How To Deal With Weird People

My parents were there when my first child was born.  They had raised five children of their own.  I asked them, “What parenting advice do you have for someone just starting out?” My Dad looked at me and said, “Raise them according to their personality…That is where I went wrong with you.” I was not sure exactly how to take that, but then he continued, “I raised you like a typical little boy. Little did I know my son was growing up with the heart of a poet.”

That was a powerful moment in my life. I have tried to live out my Dad’s advice, not only in raising my children but in every other area of life as well. It has helped me be a better parent, spouse, employee, leader, minister, speaker, coach, and friend.

Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

Here is a brief overview of the four major personality styles and how to best work with each:

 

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George Washington was a “Heart”.

 

HEART

  • Security-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Past
  • Biblical Example: Moses
  • Desires: Connection and Accomplishment
  • Trusts: Authority
  • Characteristics: Dependable and Cautious

When working with Hearts, keep in mind they are motivated by schedules and timelines. They typically enjoy having timelines to get tasks accomplished. They will sometimes get stuck or at least sidetracked whenever they feel they are not in control of the situation. Schedules and to-do lists can help them feel like they have more control. The way to get a heart back on task is to encourage them to stop organizing and get started. Sometimes Hearts try to gain so much control they lose track of the goal.

 

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Michael Jordan is a “Body”.

BODY

 

  • Thrill-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Present
  • Biblical Example: Peter
  • Desires: Fun and Activity
  • Trust: Their Impulses
  • Characteristics: Fun-loving and Spontaneous

When working with Bodies, keep in mind they are motivated by fun and excitement. They typically will do whatever they feel will be fun. They will sometimes get stuck or sidetracked if they get bogged down with what they feel is too long-term or boring. With their time focus on the now, they need to know they can do something now. The best way to get Bodies back on track is to help them find the fun in it. They will work harder than anybody if they find some kind of excitement in what they are doing.

 

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Princess Diana was a “Soul”.

SOUL

 

  • Identity-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Future
  • Biblical Example: Barnabas
  • Desires: Meaning and Purpose
  • Trusts: Their Intuition
  • Characteristics: Enthusiastic and On a Spiritual Journey

When working with Souls, keep in mind they are motivated by meaning and developing people. They typically enjoy doing something that will have long-term benefits for others. They can become stuck if they do not connect value or meaning to a task. Souls must see the connection between what they are trying to accomplish and the long-term effects. Sometimes, in order for Souls to get back on task, they need to take a mental break or to simply work in solitude. Because Souls sometimes live in their own little world, they may have to visit that world in order to gain momentum.

 

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Albert Einstein was a “Mind”.

MIND
 

  • Knowledge-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Intervals
  • Biblical Example: Paul
  • Desires: Individuality and Efficiency
  • Trusts: Logic
  • Characteristics: Strong-willed and Skeptical

When working with Minds, remember they are motivated by intellectual challenges like how to improve something or solve a problem. Just like Bodies like to work with their bodies, so Minds like to work with their minds. Minds can sometimes get stuck because they over-analyze to the point they do not complete the task. Sometimes they can simply think themselves out of doing. In order for Minds to get back on track, they may need to take some time alone. Similar to the Souls, Minds need time alone with their thoughts.

The important thing to realize is that we are all different. What motivates you may not be the same thing that motivates someone else. We all see things differently. The goal is not to get other people to be more like you. It is to better understand your tendencies and other’s tendencies so everyone can bring their unique selves to whatever may be taking place.

God made us all different for a reason. If there are two people just alike then one of them is a waste. Remember other peoples’ tendencies whether you are parenting, leading, being a spouse, a team member, an employee, or a friend. Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

If you want to dig a little deeper, my 1-hour training DVD “How to Talk to Weird People” may be a great resource for you.


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Where There Is No Vision, The People Perish

life1We find different people throughout the Bible who followed their God-given, specific purpose. Abraham became the father of a nation just like God called him to do. Abraham was the father of Isaac, who was the father of Jacob whose name was changed to Israel. Yes, that Israel. The Israel that became a nation through the line of Abraham. David became the nation of Israel’s second king. Acts 13:36, says; “For when David had served God’s purpose in his own generation, he fell asleep” (NIV). “Fell asleep” is the Bible’s nice way of saying he died. David fulfilled God’s purpose for him while on this earth.

Nehemiah served his specific purpose of rebuilding Jerusalem’s wall and restoring the hope of his people. Ester was given a purpose of saving her people. Ester 4:14, says; “For if you remain silent at this time, relief and deliverance for the Jews will arise from another place, but you and your father’s family will perish. And who knows but that you have come to royal position for such a time as this” (NIV). Maybe God has you in a position right now for such a time as this. I would encourage you to read Ester’s story in its entirety.

purpose2Peter fulfilled his purpose in being a leader in the early church. Paul fulfilled his purpose of being an apostle to the Gentiles (those who were not Jewish). There are numerous examples of people in the Bible following their God-given, specific purpose.

Proverbs 29:18, says; “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (KJV). Tony Campolo says, “The world is not so much sinful as it is dead.” Part of the reason that people are walking around in the world, and even in the church, like dead people is because they have no vision, no God-given purpose for existing. They are what Zig Ziglar used to call a “wandering generality instead of a meaningful specific.”

life.jpgI believe John 10:10 gives us two specific purpose statements. Jesus is speaking in this verse and he says, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full” (NIV). The first is the purpose statement of Satan. The reason for his existence is to steal, kill, and destroy everything that is good in your life and especially your hope of eternal life. Jesus’ whole purpose for existing is to give you life and to give it to the full. The King James Version words it this way, “Life more abundantly”. The Message says, “so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of”.

That is why “It’s in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for” (Ephesians 1:11, The Message). It is only in Jesus we find out our specific purpose. To not have that purpose is deadening. To discover and follow that purpose is life to the full; life more abundantly; it is real and eternal life, more and better life than we ever dreamed of!

Helen Keller said it well when asked if there was anything worse than being blind and she replied, “Yes, being able to see and having no vision.” If you would like some specific steps in discovering your God-given purpose please look at my last blog: 5 Clues to Uncover Your N.I.C.H.E.

 

 


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Motivated by Fear

Moses dealt with fear. Moses was asked by God to lead the nation of Israel out of slavery. He immediately began coming up with excuses why he could not do it.

However, through the conversation he had with God he was able to break through the fear and do what God asked him to do. Not without some great reluctance along the way, but he did what God asked him to do in spite of the fear.

No excuse is more important than following God into something big.
Image result for break through fear imagesOne of Jesus’ closest followers, Peter, was so scared he denied even knowing Jesus. Jesus had invested approximately three years of his life with Peter. He trained Peter, molded and shaped Peter, and cared for him as one of his closest friends and Peter denies even knowing him. Why? Fear!

Yet Peter went on to do great things for Jesus. He was a leader in the early church that helped the church turn into a movement. He became a pillar of the Christian movement. History tells us that Peter actually lost his life because of his devout devotion to Jesus. Peter overcame his fear through action and love.

Fear can cripple us or it can motivate us. At one point it crippled Peter. But as he took action, that same fear motivated him.

When Mary was first told she would be the Mother of Jesus she was terrified. She was simply a teenager with her whole life ahead of her and then all the sudden she gets the responsibility of being the Mother of the Son of God, the very savior of the world. How is that for a sudden change of events? Yet she accepted the call that God had given her. She stepped up and stepped forward regardless of the fear she faced. She overcame her fear in obedience to God.
Image result for break through fear imagesWhat call has God given you that you are afraid to act on? It is okay to be afraid, it is not okay to be controlled by that fear. Just like Peter, decide to be motivated by your fear. Press on toward the goal to which God has called you heavenward in Christ Jesus!

What step will you take today in the face of your fears?

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What Will You Do With Failure?

  • what will you doHave you ever failed?  Have you ever failed to the point that you didn’t know what to do next?

    We are going to look at two people in the Bible that failed bigtime! Their names were Judas and Peter.

    They both failed miserably, but how they handled their own failure was dramatically different. Both Judas and Peter spent around three years traveling with and learning from Jesus.

    Picture this:


    Judas

    Judas was part of the twelve closest people to Jesus. However, Judas betrayed Jesus in a way that eventually led to Jesus’ death. The chief priests paid Judas thirty pieces of silver to take them to and identify Jesus so they could arrest him. Their plan worked. Jesus was arrested and eventually killed.

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    After Judas realized what he had done he was so filled with remorse that he could no longer live with himself. He returned the silver coins, ran away and committed suicide. The pain of having betrayed the man who had taught, mentored, and loved him over the past three years was more than Judas could bear.

    Death was the only relief he could think of.


    Peter

    Peter was also part of the twelve closest people to Jesus. He was possibly one Jesus’ closest three disciples. After Jesus was arrested, Peter followed from a distance to see what was going to happen.  Three times someone recognized Peter as a follower of Jesus. Three times he denied even knowing who Jesus was. Peter became so frustrated with people recognizing him, he even began to curse and swear.

    Peter had failed Jesus. After Peter realized what he had done, he wept bitterly.

    Peter repented of his failure. Less than two months later Peter preached a message about Jesus (who by this time had risen from the dead and ascended back into heaven) that caused about 3,000 people to have their lives changed forever, eternally.

    Peter went on to be a leader; biblical author; and a person who did great, life-transforming work for God.

  • What made the difference?

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    What will you do with your failure?

    (If you would like to read the stories about Judas and Peter in more detail you can find their stories in the Bible: Matthew 26:47-27:10; Acts 2:14-41.)

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