What My Mother-In-Law Did To Me In 2017

Last Christmas, my wonderful mother-in-law got me an excellent Christmas gift. She usually gets me good gifts anyway. I love flashlights and it seems like she gets me a new one every year. I love peanuts and she typically gets me a large container of Virginia Diner gourmet peanuts. Wow! My mouth is watering just thinking about it! I am glad Christmas will be here soon.

However, with all the great Christmas gifts my mother-in-law has ever gotten me, last year she topped them all! You guys know I am a personal development junkie. Last year she got me…The brand new…Tony Robbins “Ultimate Edge: A 3-Part System for Creating an Extraordinary Life in any Environment”!

It came with 26 CD’s of Tony Robbins’ teaching as well as 2 DVD’s and an additional 5 CD’s from his audio magazine, “Powertalk.” This is over 40 hours of Tony Robbins teachings and I have listened to all of the core 26 CD’s eight times over the course of 2017. “Thank you, my dearest mother-in-law. I can’t wait to see what you get me this year for Christmas. I have been a very, good boy!”

Anyway, one of the CD’s included in the “Ultimate Edge” is called “Daily Magic.” It is a CD made to use in the mornings to get your day off to a great start. One section of the “Daily Magic” CD is entitled “Get Grateful.”

The “Get Grateful” section is all about having an attitude of gratitude. During this time I reflect and I thank God for those things in my life that I often times take for granted. I thank God for:

My wife
My kids
Salvation
His grace
His forgiveness
His love
My health
That I get to do what I love
And a plethora of other things I am thankful for.

This helps me be aware of how blessed I really am. There is an old hymn titled, “Count Your Blessings” and this is exactly what I have done on almost a daily basis over the past year. It has helped to change my life.

When we start off the day with a grateful attitude, the rest of the day goes better. How can I complain right after I have thanked God for so many things that are right in my life? Having an attitude of gratitude can make the rest of the day so much better.

It is also healthier. Being grateful relieves stress and helps us feel more relaxed. When we thank God for our health, then we will have more health to be thankful for.

If you want to focus on the negatives of life, you will find them. If you want to focus on the positives of life, you will find them. You will typically find what you are looking for.

The more you complain, the more you will have to complain about. The more you are grateful, the more you will have to be grateful about. We tend to attract what we focus on.

As we approach Thanksgiving, I would encourage you to make Thanksgiving more than an annual celebration. Make it a daily habit. I made that change at the beginning of 2017 and I intend to continue that tradition in 2018. It has made all the difference…Perhaps it is the road less traveled.

In 2017, my mother-in-law made me a more grateful person making me more positive, healthy and focused.  Thanks!

What are you thankful for?


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Using The Power of Focused Attention to Create Genius

In my last blog, we looked at writing out your “Dream List” or what some people call their “Be, Do, Have List.” If you have not read that blog you can go to it here.

Now, it is time to choose one focus goal from your “Be, Do, Have” or dream list.  You are no longer in the brainstorming stage so pick one that you really want to work on, one that stirs up enough passion in you that you are not going to give up when it gets difficult, because it will get difficult.  If it were easy, you probably would have already reached it.

FOCUS GOAL

Pick your goal to focus on (focus goal) and write it down.

After you write it down, look at it and see if you can make it any more specific.  For instance, instead of saying, “I want to lose weight.” Say “I want to lose _____ pounds.”  How much weight do you want to lose?  How much more money do you want?  What kind of new car do you want?  How much more reading do you want to do?  Make it as specific as possible before you go any further.

It is even better if you write it in the present tense. So, instead of saying “I want to lose ______ pounds.” Write it this way: “I weigh ______.” Our brains help us create what we see as a reality.

Two clarifying questions about your focus goal:

Question 1: What is the purpose of reaching this goal?

Now that you have made your goal clear and specific, let’s get clear about what this goal will do for you.  Ask yourself this question:  What is the purpose of reaching this goal?  In other words, what can this goal do for me?  How will my life be different after reaching this goal?  Will reaching this goal make my life better or worse? What is the purpose of reaching this goal?  The reason you must ask this question is that first, there is no reason to strive for a goal that has no purpose.  Second, it helps you focus on the benefits of the goal which is a motivator for you.  There will be times when you feel like giving up.  If, during those times, you make the effort to focus on the benefit of the goal rather than the trouble of getting there, it will often motivate you to keep going.

Question 2: Will this goal help me reach my purpose?

The second question you need to ask yourself is “Will this goal help me reach my purpose?”  Every focus goal must help you reach your purpose in some way.  If it does not, then it cannot be one of your focus goals.  Your life purpose is your ultimate focus.  So, if your focus goal does not move you in that direction then your whole life is out of focus which means it is not a “focus” goal.  Did that make sense?  I hope so.

Your whole life is about following your God-given purpose.  Any goal that does not move you in that direction does not need to be a focus goal.  You can still have it on your “Be, Do, Have” or dream list and you can still reach and accomplish this goal (as long as it does not take you away from fulfilling your life purpose) but it just does not deserve your focused attention.

 

Once you have run your focus goal through the focus goal filter you are ready to give it your focused attention. Remember, genius has been described as the “ability to focus on one thing at a time.” Do not try to have a whole list of focus goals. Pick one you can give all of your attention.

 


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  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Organized Dreaming – 5 Real Steps to Turn Your Dreams Into Reality

When I first got into personal development material, 20 years ago, I got frustrated with all the numerous steps that each author or speaker would teach. I decided I would take all the audios and books on goals and try to find the few characteristics that they all had in common. Then, I did a Bible study on goals. I came up with five simple steps to achieving your goals…Sort of…

This is what I call…Organized Dreaming!

Before we get into the five steps of goal achievement, we need to come up with our “Be, Do, Have” lists.  Some people call it their “dream list.”  It does not matter what you call it as long as you make one.  I offer these FREE worksheets on my website or make your own.  Here is how it works.

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Get three sheets of paper.  At the top of the first page write “Be”, on the top of the second, write “Do” and on top of the third, write “Have.”  Then go back to the page labeled “Be” and begin to write down everything you want to “be.”  I mean everything!  Do not hold anything back, just let your imagination run wild.  This is a brainstorming exercise so there are no wrong answers.  Write down the crazy, the mundane; the big, the little; the simple, the far-fetched; the ordinary, the extraordinary… write it all!

When you can no longer think of anything to write on your “Be” list, then go to your “Do” list and write down everything you want to “do.”  Then go to your “Have” list and write down everything you want to “have.”  Remember, there are no wrong answers so let your imagination run wild.  Some of your answers will be comical and others will be inspiring… all because of your imagination, and remember, the most powerful nation in the world is… Imagination!

Once you have finished doing all three pages, keep those with you for at least 24 – 48 hours so that when you get another idea you can quickly write it down before you forget it.  Continue to let your imagination run wild. Write down even the silly stuff, until you just can’t think of anything else you would like to be, do, or have.  Remember, you can always go back and add to this list for the rest of your life.  As a matter of fact, I encourage you to do so.

focus-mattersNow it is time to pick a focus goal! Out of your three lists of goals, pick one from each list.  If you could only keep one, this is the one you would choose. This should leave you with three goals, one from each list. Now, out of the three selected, pick one goal. Once you pick one goal from your “Be, Do, Have” list (or dream list), you are ready to go through the goals program which includes these five steps:

G.O.A.L.S.

  1. Goal: Write down your focus goal.
  2. Obstacles: What is keeping you from reaching this goal?
  3. Action Steps: How do I overcome each obstacle?
  4. Little Bit O’ Help: Who and what is going to help me?
  5. Set a Date: A goal without a date is not really a goal.

That is it! 5 simple steps to achieving your goals. Five simple steps to making your dreams come true!  Now what?

I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life,  design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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I Can Only Imagine – The Song You Know The Story You Don’t – a Review

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Last week my wife and I were invited to a special showing of the movie, “I Can Only Imagine” in Knoxville, Tennessee.  So, I took her out to a really nice restaurant… Steak & Shake. We used the opportunity to go on a really nice date. In addition to the movie, we went to the very prestigious…McKay’s Used Bookstore!

I know, I know, I am a hopeless romantic.

Anyway, the movie was absolutely fabulous! It is one of the best Christian movies I have ever watched. It covers the life of Bart Millard, the lead singer for the Christian singing group Mercy Me, and gives the background of the story behind the song “I Can Only Imagine”.

Three themes are played out in this movie:
– forgiveness
– redemption
– following your dreams

Bart’s life reflects all three of these, not in a cheesy – someone says a prayer and everything becomes great- kind of way but in a real way that most, if not all, of those who watch, would be able to identify.

Forgiveness is shown in an authentic way in this movie.  Forgiveness is often times a struggle and this movie portrays that side of forgiveness well. However, ultimately it is a core value of Christianity even when it is extremely uncomfortable.

Redemption and forgiveness go hand and hand in what Jesus did for us on the cross. No one is so far gone that Jesus cannot redeem them. Even the worst of the worst can find redemption.

Following your dreams is probably the main theme in this movie. Although, it is tightly connected to forgiveness and redemption. It shows Bart’s determination, fortitude, and enthusiasm for following his dream of becoming a professional Christian singer.

He fought through the struggles, heartache, and disappointment that almost always shows up on the journey to a big dream. At times he wanted to quit, but there was always something that kept him going, not only in his dream of becoming a professional Christian singer but other more meaningful dreams as well!

This movie comes out in theaters on March 16, 2018.

Share this information with your church, your friends, and all your social media contacts.

 

This is definitely a movie you will want to see!


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Do You Want to Change the World With Me?

Back in August, in my blog titled, Well-Rounded People Have No Point, I made this statement: “Well-rounded people may be good people. I am not putting them down. They are contributors to their communities. They live stable lives. But intensely focused people…They change the world!” Someone commented that some intensely focused people have changed the world in a bad way.

I have to agree. Some people have changed the world in a bad way. Some people are intensely focused in the wrong direction. However, I would argue that is why we need intensely focused people to change the world in a positive way, people who are intensely focused in the RIGHT direction.

We need people who are so goal-oriented, and intensely focused, that they make this world a better place. They are driven to make the biggest positive impact they possibly can. We need some intensely focused people to change the world…for the better!

keep-calm-and-focus-your-goalsOf course, you have to set the right kind of goals for this to be true.  What do I mean by the “right kind of goals?”  Positive!  Noble!  Godly!  Do not set goals that take you in the wrong direction.  You do not want to set a goal to do anything illegal, immoral, rude or that causes pain to yourself or someone else.  In the Bible (Old Testament) the prophet Isaiah wrote “… the noble man makes noble plans, and by noble deeds, he stands.”  (Isaiah 32:8, NIV)

I also like the way The Message translation words it, “… those who are noble make plans, and stand for what is noble.”  (Isaiah 32:8, The Message).  As I look at that verse, it makes me think about goals.  First, the word noble means of outstanding character.  In other words, if you are a “noble man” or woman, then you are a person of outstanding character.  People of outstanding character make plans (or set goals) that reflect that character.  Then they take the action that is driven by their character in order to accomplish those goals.

Noble people set noble goals that create noble action.  If you are not a noble person, then your first goal should be to become a person of outstanding character.  Until you get that right, other goals will be harder, and oftentimes impossible, to accomplish.

The word “goals” truly does stand for Godly Objectives Assuring Lasting Significance.  Your objectives in attaining your goals must be godly.  If you are going in the direction God wants you to go then your goals must come from God.  God not only wants us to dream up big goals but I believe He actually implants them in our head and heart.  The only way that we can be assured lasting significance is to tap into those goals that God has given to each of us.  There is nothing any more significant than that.

Are you ready?  Are you ready to assure lasting significance through godly objectives?  Are you ready to make some simple changes of habit in order to create dramatic change in your life?

 If you said “Yes!”, then here we go!!

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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Do You Want to be Happier, Healthier and Wealthier?

 

set-goalOn more than one occasion I have been asked, “You are always talking about setting goals and writing down your goals…What is the point?” I used to be surprised by this question but I have been asked so often, I now come to expect it.

The answer is, of course, that people who write down their goals, develop a plan of action and actually work the plan experience amazing results.

You may ask, “What are these ‘amazing results’ of going through a goals program?”  David G. Jensen, Chief Administrative Officer at the Crump Institute of Biological Imaging for the UCLA School of Medicine, did a study and found that those people who set goals and develop a plan of action to reach those goals:

  • Earn an average of $4,000 more per month
  • Are more enthusiastic
  • Are more satisfied with life and work
  • Have happier marriages
  • Have better health and
  • Better performance

Are those good enough results for you?  Is that enough to get you motivated?  Regardless of who you are, I would be willing to say there is at least one of those six benefits you would like to experience in your life.  As for me, I would like to have all six!

Tcoaching with the brain in mindhrough additional research, David Rock and Linda J. Page explain in their book, Coaching With The Brain In Mind, that people who set goals also “exhibit increased self-confidence… and suffer less stress and anxiety” (p. 146). The truth is that setting and achieving goals is a healthy way to live. When done correctly it reduces stress and makes us healthier, happier people.

What is your goal for today? This week? This month? This year? If you want to have less stress and more happiness, start simple.  Write down one goal.  If you message me that goal – you’re more likely to reach it.

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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Do You Want to Be A Genius?

One of my favorite places to eat is Cracker Barrel. I cannot remember there being a time that the Cracker Barrel restaurant did not exist. The town I grew up in is actually home to the eighth Cracker Barrel to ever open. It is not the first, but it is still pretty cool.

My wife and I both worked at Cracker Barrel when we were in college. We have fond memories of driving back to the Johnson Bible College campus after we got off work. And yes, even after working there, we still like their food.

peg-gameWe have carried on this tradition with our kids. They love to eat at Cracker Barrel as well. Plus, they love playing that triangle peg game.  You know, that game that determines how smart you are. According to that game, I am only one peg away from being a genius. Although, most of the time when I play, I actually leave three or four pegs, BUT one time, I only left two!!

Therefore, I am only one peg away from being a genius.  Cracker Barrell said so!

I guess Cracker Barrel’s definition of a genius may need some additional research to prove true. Maybe, just maybe, being a genius includes more than learning how to jump pegs on a triangle shaped piece of wood.

Dictionary definition of word genius

But what would really make a genius?

Genius has been described as the “ability to focus on one thing at a time.”  That is the purpose of having a goal.  Do you have goals?  Are they written down?  Have you worked through a goals program?

Actually going through a goals program will help you develop focus in your life in order to do more than you would have done on your own and to achieve results more quickly.

keep-calm-and-focus-your-goalsGoing through a goals program does take time and effort but the results are amazing.  A person who is successful has simply formed the habit of doing things that unsuccessful people will not do.

If you are going to get more out of life you gotta get up and do something.  Stop waiting for your “ship to come in!”  Your “ship” is out there but it is not coming in… you gotta get in a little row boat and row with all your heart to get out to it!  A goals program can help you do just that.

So, if you really want to become a genius learn how to set and take action toward a specific goal. Do not try to accomplish a whole list of goals. Pick one.

Because, even though getting Cracker Barrel’s triangle peg game down to one peg is pretty impressive, leaving one peg does not really define a genius, but perhaps, just perhaps, action toward one focus goal does.set-goal
*Excerpts taken from GOALS: Godly Objectives Assuring Lasting Significance


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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How To Keep Up Your Momentum (Video)

Leaders are lifelong learners. Never stop feeding your mind and your soul.


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How to Keep Up Your Momentum

2017092895115407[1]As many of you know I went to the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) World Conference in Nashville, Tennessee last week. It was my 5th AACC World Conference. I went to be filled and I came home overflowing.

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I am not a counselor, but there is a life coaching track and a leadership coaching track that I typically attend. It is great to meet with other Christian coaches who are wanting to get better equipped to do what God has called them to do. It is also great to get to learn from some of the best coaches in the field such as Dwight Bain, Georgia Shaffer, Dr. Katie Brazelton, Shannon Ethridge and others.

2017093095100725[1]Every time I go to this conference, I not only get filled with tons of great information, I regain my momentum to help dreamers, believers and achievers discover their unique path to their God-given potential. Not only do I attend the workshops and main sessions, I also purchase books and CD’s to continue that momentum even after the conference is over. I love going to the AACC World Conference! Not only is it great for me it is great for those I serve because I am able to serve them better.

How are you feeding your mind and soul? What conferences are you going to? What books are you reading? What audios are you listening to? What coaches are you working with?

2017093095140655[1]Look for conferences, seminars, and classes to attend to be better equipped for what it is you do. Leaders are lifelong learners. Never stop feeding your mind and your soul.

The AACC World Conference is one of my favorite and most valuable conferences I attend, but it is by no means the only one I attend. As a 2017093095103939[1]minister, I attend the Kentucky Minister’s Retreat almost every year. As a spouse, I am always looking for marriage events to attend. I look for anything that can help me become better at what I do.

What is your next step? Schedule a conference, seminar, or class. Read a book that helps you become better at being who God created you to be.  Hire a coach (click here to schedule one FREE coaching session with me.)

What is your next step?


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How To Deal With Weird People

My parents were there when my first child was born.  They had raised five children of their own.  I asked them, “What parenting advice do you have for someone just starting out?” My Dad looked at me and said, “Raise them according to their personality…That is where I went wrong with you.” I was not sure exactly how to take that, but then he continued, “I raised you like a typical little boy. Little did I know my son was growing up with the heart of a poet.”

That was a powerful moment in my life. I have tried to live out my Dad’s advice, not only in raising my children but in every other area of life as well. It has helped me be a better parent, spouse, employee, leader, minister, speaker, coach, and friend.

Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

Here is a brief overview of the four major personality styles and how to best work with each:

 

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George Washington was a “Heart”.

 

HEART

  • Security-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Past
  • Biblical Example: Moses
  • Desires: Connection and Accomplishment
  • Trusts: Authority
  • Characteristics: Dependable and Cautious

When working with Hearts, keep in mind they are motivated by schedules and timelines. They typically enjoy having timelines to get tasks accomplished. They will sometimes get stuck or at least sidetracked whenever they feel they are not in control of the situation. Schedules and to-do lists can help them feel like they have more control. The way to get a heart back on task is to encourage them to stop organizing and get started. Sometimes Hearts try to gain so much control they lose track of the goal.

 

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Michael Jordan is a “Body”.

BODY

 

  • Thrill-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Present
  • Biblical Example: Peter
  • Desires: Fun and Activity
  • Trust: Their Impulses
  • Characteristics: Fun-loving and Spontaneous

When working with Bodies, keep in mind they are motivated by fun and excitement. They typically will do whatever they feel will be fun. They will sometimes get stuck or sidetracked if they get bogged down with what they feel is too long-term or boring. With their time focus on the now, they need to know they can do something now. The best way to get Bodies back on track is to help them find the fun in it. They will work harder than anybody if they find some kind of excitement in what they are doing.

 

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Princess Diana was a “Soul”.

SOUL

 

  • Identity-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: The Future
  • Biblical Example: Barnabas
  • Desires: Meaning and Purpose
  • Trusts: Their Intuition
  • Characteristics: Enthusiastic and On a Spiritual Journey

When working with Souls, keep in mind they are motivated by meaning and developing people. They typically enjoy doing something that will have long-term benefits for others. They can become stuck if they do not connect value or meaning to a task. Souls must see the connection between what they are trying to accomplish and the long-term effects. Sometimes, in order for Souls to get back on task, they need to take a mental break or to simply work in solitude. Because Souls sometimes live in their own little world, they may have to visit that world in order to gain momentum.

 

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Albert Einstein was a “Mind”.

MIND
 

  • Knowledge-Seeking Personality
  • Time Focus: Intervals
  • Biblical Example: Paul
  • Desires: Individuality and Efficiency
  • Trusts: Logic
  • Characteristics: Strong-willed and Skeptical

When working with Minds, remember they are motivated by intellectual challenges like how to improve something or solve a problem. Just like Bodies like to work with their bodies, so Minds like to work with their minds. Minds can sometimes get stuck because they over-analyze to the point they do not complete the task. Sometimes they can simply think themselves out of doing. In order for Minds to get back on track, they may need to take some time alone. Similar to the Souls, Minds need time alone with their thoughts.

The important thing to realize is that we are all different. What motivates you may not be the same thing that motivates someone else. We all see things differently. The goal is not to get other people to be more like you. It is to better understand your tendencies and other’s tendencies so everyone can bring their unique selves to whatever may be taking place.

God made us all different for a reason. If there are two people just alike then one of them is a waste. Remember other peoples’ tendencies whether you are parenting, leading, being a spouse, a team member, an employee, or a friend. Understanding our personality styles and the personality styles of those we deal with every day is key to climbing to our God given-potential and helping others climb to their God-given potential as well.

If you want to dig a little deeper, my 1-hour training DVD “How to Talk to Weird People” may be a great resource for you.


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