3 Very Easy Steps to Stay Highly Motivated

Motivation has been a passion of mine since I purchased my first Zig Ziglar cassette tape back in 1997. I have learned some practices along the way that help me get motivated and stay motivated. Motivation is not permanent, just like bathing is not permanent.  We need to seek out ways to continue the motivation. Here are three practices that have helped me over the past 20 years.

Pmotivationositive Self-Talk

I know, I know, it sounds crazy, but it works. I talk to myself in the mirror. I talk to myself as I work out. I talk to myself as I listen to positive self-talk audios (by Dr. Shad Helmstetter). Self-Talk has made a world of difference in the attitude I have throughout the day.

I hope you realize that we all talk to ourselves. Even you. You may be reading this right now saying, “I don’t talk to myself, this guy is crazy.” We all talk to ourselves.

The unfortunate thing about most of our self-talk is that it is negative. We tell ourselves, “I can’t do this” or “this is not going to work”; “Why am I even trying?” or when something does not happen exactly as planned we tend to say, “I knew it wouldn’t work.” Psychologist, Shad Helmstetter says, “By the time a child is 18 years old they have heard ‘no’ or ‘you can’t do that’ over 148,000 times.” When you hear “no” or “you can’t do that” so many times, you begin to believe it. And thus we begin the bad habit of telling ourselves the same thing.

Change your self-talk from negative to positive. Wake up every morning saying, “every day in every way I am getting better and better – Yes!” You can find some self-talk scripts through a Google search. If you cannot find one you like, email me and I will send you some of mine.

motivation 2Positive Mental Attitude

The positive self-talk will help you develop a positive mental attitude. The more positive you are about life, the more positive life will be. The more you complain, the more you will have to complain about. The more positive you are, the more you will have to be positive about. You typically find what you are looking for.

motivatino3As I said earlier, we seem to be naturally negative. What do we call the first slice of a loaf of bread? The heel or the end. I have never seen a loaf of bread that did not have two beginnings! When we run our car off the road what do we call? The wrecker. What we need is the tow truck, we have already had the wreck. What do we call that thing that wakes most of us up in the mornings? The alarm clock. Well, people sound the alarm when the bank is being robbed or the building is on fire. Alarms scare people. Why not call what wakes us up in the morning an opportunity clock? If you can hear it, that means you have the opportunity to get up and go. If you can’t hear it that may mean you done got up and gone! (I got those from the most positive person I ever met: Zig Ziglar.)

Zig Ziglar says “Positive thinking will not let you do anything, but it will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.” Positive thinking is not magical, but it is powerful!

Fail Forward

motivation3The third practice to stay motivated is to fail forward. Learn something from your failure. You can either grow bitter from your failure or you can grow better from your failure.

While Thomas Edison was working on one of his many inventions, it took him thousands of times and he still had not gotten it right. Some asked him, “Mr. Edison, what does it feel like to be such a great inventor and have failed 10,000 times on this one invention?” Thomas Edison responded, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that it won’t work.”

If you want to stay motivated I would encourage you to have the same attitude as Thomas Edison. Here is the secret to your success; if you fall down seven times, get up eight. That is it. Get up one more time than you fail and you are a success. That, my friends, is motivating!

What keeps you motivated?


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A Tribute to Mom

mom2With Mother’s Day in just two days, I got to thinking about the contribution Mom’s make to the world. I am under no illusion I can adequately explain the immeasurable influence of Mother’s on our world in just a short blog. However, I would like to honor the Mothers out there and thank you for what you have done for the world and specifically what my Mom has done for me.

Throughout history, moms have played a significant role in the course of events. Abraham Lincolmom.pngn once said, “God bless my mother. All that I am or ever hope to be I owe to her.” A Spanish proverb puts it this way, “An ounce of Mother is worth a pound of clergy.” Even the name of the first mother in this world, Eve, means; life-giving.

One of the ladies on the T.V. show “The Golden Girls” said, “It’s not easy being a mother. If it were, fathers would do it.” There is a whole lot of truth in that statement. I have also heard it said that, “if being a mother were easy it would not start out with something called labor.” Moms have a tough job, but for one am very thankful for the contributions of moms.
20160513_114850My mom has always been an encourager. When I was eighteen and considering leaving home (I was still in high school) it was the encouragement of my mom that kept me home until I finished high school. I am probably not fully aware of the amount of relationship damage that would have created between my dad and me. It was avoided because of my mom.

When I was asked to leave college because of my poor grades, it was the encouragement of my mom that convinced me to not give up. I went to the college and asked to be allowed back in under the condition I would improve my grades. They let me back in. I improved my grades and eventually graduated. I later went on to get my Master’s in Life Coaching graduating with a 4.0. None of that would have been possible without the encouragement from my mom._MG_9490

So, thank you, mom. Thank you to all the moms of the world. Thank you for being the ones who encourage us and inspire us to be more than we thought we could be. Thank you for being our positive voice in a negative world.

Thank you for being…MOM!


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Are You Dying From Debt Related Stress?

Yesterday we discussed saving money for an emergency fund. Today we will look at what is becoming a lost discipline: saving money for purchases. We live in an instant gratification society and we feel that just because we want something, we should have it right now – whether we can afford it or not. How do we make it happen? Debt!

IDebt Word And 3d Character Showing Bankruptcy And Poverty believe debt is financial cancer and it is killing people financially. Proverbs 21:20, says; “In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has” (NIV). It is unwise to just blow all we have and then when we find something we want, we just go into debt for it.

young couple worried at home in bad financial situation stress asking for helpDebt-related stress destroys marriages, reduces productivity in the workplace, and in some cases, it is literally killing people (Check out “Maxed Out” by James D. Scurlock). It is okay to purchase material wants if you are financially responsible when you do so. A big part of being financially responsible is saving up the money to make big purchases instead of going into debt.

Dave Ramsey says, “One definition of maturity is ‘delaying pleasure.’” Remember, “In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has” (Proverbs 21:20, NIV). The wise and mature thing to do is save up for big purchases.

debtDebt is a killer! As I said before, debt is financial cancer that is killing people that would otherwise be financially stable. By the way, the belief that the poor must go into debt to get by is a myth. I realize I may get some backlash from that but it is true. As a matter of fact, the less money one has, the more fatal going into debt will be.

debt stressI have had money and I have not had money and in neither case has debt been an asset.   To be honest, over the last 17 years, other than a mortgage I had for about 13 years, I have not had any debt. The freedom I have had during times of plenty and times of…well… not so plenty – I can greatly attribute to my and my wife’s refusal to go into debt.

So, go ahead and get you some “stuff’, just make sure you can pay for it without going into debt. And if you cannot pay for it, at least have the wisdom and maturity to delay that pleasure long enough to save up and pay cash!


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What Makes You Tick and What Ticks You Off?

Appolonya & Daddy FavoriteOn December 20th, 2003, I was waiting for my first child to be born. Nothing else mattered that day except the birth of my daughter. This day would remain etched in my mind forever.

After they took my wife back to prep her for surgery I was sitting with my parents. I asked them,“As someone who has raised five kids, what parenting advice could you give me?”

My Dad looked at me and said, “Parent them according to their personality. That is where I went wrong with you. I thought I was raising a typical little boy, I did not realize I was raising a boy with the heart of a poet.” I will never forget that advice.

Have you ever noticed that some people are just weird? Some people are just so different from you they must be out of touch with reality, right? That is not how normal people act. But who determines what is normal?

Everybody is different. What makes you tick and what ticks you off is unique to you. We all have different personalities. Each one of should embrace how God has made us. If you think being you is tough you should try being someone else. God made you to be you!

However, each one of us can be grouped into one of four major personalities:

heart, body, soul, mindHearts are security seeking personalities. They make up about 40-50% of the world’s population. They focus on the past.

Bodies are thrill-seeking personalities. They make up about 30-40% of the world’s population. They focus on the now.

Souls are identity seeking personalities. They make up about 10-15% of the world’s population. They focus on the future.

Minds are knowledge seeking personalities. They make up about 5-10% of the world’s population. They see time in intervals.

Each one of these personalities has a different way they energize, prioritize, communicate and decision-make. Over the next four days, we will take a closer look at how each personality style energizes, prioritizes, communicates, and decision-makes.

What personality style do you think you are?  Comment below now and then at the end of the week after reviewing them in more detail, see if you were right!


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What Are God’s Promises to You For Overcoming Fear?

Yesterday I shared with you one action to take to overcome your fears: walking in faith. Today I will share with you the second step to overcoming your fears:

Standing on God’s promises.

There are many places in the Bible that emphasize God’s promises to those who follow him. I will look at three:


-Deuteronomy 31:6

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you” (NIV).

In the midst of your trial, pain, or your extreme discomfort in moving in the direction of your God-given dreams, always know that God “will never leave you nor forsake you.” Therefore we have no reason to “be afraid or terrified.” Because God is always with us, we can, with confidence, “be strong and courageous.”

– Hebrews 13:5-6Image result for hebrews 13:5-6

“God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’ So we can say with confidence, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” (NIV).

Because God will never leave us or forsake us “we can say with confidence, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” That is a reassuring place to be. If God is for us, who can be against us? Bust through that fear because you have the greatest power to ever exist in your corner.


– John 14:2-3

“In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am” (NIV).

 

In Hebrew culture often times a young man would propose to a lady by preparing a room at his father’s house. This is where they would take their bride, assuming she accepted the proposal, to live with him when they get married. In reality, Jesus is proposing to us in this passage. “In my Father’s house are many rooms… I am going there to prepare a place for you…I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.”


Jesus loves us so much he would rather die than live without us. If you have accepted his proposal, you can definitely walk in confidence with a groom like that.

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God, Save Us From Practical People

Do you know what the most repeated command in the Bible is?

“Fear not” or “Do not be afraid.”  Yet, often times, we are controlled and limited by fear.

I am amazed at how adults change the way they talk to young people as they grow older. When kids are very young we say, “You can be anything you want to be!” We encourage them to dream. We want them to reach for the stars!

However, as they become teenagers we began to say things like, “You need to be practical.” “You can’t always do what you want.” “No one in our family has ever done that.”practical people

God save us from practical people!

Give us people who encourage us to dream. Give us people who continue to tell us we can do whatever we set our minds to. Give us people who are not so controlled by their own fear that they want to control everyone around them as well.

“Fear not!” “Do not be afraid!” Keep moving forward in the face of self-doubt. God is bigger than our fears no matter how practical we are encouraged to be.

My friend, Daniel Matthews, has written a great book on overcoming your fears titled; Spear Your Fear: Five Simple Steps to Retrain Your Brain for Success. In it, he gives great advice on how to move forward in the face of fear. Daniel states, “To keep your fears and self-doubt from winning, find your higher purpose, have a single focus, and look beyond the result by developing process-based goals.”

I believe the Bible reflects the same sentiment in Isiah 32:8, “The noble man makes noble plans and by noble deeds, he stands.”

Develop a focused enthusiasm for what God wants you to accomplish. Then develop specific goals to accomplish that. Then, and this may be the most important factor, take action! Just simply taking action will help you overcome your fear.
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Take action!
Take action now!!
Whatever the fear may be, taking action will help you overcome it.
What step can you take right now towards overcoming your fear?  Leave a comment and share your dream with me and how I can help you overcome any fears that may be stopping you.

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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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