take all the audios and books on goals and try to find the few characteristics that they all had in common. Then, I did a Bible study on goals. I came up with five simple steps to achieving your goals…Sort of…

This is what I call…Organized Dreaming!

Before we get into the five steps of goal achievement, we need to come up with our “Be, Do, Have” lists.  Some people call it their “dream list.”  It does not matter what you call it as long as you make one.  I offer these FREE worksheets on my website or make your own.  Here is how it works.

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Get three sheets of paper.  At the top of the first page write “Be”, on the top of the second, write “Do” and on top of the third, write “Have.”  Then go back to the page labeled “Be” and begin to write down everything you want to “be.”  I mean everything!  Do not hold anything back, just let your imagination run wild.  This is a brainstorming exercise so there are no wrong answers.  Write down the crazy, the mundane; the big, the little; the simple, the far-fetched; the ordinary, the extraordinary… write it all!

When you can no longer think of anything to write on your “Be” list, then go to your “Do” list and write down everything you want to “do.”  Then go to your “Have” list and write down everything you want to “have.”  Remember, there are no wrong answers so let your imagination run wild.  Some of your answers will be comical and others will be inspiring… all because of your imagination, and remember, the most powerful nation in the world is… Imagination!

Once you have finished doing all three pages, keep those with you for at least 24 – 48 hours so that when you get another idea you can quickly write it down before you forget it.  Continue to let your imagination run wild. Write down even the silly stuff, until you just can’t think of anything else you would like to be, do, or have.  Remember, you can always go back and add to this list for the rest of your life.  As a matter of fact, I encourage you to do so.

focus-mattersNow it is time to pick a focus goal! Out of your three lists of goals, pick one from each list.  If you could only keep one, this is the one you would choose. This should leave you with three goals, one from each list. Now, out of the three selected, pick one goal. Once you pick one goal from your “Be, Do, Have” list (or dream list), you are ready to go through the goals program which includes these five steps:

G.O.A.L.S.

  1. Goal: Write down your focus goal.
  2. Obstacles: What is keeping you from reaching this goal?
  3. Action Steps: How do I overcome each obstacle?
  4. Little Bit O’ Help: Who and what is going to help me?
  5. Set a Date: A goal without a date is not really a goal.

That is it! 5 simple steps to achieving your goals. Five simple steps to making your dreams come true!  Now what?

I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life,  design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Schedule your free session here.  If you don’t do it now, you may never make this a priority.  Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Click Here for 2 free goal-setting helps:  “Dream List” and “Goal-Setting Funsheet”

Subscribe to the YouTube channel to get notified when new videos are posted!


_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

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Never Settle – My secret formula to success and accomplishing goals.

Are you on track for reaching your 2017 goals?

What? Did you not set any?  It’s never too late to get started.

Listen as I reveal my secret formula to success in setting and accomplishing goals.

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I speak to and train individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential. My high-content presentations empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever thought possible. I am an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. I connect well with audiences and individuals inspiring them to take action.

     I speak to various organizations of various sizes, providing the tools to help you follow your dreams to reach your potential.  Contact me below.

 

 

Can Life Coaches Help With Anxiety And Depression?

anxiety           Some would say that life coaching should not be used to overcome anxiety and/or depression. Others would claim that life coaching interventions can be used for mild to moderate anxiety or depression.

Most life coaches and other professionals in the behavioral sciences would agree that any clients experiencing anxiety or depression that are clinical or suicidal in nature should be handled by a licensed therapist. Therefore, a life coach must be willing to refer a client dealing with serious anxiety and depression issues.

David Rock and Linda J. Page (2009), in their book Coaching with the Brain in Mind, give some direction in how a life coach could work with someone experiencing anxiety or depression. In dealing with anxiety, Rock and Page (2009) encourage coaches to help clients get through their anxiety by modifying their beliefs to be more in line with their behavior.anxiety2

The concept of cognitive dissonance, first described by Leon Festinger (1919-1989), is when someone’s beliefs and actions seem to contradict. To have a client modify their beliefs to better fit their behavior would help them relieve the anxiety.

Coaches can also help reduce anxiety by helping them get clear about their goals.  This helps the client focus, reduce uncertainty, and restore calmness.

“We reduce anxiety and the sense of being overwhelmed that comes from the amygdala’s response to uncertainty. As the amygdala is calmed, cognitive functions such as working memory may be energized” (Rock & Page, 2009, p. 255). They also give the following suggestions when working with clients dealing with anxiety:

  • When anxiety strikes, your breathing may become shallow and quick. You can control the anxiety by controlling your breathing. Inhale slowly through your nose, breathing deeply from your belly, not your chest.
  • Stress will make your body tight and stiff. You can counter the effects of stress on body and brain if you relax your muscles.
  • Try positive imagery. Create an image that is relaxing, such as visualizing yourself on a secluded beach (2009, p. 340).

Depression Though depression can be more than a life coach is trained to work with, Rock and Page (2009) give this suggestion when coaching someone with mild to moderate depression:  Encourage the client to develop some level of exercise routine they are comfortable with doing.

According to Rock and Page, the United Press International did a study and reported “that half of patients suffering from long-term depression felt substantial improvement after a 10-day exercise program” (2009, p. 127). According to Rock and Page exercise also helps prevent depression from returning, releases endorphins which help people relax and feel better, and helps people’s thoughts organize themselves.

Life coaches must be careful not to work outside of their skillset. However, when working with mild to moderate anxiety and depression there are some interventions they can practice to help their clients overcome.

Reference
Rock, D. & Page, L, J. (2009). Coaching with the brain in mind: Foundations for practice. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

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I help clients address lack of focus, self-confidence, and other roadblocks while defining their dreams, identifying changes they want to make and discovering their passions.  With more than 20 years of experience and a master’s degree in life coaching, my mission is to equip and empower clients to climb to their untapped potential.

Primary Specialties: Entrepreneurial Coaching, Leadership Coaching, Goals Coaching
Secondary Specialties:  Marriage Coaching, Ministry Leadership Coaching, Public Speaking Coaching

 

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Follow Your God-Given Dreams

Helen Keller was once asked if there was anything she could think of that was worse than being blind.helen keller.png
John Maxwell defines vision as “a picture of the future that stirs up passion within you.” Do you have vision? Do you have a picture of your future that stirs up a passion within you? The best way to predict the future is to create it.

futureWhat do you believe God’s dream or vision for you may be? Through prayer, reflection, feedback from those who know you best, Bible reading, you can discover your passion. God created you for a reason, for a purpose, for a dream. God has a dream he wants to accomplish through you.

Are you up for the challenge? It will not be easy. It will not always be smooth, but it is where you will live your life to the fullest extent. If you want to climb to your God-given potential, you must discover what God’s dream is for you and then pursue it.

Bruce Wilkinson says, “If you do not follow your God-given dream something significantly important will not happen.”

Several years ago the Statler Brothers had a song called “The Class of ‘57” Some of the lyrics went like this:

class 1957Tommy’s selling used cars, Nancy’s fixing hair
Harvey runs a grocery store and Margaret doesn’t care
Jerry drives a truck for Sears and Charlotte’s on the make
And Paul sells life insurance and part-time real estate.

And the class of ’57 had its dreams
Oh, we all thought we’d change the world with our great works and deeds
Or maybe we just thought the world would change to fit our needs
The class of ’57 had its dreams.

Betty runs a trailer park, Jan sells Tupperware
Randy’s in an insane ward and Mary’s on welfare
Charlie took a job with Ford and Joe took Freddie’s wife
Charlotte took a millionaire and Freddie took his life.

And the class of ’57 had its dreams
But living life day to day is never like it seems
Things get complicated when you get past eighteen
But the class of ’57 had its dreams
Oh, the class of ’57 had its dreams.

(Songwriters DDN REID, HAROLD REID Published by Lyrics © BMG RIGHTS MANAGEMENT US, LLC)

dreams lostMost of the time we do not need to discover our dreams. We typically know what they are, we have just buried them somewhere inside our mind and soul where we do not see them anymore.

Pull them out! Re-discover why God put you on this planet. Do not let the realities of life steal your God-given dreams.

What are some of your God-given dreams?

_MG_6355Do you need help figuring out your God-given passion and how to follow it?  Register here to schedule a free 50-60 minute discovery call at your convenience.

Tommy Lanham is a coach, leadership training expert, instructor, motivator, and a believer in Jesus. He is an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. He connects with his audience inspiring them to take action.

He speaks to various organizations, providing the tools to help you follow your God-given dream to reach your God-designed potential.  

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What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

never give up 2A few years ago I was heading out of Roanoke, Virginia and I saw a billboard that I will never forget. There was a bird, I think it was a crane, with a frog in his mouth. The only part of the frog you could see were the arms, legs, and the lump in the bird’s throat. The frog’s legs were dangling lifelessly. However, the arms of the frog were full of life as he had a death grip around the throat of that bird just below the lump. The words at the top of the billboard read,

NEVER GIVE UP!

That is my encouragement to you, “never give up!” No matter how hard times may get, never give up 4“never give up!” No matter how many times you have failed, remember to get back up and keep on trying. Failure just gives you the opportunity to begin again more intelligently, so, “never give up!” Remember to fail forward and not backward. Learn, grow, and go and “never give up!” The one thing we all have in common is failure. Failure is an event it is not a person. You may have failed, but you are not a failure, “never give up!”

When people are telling you that you cannot do it, when people are laughing at you
because you want to try it one more time, even when you begin to tell yourself that you are not good enough, change those negative failure messages to positive success messages and “never give up!”

never give up3When the only light you can see at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train, keep going and “never give up!” When people put you down and make fun of you because you have the fortitude and determination to live the exceptional life instead of the average, mediocre life, “never give up!” When things are so bad that all you can see is the inside of huge bird’s esophagus… “Never give up!”

You have a focused enthusiasm for exceptional living that unfocused, boring, mediocre existers just don’t have. Do not let them drag you down to their level of unfocused, boring, mediocre deadness. Remain focused, enthusiastic, exceptional and alive as you fail your way to success.

The secret of success is: If you fall down seven times, get up eight.
That is it.
That is what it takes.
So no matter what:

nevergiveup

 

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Tommy Lanham is a coach, leadership training expert, instructor, motivator, and a believer in Jesus. He is an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. He connects with his audience inspiring them to take action.

He speaks to various organizations, providing the tools to help you follow your God-given dream to reach your God-designed potential.  

Visit the website:     www.TommyLanham.com  

 

5 Simple Steps to Turn a Generic Goal Into a Focus Goal

Many people do not follow through on their goals because we often make reaching goals too complicated. Reaching goals, or resolutions, has become a joke rather than a motivation. Would you become more motivated if there was a simpler way? There is a better way and you can use a simple acronym of the word G.O.A.L.S. to make it happen!

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Choose a goal that stirs up enough passion in you that you are not going to give up when it
gets difficult because it will get difficult. Write down the goal and see if you can make it more specific, measurable, positive, and present tense. For instance, instead of saying, “I want to lose weight.” Change it:

Specific and measurable: “I want to lose 20 pounds.”
Positive: “I will weigh 175.”
Present tense: “I weigh 175.”

  1. Obstacles

Identify what obstacles stand in the way of achieving your focus goal. Write them down. You must write down your obstacles in order to identify what you need to overcome. Obstacles are stepping stones toward your focus goal. You can’t climb a smooth mountain.

  1. Action Steps

After you have written your focus goal in a specific, measurable, positive, and present tense way and you have listed your obstacles, then you are ready to write down your action steps. Write down at least one action step to overcome each obstacle. When possible, write down a completion date for each action step.

  1. Little Bit Of Help

Who and what can help you reach your focus goal? Do not try to make this journey alone. Having help will not guarantee your success, but not having help almost always guarantees your failure. What people, books, training, institutions, Google searches, etc. can help you reach your focus goal? If you are really serious about achieving your focus goal, consider hiring a coach.

  1. Set A Date

Goals are really just dreams with dates on them. A goal without a date is not really a goal. At best, it is a dream that has the potential of becoming a goal. At worst, it is simply a wish you will never take any action toward. Set a date! If you have to re-adjust it later, that is okay! But set a date so you have something to aim for right now!

Here is the secret to achieving your focus goal: If you fall down seven times, get up eight! You will fail along the way.  Get back up! Keep going! Never give up! Remember some of the people on your ‘Little Bit Of Help’ list and get some encouragement from them. In order to help keep yourself motivated and focused, make sure you do something every day towards your focus goal.

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Tommy Lanham is an author, speaker, pastor, and coach. He travels to churches and other organizations to speak on goals, priority management, faith, and other related topics. If you would like to find out more about Tommy’s speaking and coaching please visit his website:www.TommyLanham.com

For a deeper look at this 5-step process, check out Tommy’s book!

5 Benefits of Working Toward Goals Plus One Bonus!

5 Benefits of Working Toward Goals Plus One Bonus!

goalWhy all the hoopla about goals this time of year? Well, David G. Jensen, Chief Administrative Officer at the Crump Institute of Biological Imaging for the UCLA School of Medicine, did a study and found that people who set goals and develop a plan of action to reach those goals experience six specific benefits.

  1. You are more enthusiastic

As you move toward your goals, it creates an enthusiasm inside of you. Having a goal to move toward is motivating. There is just something exciting about seeing yourself make progress in reaching a goal.

  1. You have better healthhealth

What a person becomes in moving toward a goal is even more important than reaching that goal. If you set a goal to reach a certain weight and you only get half way there, at least you are better off than you were before you started. Plus your goal becomes much more reachable.

  1. You have better performance

Those who have goals and a plan of action to reach those goals perform better in their careers. Most employers want somebody who is goal- oriented because they get more done. If you are an entrepreneur, your business is more likely to succeed if you have some goals you are working toward.

  1. You have a happier marriage

Logo-happy-mariageOften times people set personal goals, physical goals, career goals, but what about marriage goals? Setting some relationship goals with your spouse can help improve your marriage satisfaction.

  1. You are more satisfied with life and work

Having a goal to work toward gives meaning and reason for existence. As you work toward your goal you begin to see the progress and it gives you more satisfaction. When you achieve a goal you can see the difference that it makes in you and the people around you.

Bonus: You make more money!

That is true folks. David G. Jensen found in his study that people who set goals and develop a plan of action to reach those goals earn an average of $4,000 more a month. Now, money isn’t everything, but as Zig Ziglar says, “It is reasonably close to oxygen.” $4,000 more a month may seem unrealistic to some (it depends on how goal oriented you already are) but just think if Jensen is half wrong…That is still an extra $2,000 more a month. What would you do with an extra $24,000 a year?

Are these benefits enough for you to start working toward some goals? Are they enough to get you motivated? Regardless of who you are, I would be willing to say there is at least one of those six benefits you would like to have true in your life.

 

lowres07Tommy Lanham is an author, speaker, pastor, and coach. He travels to churches and other organizations to speak on goals, priority management, faith, and other related topics. If you would like to find out more about Tommy’s speaking and coaching please visit his website: www.TommyLanham.com