Third Roadblock : Fear; Blockbuster: Faith

I have been helping dreamers, believers, and achievers climb to their God-given potential for almost 25 years and the most frequently mentioned roadblock with people I have worked with is…fear. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of losing friends, fear of what others may think, fear of stepping out of their comfort zone, the list goes on and on. Fear is the number one roadblock I have seen for those not climbing to their God-given potential. People are often paralyzed by fear.

Several years ago I heard this acronym for fear:

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False

Evidence

Appearing

Real

Most of the fear that keeps people from moving forward is based on speculation at best and complete falsehoods at worst. True story: Several years ago, a man hijacked a plane. He had a box with a bar of soap in it and he told the pilot he had a bomb and to turn the plane around and go to Cuba. The pilot turned the plane around and he went to Cuba.

The evidence was false, but it appeared very real.

So, what is the blockbuster used to bust through the roadblock of fear? Faith! “Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see” (Hebrews 11:1, NIV). Faith will not eliminate fear, but it will give us the courage to move forward in spite of our fear. Everyone experiences fear. It is what we do in the midst of that fear that will be the determining factor in whether or not we reach our God-given potential.

Here is an acronym for faith:

faith1Fearless

Attitude

Inspiring

Troubled

Hearts

Having the faith and trust in God to move forward in the midst of our fears will also inspire others to do the same. As an introvert, I have had to overcome many internal fears in order to follow the plan and purpose God has for me. Faith has made the difference not only in me but also in those I have worked with over the years.

About five or six years ago, I used these acronyms as a Facebook post. Someone commented that the acronyms were cheesy, corny, and trite. Maybe they are, I don’t know. I do know they have helped me put both fear and faith in the right perspective and that has helped me climb to my God-given potential. So, if I need a little corn and cheese to please God then, by all means, bring on the corn and cheese!

I will say that several people came to my defense on that post. The one who made the comment did not put any additional comments. I have no hard feelings toward the one who made the comment. I am saying that what one person may roll their eyes at, another person may take and apply to their lives and it makes all the difference in the world.

I am a simple person and often times simple principles are what help me the most. So, if you feel these acronyms are too corny or cheesy to be helpful, then go ahead and roll your eyes, give a little smirk, and then find something that is helpful for you. Do whatever it takes to climb to your God-given potential.

However, if you are like me and these simple truths help get you closer to your God-given potential, then embrace them. The important thing is not that you like my blogs, videos, books, and teachings. The important thing is that you find the tools to help you climb to your God-given potential!


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Second Roadblock: Procrastination; Blockbuster: Discipline

Back in 2006, I lost 25 pounds. One of the quotes that helped me in that journey was a quote by Zig Ziglar, “Never trade what you want most for what you want now.” That quote fueled my journey to becoming a healthier person. Let me explain what it did for me.

discipline3My favorite food is ice cream. I love to have me a nice, good size bowl, of ice cream. As a matter of fact, if I ever decided to end my life I would just eat ice cream until I exploded. Wow, what a way to go!

However, I knew if I were going to lose weight and get healthy I could not just eat ice cream anytime I wanted. When it was in the house or I was somewhere where it was being sold, all I could think about was eating that ice cream…I mean…It is just that good!

discipline2So, whenever ice cream was around I had to decide. Would I stay focused on what I wanted most which was to lose weight and be healthier or would I eat the ice cream which was what I wanted now? Would I trade what I wanted most (to be healthier and lighter) for what I wanted now (a delicious bowl of that ice cream)? It was sometimes a difficult situation to be in, but the fact I lost 25 pounds and became much healthier should give you a clue as to what choice I made.

In the last blog, we discussed the first roadblock to climbing to your God-given potential: denial, and the blockbuster for it: positive self-talk. In this blog let’s look at the second roadblock, procrastination. So many of us are going to do this or we intend on doing that. At New Year’s, we make all these resolutions and we seldom keep any. The term “resolution” has actually become a joke. I do not even use that word.

Besides, if you want to make a significant difference in your life, why wait until the New Year… do it now! Procrastination and reaching your potential do not go together. If you are going to make a significant change in your life, it must be done immediately and enthusiastically.

So, what is the blockbuster to the roadblock of procrastination? DISCIPLINE. Yep, that is it. Discipline.

disciplineHow do we develop discipline? Well, I am glad you asked, “Never trade what you want most for what you want now.” That is it.

If it is something you really want most, then why trade it for something less just because it is more immediate? Never settle for something just because it brings instant but temporary gratification. Focus on doing that which will bring you long lasting and more significant gratification.

To me, nothing tastes as good as being fit feels. I still love to eat ice cream and from time to time I do. If it starts getting out of hand, I just cut it out completely for a period of time. On two different occasions, I have cut out sweets completely for 12 months. I am presently cutting them out for one month in preparation for a race I’m running in August. There are times I really want those sweets, but what I want more is to be as prepared as I possibly can for that race. I am not trading what I want most for what I want now.

discipline5Fred Smith, the founder of Federal Express, said this, “You are the way you are because that’s the way you want to be. If you really wanted to be any different, you would be in the process of changing right now.” We can talk a good talk, but what are we already doing about being the person we want to be? What are you already doing to climb to your God-given potential?

Bust through that roadblock of procrastination with the blockbuster of discipline. The discipline to do that which you want to do. The discipline to climb to your God-given potential!


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How the Bible Says to Build Winning Relationships

1 Thessalonians 5:12-18, is one of the best passages I have ever read when it comes to building winning relationships.

Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you. Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other. And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else.

Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus. (NIV).

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Let us respect those who work hard among us, especially those who serve us as leaders. Leadership is not an easy task. Leaders will make mistakes. Be gentle with them.

We must do whatever we can to live at peace with everyone. We cannot control what others do. We can only control what we do in response.

We must be gentle and patient with those who seem to not “get it” or struggle along. As the stronger person, if that is the case, then we have more responsibility to create peace than they do. May we take the high road.

Always do what is good for others even if they are not doing the same for us. Someone has to set the standard. If we dumb down to their level of thinking and acting then we have allowed them to set our standard. Let us set our own higher standard.

Bring a sense of excitement, joy, and enthusiasm to every situation. In most cases, others will either join in or leave. They will typically only fight you for so long.

This passage is great wisdom for how to build winning relationships. Remember, everything is about relationships. If we can build winning relationships we will be winners in others areas of life as well.

Here is the same passage in another translation:

And now, friends, we ask you to honor those leaders who work so hard for you, who have been given the responsibility of urging and guiding you along in your obedience. Overwhelm them with appreciation and love!

Get along among yourselves, each of you doing your part. Our counsel is that you warn the freeloaders to get a move on. Gently encourage the stragglers, and reach out for the exhausted, pulling them to their feet. Be patient with each person, attentive to individual needs. And be careful that when you get on each other’s nerves you don’t snap at each other. Look for the best in each other, and always do your best to bring it out.

Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live (1 Thessalonian 5:12-18. The Message).


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How I Went From a 6th-grade Flunky to 4.0 Grad Student

_mg_7209About a year ago I wrote a blog about how I went from a 6th-grade flunky who always struggled academically to a student that excelled in a Master’s program with a 4.0 GPA. Someone made the comment that the school must not have been very good if someone who always struggled academically was able to do so well. I think his insinuation was that it was not a “real” Masters from a “real” school.

However, the school where I got my Master’s is Liberty University. It is a highly respected Division I university. Also, out of over 4,660 post-secondary schools, only 335 are have achieved the academic distinction of being a Doctoral University. Liberty is one of those 335 universities. In other words, Liberty has high academic standards.

So, if my transformation in academic performance was not due to weak academic standards, then what was the reason? There are probably several reasons, but the biggest reason was the picture I had of myself had changed. Once the picture I had of myself changed, then my performance changed which changed my results.

Most of my academic life, I saw myself as an average student at best. As long as I saw myself that way, that is the way I was going to perform. When my picture of myself changed, so did my performance.

entrepreneur successHow did that picture change?

  1. I started listening to positive information about myself.
    We live in a negative world and people often feed us negative information. When I started listening to and reading Zig Ziglar, John Maxwell, Brian Tracy, Dennis Waitley, Jack Lannom (no relation because he spells his name funny), and many others I began to see myself in a new light. After hearing Zig Ziglar say over and over and over, “You were born to win!” I began to believe it.
  2. I changed from negative to positive self-talk.
    We all talk to ourselves. Some of you right now are saying, “I don’t talk to myself. He is crazy. I never talk to myself.” We all talk to ourselves. However, most of the things we say to ourselves are negative. “I am only an average student.” I can’t do this.” “I can never get this done.” “I am just not cut out for this.” When I changed my self-talk from negative to positive, I began to see myself in a more positive light.
  3. Success of a 6th Grade FlunkyI surrounded myself with a positive environment.
    I began hanging around people who see themselves in a positive way. I am not talking about people that think they are better than everybody else. Most of the time, those people have a very low picture of themselves and the arrogance is an act or an overcompensation. I am talking about people who have such a healthy, positive picture of themselves they have no need to put others down. Actually, these are the kind of people that lift others up.

One of the best ways to climb to your God-given potential is to see yourself as a successful climber. The more you picture yourself as being there (wherever “there” may be for you), the more likely you are to be there.

What are you going to do to have a more positive picture of yourself?


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How Lighting Barbie’s Hair on Fire Changed My Life

t03When I was 4 years old, I lived on Vermont Street in northern Kentucky, just south of Cincinnati. My parents had discussed moving back to Keavy, in the London-Corbin area of Kentucky where they grew up.  One day I helped them make that decision.

I took one of my older sister’s Barbie dolls and a lighter and I walked into my mom and dad’s bedroom. I took the lighter and set the Barbie doll’s hair on fire. Then I laid Barbie on my mom and dad’s bed.  I walked into the family room, sat down, and began watching television. (Don’t worry, no one was in the bed at the time.)

There were several people over our house that evening. All the adults were in the kitchen and many of them were smoking. I suspect that because they were smoking it took them a little longer to notice the house filling with smoke from my mom and dad’s bedroom. (See how dangerous smoking cigarettes can be?)

The whole bedroom was in flames before anybody noticed. Then, the panic took place. I remember very little of what happened next.

The house became unlivable for a while and my parents made the decision to go ahead and move back to Keavy. Oh, a side note – while we lived in northern Kentucky, we seldom went to church. That changed when we moved back to Keavy.

locust-grove.jpegMy mom took me and my sister to the church where she had gone to church before moving away. My grandparents were still going there at the time. It was there at this small church called Locust Grove Christian Church in Keavy, Kentucky that I began to learn about a man named Jesus. I may not have ever received consistent teaching about Jesus if I had not lit Barbie’s hair on fire. Hmm…

As I grew up in this church, I began to learn more and more about Jesus and other parts of the Bible. When I was 14 years old, I made a decision to follow Jesus. I was on fire and ready to change the world.

However, something very bad happened to me six months after I decided to follow Jesus…Jr. High School! At the time, my Jr. High was 8th and 9th grade. Spiritually this was a devastating time for me.

Even though I continued to go to church, be active in my church youth group, and even preach my first sermon at 15 years of age, my devotion to Jesus was not very strong. At times it was probably non-existent. I was not walking my talk.

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During my sophomore year of high school, I could no longer live the lie. I had to make a decision to either follow Jesus or give up on this Christian stuff altogether. I could no longer live with the tension of trying to do both, so I chose.

I chose to follow Jesus! At this point, I became committed to growing in my relationship with Jesus. By the time I was a senior in high school I had made the decision to go to Johnson Bible College (now Johnson University) to prepare for ministry.

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After squeezing four years of college into six, I became a minister in a church that had been split right down the middle for about 20 years before I got there. I was green and ready to change the world!!! And after a year, I left.

I then became an associate/youth minister at a new church plant for about a year. I left there to work at Toyota Motor Manufacting in order to save enough money to go back to school to get a Master’s in Urban Ministry. While I was working at Toyota, the school I was planning on attending closed their Urban Ministry program. So, I used the money I saved to buy an engagement ring, get married, and start a ministry called Upside Down Ministries. Yes, I left a good paying job at Toyota to start a ministry where I would be paid entirely through donations. I just love the way God does things!

My wife and I ran Upside Down Ministries for eight years. I was in my element. I thought, “I want to do this for the rest of my life!” But God had different plans.

After eight years, God called me away from Upside Down Ministries. To be honest, he probably called me away after about six and a half years, but I was too stubborn to listen and I did not want to let it go. That was one of the toughest decisions of my life.

t14After a year and a half of searching, I finally went back into local church ministry. By this time, my wife and I had two kids and I was able to stay home and invest more time with my kids than I could have with Upside Down Ministries. I thought, “I could do this for the rest of my life!” But God had different plans.

t17After seven years of local church ministry, God called me into what I am doing now – helping individuals, churches and other organizations climb to their God-given potential through coaching, leading, instructing and motivating them to believe that with God’s help they can make the climb. I did eventually get my Master’s. Although, at this point, it was not in Urban Ministry. It was in Life Coaching.

Here again, I get to travel but stay home a little more than I did with Upside Down Ministries. I get to connect with you who read my blog, invite me to come and speak, and take advantage of my one-on-one coaching. With every step I take on this God journey, he is helping me to help others in the way that he has best prepared me through my gifts, passions, and abilities.

I love what I do and the more I do it, the more I love it! Sometimes I have trouble going to sleep at night because I am enjoying what I do so much. I enjoy getting up early because of what God has in store for me each day. I did not know that when I decided to follow Jesus it would include all of this! Wow! What a trip!!!

And just think, it all started with lighting Barbie’s hair on fire.

What’s your fire?


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Step 4 to Finding Real Happiness: A Deep Spiritual Connection to God

Over the past few blogs, we have looked at how to find real happiness and joy. To read those blogs please click the links below:

Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

God Did Not Create Us to be Alone/Step 2: Find Someone

Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

Today we will look at the fourth and final step: connect spiritually. The ultimate happiness in life is not discovered until we connect spiritually. The first part of a spiritual connection is to come to know and love Jesus. However, there is more to deeper spiritual connection than just knowing you will go to heaven when you die. There are several practices to help you grow into a deeper spiritual connection with God. There are four that are foundational to spiritual growth and connection.

connection2Bible
Spiritual connection is limited at best if we are not reading the Bible. The Bible gives us direction, connection, and affection. The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us. He wants you to hear his voice, listen to him. The Bible is not so much a rule book as it is a love letter from God. Open it up and find out how much God loves you.

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Prayer
The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us, prayer is the primary way we speak to God. Reading the Bible and prayer is how we have conversations with God. No relationship can grow without authentic communication. If our spiritual connection, our relationship with God, is going to grow, we must have authentic communication with him through reading the Bible and praying to him.

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Fellowship
If we are going to grow in our spiritual connection, we must grow in our connection with other people who desire to grow in their spiritual connection. That sentence may be worth reading again. Jesus established the church, which is our primary place for getting this type of connection. I know, I know, some of you are saying “the church is full of hypocrites and they have lost the meaning of true spirituality”, and there may be some truth to that. However, we often do not hear the positive side of the church. Churches really are most responsible for the positive change that has taken place throughout history. We have done some things very wrong, but we have done much more right. If you want more input on that subject please read “An Open Letter to the Church”.

The church is what Jesus established for his followers to come together for a deeper spiritual connection with him. With all its faults it is still God’s chosen vessel for deep, spiritual relationships. If we want to grow in our relationship with God we must grow in our relationship with other followers of Jesus.

Giving
If we are to grow in our spiritual connection with the ultimate giver…God…We must become givers ourselves. Giving can be our time, talents or treasures. Better yet, it should be all three. One of the best ways to find real happiness is to become a giver. Psychologist Alfred Adler put it this way, “We could be cured of depression in only fourteen days if every day we would try to do something good for somebody else.”

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I encourage you to schedule time to read your Bible. If you do not understand it then look for a different translation that is easier to understand. Here are some of my favorites: New International Version, The Message, and The Voice. If you do not like reading then listen to it. You can get it on CD or even look it up online for free.

Set aside a time of prayer. However, do not limit your prayer time to just scheduled times. Be open to spontaneous prayers as well. My wife and I have scheduled times when we talk, but we are not limited to those times. We spontaneously talk throughout the day as well. It is the same way with God.

If you are not already part of a church then I encourage you to find one. Please do not just attend, get involved. If you can find one that has a strong small groups environment it may help your connection even better.

Look for opportunities to give of your time, talents, and treasures. Give to your church, give to your community, give to your favorite cause, just be a giver. To some extent the more you give, the happier you will be.


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Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

garbage.jpgWhat if I came into your house with a pile of garbage and dumped it all out on your living room floor? What would you do? You may call the police or you may take matters into your own hands and begin pounding some sense into me.  You would at least tell me to “Clean it up.” Depending on how quickly I responded to your demand, you may revert to one of the other two options.

The garbage on your living room floor can be cleaned up with some focused attention. But what about the garbage we pour into our minds on a daily basis? That is not so easily cleaned up. Be careful what goes into your mind.

Over the last two blogs, we have looked at two steps to finding real happiness: Step one is do something and step two is find someone. Today we will look at step three…feed your mind!

garbage 4Most people do not read a single non-fiction book after they finish school. We fill our minds with junk on the radio, T.V., the internet, and numerous other sources; but we do not take the time to fill our minds with good, positive, productive information. If we want to find real happiness, we must become life-long learners.

How many of you believe everything you read in the Bible? Now, how many of you believe everything you read on the internet? Now, I ask you, how many of you spend more time reading what you don’t believe than what you do believe?

I would encourage you to become life-long learners. Read or listen to something that will help you grow and move in the direction of your goals. If you do not have any goals, then maybe you could start with reading GOALS: Godly Objective Assuring Lasting Significance.

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Learn more about whatever it is you do in life. If you are married, read or listen to some books on marriage (The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman) or go to a marriage conference. If you are a parent, read or listen something on parenting (Scream-Free Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel) or go to a parenting class or conference. If you want to grow spiritually, read or listen to something on spiritual growth (The Bible) or go to church. Wherever you are in life or whatever you are doing, learn more about it so you can get better.

I am a speaker and a life coach who helps people climb to their God-given potential. You know what I read and listen to the most? Books and audios on speaking, coaching, and reaching my God-given potential. Those things not only feed my mind, they feed my soul.

If you want to find real happiness, I encourage you to do something, find someone, and feed your mind. Begin or continue your lifelong quest for learning. You may have finished your formal schooling, but if you want to find real happiness and joy, you must never finish your education.

What is the next book you are going to read? Class you are going to take? Audio you are going to listen to? Whatever it is, write it down (message it to me below if you want) and then take action! Buy it, pick it up, press play, whatever you need to do please do it now!


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Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

happy-7.pngSeveral years ago my wife and I went through a series of four classes at our church. Each 2-hour class was offered once a month. The classes were about the purpose and values of the church; how to grow spiritually; how to get involved in ministry at the church, and how to tell other people about Jesus.

Four months later, the teacher of that fourth class asked if we had taken all the other classes. We responded, “Yes.” He asked,  “Well, you know what you have to do now?” My wife and I looked at each other. Then responded, “No, what?” He smiled and said, “Somethin’”.

In a very simple way, that was extremely profound advice. If you want to find true happiness and joy, you must do ‘somethin’. Happiness will not just show up on your doorstep. Get out and take action.

Nothing happens until somethin’ happens. John Maxwell puts it this way, “What separates the developer of a successful dream from a mere daydreamer is committed action.” If you want to be happy, if you want to be successful, if you want to climb to your God-given potential you must get up and do somethin’.

happyIf you have a dream, write down some actions to take and then pick one to do right now. If you are going to make a significant change in your life it must be done immediately and enthusiastically. Do it now and do it with enthusiasm. If it is worth doing then why put it off? Do it now!

If you do not know what to do or maybe you do not have a specific dream to work towards, then just do something constructive. Volunteer with your church or community, go visit someone in the hospital, call someone you have not talked to in a long time. Do somethin’!

Happiness and joy will not find you, it must be sought out. However, if you only self-indulge to make yourself happy, you will never find happiness. If your actions are only for your benefit, then happiness will elude you. The more “others-centered” you become, the bigger difference you will make in your own joy. That is a principle and not a tactic.

So, step one in finding real happiness is “do something”. Tomorrow we will look at step two.  But first, do step one by writing down an action you will take and then get up and do it! DO IT NOW!!  Take a moment and send it to me using the form below…. I’d love to hear your first action step!


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Do You Want to be Happy?

happy 4Are you happy? Do you want to be happy? What are you doing to find real happiness? Most people want to be happy. I have never met anyone who said, “I want to be miserable.”  But we often look for happiness in the wrong places.

John Maxwell tells of the time an interviewer asked his wife, Margret, if John made her happy. John Maxwell smiled as he expected a positive answer to this question, but to his surprise, she said, “No.” He was shocked until she explained; “It is not up to John to make me happy. It is up to me to decide to be happy.” She went on to explain how expecting someone else to make you happy will almost always leave you feeling unhappy.

It is too big of a responsibility to be in charge of someone else’s happiness. That responsibility can only be placed on the individual. In other words, if you want to be happy you have to decide for yourself to be happy.

Thappy 6hat next relationship will not make you happy.
That next promotion or job will not make you happy.
The next move will not make you happy.
Having kids will not make you happy.
Your spouse will not make you happy.

No’thing’ will make you happy long term. You may experience temporary happiness, but eventually, all of these will let you down. If you decide to be happy and joyful then all of these other experiences will actually be a more joyful experience.

happy 9So, the decision is yours. Will you make the decision to be happy? Paul, in Acts 26:2, says; “I think myself happy” (NKJV). Do not expect other people and situations to make you happy, think yourself happy and everything else will be a happier experience.

Over the next four blogs, we will look at four easy steps to finding real happiness.


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Are You Ready to Reevaluate 2017 And Make the Needed Adjustments?

halftimeHow are you doing on your 2017 Goals? You know, those goals you enthusiastically set back in January. How have you progressed? Are you still moving forward? Are your time targets still in line with your progression?

We have entered our sixth month of 2017. This is a great time to look back over your goals and evaluate where you are in comparison to where you want to be and then make adjustments. It is time for your half-time locker room breakdown.

In basketball or football, each team uses half-time to reevaluate where they are, where they want to be, and how to best get there. They may make adjustments in their plan. They discuss new obstacles that may have come into play. Then they go back on the field to reach their goal of winning that game.

half time 1I would encourage you to schedule a half-time sometime this month. Before you start the second half of the 2017 game, evaluate where you are, where you want to be, and make proper adjustments to reach your goal. You may have experienced obstacles in these past six months that you did not anticipate back in January. If so, make adjustments to overcome these new obstacles.

Here are a few tips as you go into the locker room for your half-time:

  • Make sure you distinguish between goals and focus goals.

You may have several goals for the year, but it is impossible to focus on numerous goals at a time. Pick one to four (three is better than four, two is better than three, one is better than two, and zero is better than nothing) focus goals that will get your focused attention no matter what. You may accomplish some of the others as well. The others are not forgotten, but you can only focus your attention on one to four of your goals. Without focus, you are much less likely to accomplish your goals. Do not be impressed with how many goals you have. Be impressed with how far you have come in reaching one or two significant goals. At half-time, teams do not typically discuss the whole season, they focus in on one game. I would encourage you to follow their example.

Here are three tips as you go into the locker room for your half-time evaluation:

  • Get some accountability.

If you are working alone, I encourage you to find someone who will hold you accountable in reaching your goals. It is too easy to justify exceptions when we have no one to hold us accountable. Find someone who cares about you and the goals you have set.half time

Hire a coach. A coach can help you set goals, do more than you would have done on your own, and improve focus as to produce results more quickly. At half-time, a coach helps the team and individual players become clearer, more confident, and maximize their potential. Andy Stanley says this about coaching:

You will never maximize your potential in any area without coaching. It is impossible. You may be good. You may even be better than everyone else. But without outside input, you will never be as good as you could be. We all do better when somebody is watching and evaluating.

We have a tendency to measure ourselves against the people around us. They become our point of reference. A good coach will evaluate your performance against your potential. A coach helps you measure your performance against your strengths instead of against someone else’s. (2003, pp. 104, 106)

A well-trained coach can better help you identify where you are, where you want to be, and how to get there.

  • Make sure you are working your goals through a plan.

It is more than just saying you have a goal. What is your process for achieving your goal or goals? Here is a simple five-step process I developed. I use the word G.O.A.L.S. as an acronym.

G: Goal-Write down your focus goal. There is a psychological effect to writing down (not just typing) your goals that makes a stronger mental impression. Write it down in a positive, present tense, and measurable format.

O: Obstacles-List your obstacles. What is keeping you from reaching your goal? Especially identify those obstacles that you have just noticed over the past six months.

A: Action Steps-List the action steps you need to take in order to reach your goal. You should have at least one action step for every obstacle you need to overcome. No goal comes true without action.

L: Little Bit Of Help-List who and what can help you reach your goal. People, books, classes, degrees, mentors, and coaches are all examples of getting a little bit of help. If you can reach your goal on your own, it is not a big enough goal.

S: Set A Date-Write down the date you will have your goal accomplished. A goal without a date is just a dream, but a dream with a date can become a reality. When will you accomplish your focus goal?

Again, I would not work all of your goals through this process. However, your focus goals need to be worked through a goals achievement process, either the one I shared with you here or another one. (You can find more information on the goals process I shared above in my book, GOALS: Godly Objectives Assuring Lasting Significance.)

So, are you ready for your half-time? Are you ready to reevaluate your game and make the needed adjustments? If so, you will greatly increase your chances of winning (reaching your goals). Then we can celebrate the victory!!!

References
Stanley, Andy (2003). The Next Generation Leader. Multmonah, Sisters, OR.


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