How To Deal With Weird People

My parents were there when my first child was born.  They had raised five children of their own.  I asked them, “What parenting advice do you have for someone just starting out?” My Dad looked at me and said, “Raise them according to their personality…That is where I went wrong with you.” I was not sure exactly how to take that, but then he continued, “I raised you like a typical little boy. Little did I know my son was growing up with the heart of a poet.”

That was a powerful moment in my life. I have tried to live out my Dad’s advice, not only in raising my children but in every other area of life as well. It has helped me be a better parent, spouse, employee, leader, minister, speaker, coach, and friend.

Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

Here is a brief overview of the four major personality styles and how to best work with each:

 

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George Washington was a “Heart”.

 

HEART

  • Security-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Past
  • Biblical Example: Moses
  • Desires: Connection and Accomplishment
  • Trusts: Authority
  • Characteristics: Dependable and Cautious

When working with Hearts, keep in mind they are motivated by schedules and timelines. They typically enjoy having timelines to get tasks accomplished. They will sometimes get stuck or at least sidetracked whenever they feel they are not in control of the situation. Schedules and to-do lists can help them feel like they have more control. The way to get a heart back on task is to encourage them to stop organizing and get started. Sometimes Hearts try to gain so much control they lose track of the goal.

 

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Michael Jordan is a “Body”.

BODY

 

  • Thrill-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Present
  • Biblical Example: Peter
  • Desires: Fun and Activity
  • Trust: Their Impulses
  • Characteristics: Fun-loving and Spontaneous

When working with Bodies, keep in mind they are motivated by fun and excitement. They typically will do whatever they feel will be fun. They will sometimes get stuck or sidetracked if they get bogged down with what they feel is too long-term or boring. With their time focus on the now, they need to know they can do something now. The best way to get Bodies back on track is to help them find the fun in it. They will work harder than anybody if they find some kind of excitement in what they are doing.

 

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Princess Diana was a “Soul”.

SOUL

 

  • Identity-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Future
  • Biblical Example: Barnabas
  • Desires: Meaning and Purpose
  • Trusts: Their Intuition
  • Characteristics: Enthusiastic and On a Spiritual Journey

When working with Souls, keep in mind they are motivated by meaning and developing people. They typically enjoy doing something that will have long-term benefits for others. They can become stuck if they do not connect value or meaning to a task. Souls must see the connection between what they are trying to accomplish and the long-term effects. Sometimes, in order for Souls to get back on task, they need to take a mental break or to simply work in solitude. Because Souls sometimes live in their own little world, they may have to visit that world in order to gain momentum.

 

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Albert Einstein was a “Mind”.

MIND
 

  • Knowledge-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Intervals
  • Biblical Example: Paul
  • Desires: Individuality and Efficiency
  • Trusts: Logic
  • Characteristics: Strong-willed and Skeptical

When working with Minds, remember they are motivated by intellectual challenges like how to improve something or solve a problem. Just like Bodies like to work with their bodies, so Minds like to work with their minds. Minds can sometimes get stuck because they over-analyze to the point they do not complete the task. Sometimes they can simply think themselves out of doing. In order for Minds to get back on track, they may need to take some time alone. Similar to the Souls, Minds need time alone with their thoughts.

The important thing to realize is that we are all different. What motivates you may not be the same thing that motivates someone else. We all see things differently. The goal is not to get other people to be more like you. It is to better understand your tendencies and other’s tendencies so everyone can bring their unique selves to whatever may be taking place.

God made us all different for a reason. If there are two people just alike then one of them is a waste. Remember other peoples’ tendencies whether you are parenting, leading, being a spouse, a team member, an employee, or a friend. Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

If you want to dig a little deeper, my 1-hour training DVD “How to Talk to Weird People” may be a great resource for you.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

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5 Clues to Uncover your N.I.C.H.E.

Over the past two blogs, we have looked at our first purpose and our general purpose. However, there is another level of purpose we have not yet discussed. Not only does everyone have their first purpose (to know, love, and follow Jesus), and their general purpose (Worship, fellowship, discipleship, ministry, and evangelism), but each one of us also has a specific purpose. While our first and general purpose are universal, our specific purpose is unique for each and every one of us.

NICHE

Galatians 6:4-5, says; Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life” (The Message). As you better understand who God made you to be and the work he wants you to do, you will better understand your specific purpose. God has equipped you to fulfill a purpose that he specifically put you on this earth to fulfill.

Here are five areas to “carefully explore” to better understand “who you are and the work you have been given”.

Natural Abilities
What are you naturally good at doing? What seems to come easier for you than it does most other people? What are some of those talents and strengths you have naturally developed?

Inspirational Gifts
Everyone who has decided to follow Jesus has received what the Bible calls spiritual gifts. I would encourage you to read Romans 12:3-8; 1 Corinthians 12:1-11 and 27-31; Ephesians 4:11-12; and 1 Peter 4:9-11, for a list of spiritual gifts. There are some spiritual gift surveys available online and they are helpful in discovering your spiritual gift. However, the best way is to simply try something that appeals to you and see how it goes. If it seems like a good fit, perhaps you have discovered your spiritual gift. If it is not a good fit, try another one.

niche3Character
How did God wire your brain? When I talk about understanding your character I am talking about your personality style. God has wired each one of us differently to serve him in the way he wants us to serve him. Discover your personality style and it will help you better understand your God-given, specific purpose. My DVD “How To Speak To Weird People” comes with a personality style survey and gives descriptions of each style.

Heart
What are you passionate about? What keeps you up at night because of enthusiasm and excitement and what wakes you up early in the morning for the same reason? What do you love to talk about? If you knew you could not fail and money was not an issue, what would you do? These are just some questions to help you discover your passion…your heart!

Experiences

How have past experiences equipped you for what God wants you to do? Evaluate both your good and bad experiences, because God uses both. What physical experiences, emotional experiences, intellectual experiences, and spiritual experiences have you had that has shaped you into the person you are today?

Niche2If you noticed, those five areas spell the word NICHE. What is your niche? What are your natural abilities, inspirational gifts, character, heart, and experiences? Once you make a “careful exploration” of these five areas, you will have a better idea of “who you are and the work you have been given”. Then you will better understand what your God-given, specific purpose may be!


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How to Make the Most of Every Opportunity

Time management is a myth. Life is not about time, it is about priorities. Ephesians 5:15-16 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.” How we do this may be different for each one of us of depending on our personality style.

Each personality style has a different time focus and they prioritize their time and activities differently. Some work well with planners and others do not. Each style is motivated differently and they have different causes for procrastination.

How does each personality style best prioritize and make the most of every opportunity?

heart_PNG691The security seeking style-The Hearts-time focus is on the past. Planning is natural and important to hearts. They prefer a step-by-step plan with clear goals, objectives, schedules and milestones. Using planners is natural for them because they like to work systematically through lists. Hearts are motivated by schedules and timelines. Hearts are most likely to procrastinate when they feel they do not have control of themselves and their time. The best way for Hearts to get back on track is to stop over-organizing and get started.

bodyThe thrill-seeking style-The Bodies-time focus is on the now. They are the free spirits who are just living for the moment. They do not systematically work through lists very well. They are motivated by fun and excitement. They tend to procrastinate when they are involved in a long-term project or when something becomes boring to them. The best way for the Bodies to get back on track is to find some way to make things fun again.

soulThe identity seeking style-The Souls– time focus is on the future. Souls tend to look at the big picture rather than the details. Some Souls are not very good at working with planners and those who do use them more as life planners rather than day planners. Souls are motivated by personal meaning and developing people. Souls tend to procrastinate if they are unable to connect meaning or value to their tasks. The way Souls can typically get back on track is to take a mental break or sometimes they simply need to work in seclusion.

mindThe knowledge seeking style-The Minds-time focus is in intervals. This means they are less interested in what time it is and they are more interested in their present project. They tend to measure time by their projects instead of the clock. Minds are the ones who are most likely to lose track of time. Minds tend to get lost in their work or project and ignore the clock altogether. They are motivated by an intellectual challenge or having the opportunity to improve something or solve a problem. Minds tend to procrastinate when they over-analyze the task instead of completing it. Often times the best way for a Mind to get back on track is to take some time alone.

Evaluate how you best work according to your own style. Do not try to make the most of every opportunity by trying to be like someone else. Be who God made you to be and make the most of every opportunity in the style that fits you best.

How will you make the most of your opportunities today?

After reading today’s blog, what personality style do you think you are?  Comment below by clicking on “leave comment” and then at the end of the week, after reviewing each personality type in more detail, you can see if you were right!


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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