Can Life Coaches Help With Anxiety And Depression?

anxiety           Some would say that life coaching should not be used to overcome anxiety and/or depression. Others would claim that life coaching interventions can be used for mild to moderate anxiety or depression.

Most life coaches and other professionals in the behavioral sciences would agree that any clients experiencing anxiety or depression that are clinical or suicidal in nature should be handled by a licensed therapist. Therefore, a life coach must be willing to refer a client dealing with serious anxiety and depression issues.

David Rock and Linda J. Page (2009), in their book Coaching with the Brain in Mind, give some direction in how a life coach could work with someone experiencing anxiety or depression. In dealing with anxiety, Rock and Page (2009) encourage coaches to help clients get through their anxiety by modifying their beliefs to be more in line with their behavior.anxiety2

The concept of cognitive dissonance, first described by Leon Festinger (1919-1989), is when someone’s beliefs and actions seem to contradict. To have a client modify their beliefs to better fit their behavior would help them relieve the anxiety.

Coaches can also help reduce anxiety by helping them get clear about their goals.  This helps the client focus, reduce uncertainty, and restore calmness.

“We reduce anxiety and the sense of being overwhelmed that comes from the amygdala’s response to uncertainty. As the amygdala is calmed, cognitive functions such as working memory may be energized” (Rock & Page, 2009, p. 255). They also give the following suggestions when working with clients dealing with anxiety:

  • When anxiety strikes, your breathing may become shallow and quick. You can control the anxiety by controlling your breathing. Inhale slowly through your nose, breathing deeply from your belly, not your chest.
  • Stress will make your body tight and stiff. You can counter the effects of stress on body and brain if you relax your muscles.
  • Try positive imagery. Create an image that is relaxing, such as visualizing yourself on a secluded beach (2009, p. 340).

Depression Though depression can be more than a life coach is trained to work with, Rock and Page (2009) give this suggestion when coaching someone with mild to moderate depression:  Encourage the client to develop some level of exercise routine they are comfortable with doing.

According to Rock and Page, the United Press International did a study and reported “that half of patients suffering from long-term depression felt substantial improvement after a 10-day exercise program” (2009, p. 127). According to Rock and Page exercise also helps prevent depression from returning, releases endorphins which help people relax and feel better, and helps people’s thoughts organize themselves.

Life coaches must be careful not to work outside of their skillset. However, when working with mild to moderate anxiety and depression there are some interventions they can practice to help their clients overcome.

Reference
Rock, D. & Page, L, J. (2009). Coaching with the brain in mind: Foundations for practice. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

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Follow Your God-Given Dreams

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John Maxwell defines vision as “a picture of the future that stirs up passion within you.” Do you have vision? Do you have a picture of your future that stirs up a passion within you? The best way to predict the future is to create it.

futureWhat do you believe God’s dream or vision for you may be? Through prayer, reflection, feedback from those who know you best, Bible reading, you can discover your passion. God created you for a reason, for a purpose, for a dream. God has a dream he wants to accomplish through you.

Are you up for the challenge? It will not be easy. It will not always be smooth, but it is where you will live your life to the fullest extent. If you want to climb to your God-given potential, you must discover what God’s dream is for you and then pursue it.

Bruce Wilkinson says, “If you do not follow your God-given dream something significantly important will not happen.”

Several years ago the Statler Brothers had a song called “The Class of ‘57” Some of the lyrics went like this:

class 1957Tommy’s selling used cars, Nancy’s fixing hair
Harvey runs a grocery store and Margaret doesn’t care
Jerry drives a truck for Sears and Charlotte’s on the make
And Paul sells life insurance and part-time real estate.

And the class of ’57 had its dreams
Oh, we all thought we’d change the world with our great works and deeds
Or maybe we just thought the world would change to fit our needs
The class of ’57 had its dreams.

Betty runs a trailer park, Jan sells Tupperware
Randy’s in an insane ward and Mary’s on welfare
Charlie took a job with Ford and Joe took Freddie’s wife
Charlotte took a millionaire and Freddie took his life.

And the class of ’57 had its dreams
But living life day to day is never like it seems
Things get complicated when you get past eighteen
But the class of ’57 had its dreams
Oh, the class of ’57 had its dreams.

(Songwriters DDN REID, HAROLD REID Published by Lyrics © BMG RIGHTS MANAGEMENT US, LLC)

dreams lostMost of the time we do not need to discover our dreams. We typically know what they are, we have just buried them somewhere inside our mind and soul where we do not see them anymore.

Pull them out! Re-discover why God put you on this planet. Do not let the realities of life steal your God-given dreams.

What are some of your God-given dreams?

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What Do You See When You Look At You?

 

The_looking_glass_self (1)     Charles Cooley’s theory of the Looking-Glass Self in its simplest form is the belief that people see themselves the way they perceive the most important people in their lives see them. As followers of Jesus who should be the most important person in our lives? Yep, that’s right…Jesus! And how does Jesus see you? He thinks you are absolutely awesome! Let’s take a look at some of the ways Jesus sees us:

God’s Most Valuable Creation

In almost every day of creation, God looked at what he created and “It was good.” However, at the end of the sixth day of creation, God looked at all he has created and “it was very good.” (NIV) What made the sixth day so much better? I believe it was because God created humans on the sixth day. Humans are the only thing God created in his image and in his likeness. Of all the things God created, we are the most special. We are God’s most special creation! (You can read the creation story in Genesis chapter 1.)

As Loved and Loving

The hypocrisy of the religious leaders was not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. The Roman soldiers were not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. The nails were not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. Satan himself was not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. The only thing strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross, was his love for you and I. Not only that, Jesus has called and empowered to continue to love other people in that same manner.

To love without reason. When Jesus was asked what the most important commandment was Jesus responded, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:30-31, NIV).

If you want to condense Christianity into a single sentence, this it:love-god-love-people-nothing-else-matters-86028722Jesus sees us as loved and loving!

Created For a Purpose

Simon Peter was just a common fisherman until he had an encounter with Jesus. At once Simon Peter fell in front of Jesus and said, “’Go away from me, Lord; I am a sinful man!’ Then Jesus said to Simon, ‘Don’t be afraid; from now on you will fish for people” (Luke 5:8, 10).

Simon Peter went from being a sinner who could not stand in the face of Jesus to someone with a specific purpose given to him directly from Jesus. Jesus has a specific purpose for you as well. I would encourage you to find out what that specific purpose is and fulfill it. Jesus sees you as someone who was created for purpose!

Someone with Potential

When the religious leaders brought a woman caught in adultery (you have to wonder why they did not bring the man) to Jesus, they claimed the law said they must kill her by stoning. Jesus eventually responded, after playing in the sand for a while, “If anyone of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”

Jesus-Writing-in-the-SandAs Jesus bent down to continue playing in the sand, the religious leaders slowly walked away. Jesus then asked the woman, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” she answered, “No one, sir.” Jesus responded, “Then neither do I condemn you. Go and leave your life of sin.” (You can read this whole story in John 8:1-11.)

Notice that Jesus did not ignore her sin, but neither did he define her by it. He saw a potential in her that the religious leaders did not see (or even care to see) nor did she even see in herself until this point.

Jesus sees you the same way. We have all done stupid stuff and we have all sinned big time (those who think you have not sinned big time have sinned the biggest). However, Jesus does not define you by your sin. Instead, he sees you as someone with potential!

“Jesus would rather die than live without you!” –Bob Martin

What are some ways you believe Jesus sees you?

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“I Sure Do Miss The Drugs Though” – Surviving Internal Struggles

johnnycashbonoJohnny Cash was having a meal with Bono (the lead singer for U2) and they both bowed their heads to pray. Johnny Cash prayed and thanked God for the food, friendships, forgiveness, and salvation. After the prayer Johnny Cash raised his head and said to Bono, “I sure do miss the drugs though.”

The Apostle Paul shared some of what was going on with his internal struggles in Romans 7:14-20,

“We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it” (NIV).

I often call this the doo-doo passage. When we find ourselves dealing with these inner struggles we find ourselves in a whole lot of doo-doo. All of us can identify with these struggles because all of us have them. We may not know what to do about it. Ask yourself three questions:

What Do I Really Want?

Many people are not honest with themselves about what they really want.  Honestly ask yourself, “What do I really want?” Matthew 5:6 says, “Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled” (NIV). What do you hunger and thirst for? Is it righteousness or that thing you are having that internal struggle over?

Who Is Really In Charge?

Have you given Jesus the lead in your life? Or are you still trying to be in charge? The word Lord actually means leader, boss, CEO, the one in charge. Are you just calling Jesus Lord or have you actually made him the leader of your life? “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven” (Matthew 7:21, NIV, Jesus speaking).

Who Is Really Going To Help Me?

turtlefencepostZig Ziglar says, “If you see a turtle on fencepost you can rest assured that sucker did not get there by himself.” He had some help along the way. If you are going to overcome those internal struggles you are dealing with you will NEED some help along the way.

You do not have to share your struggles with everybody, but you do have to share them with somebody. Find somebody who loves God and loves you to share your struggles with. If there is a sin in your life that you cannot talk to someone about then Satan has already won in that area of your life. Do not let him win!

We all struggle with sin. Even the Apostle Paul struggled with sin. That is why he needed Jesus. And just because we have this sin struggle does not mean we give up. We keep on fighting while relying heavily on the grace and forgiveness of God through our savior, Lord, and friend Jesus Christ!

What have you found helpful in dealing with your internal struggles?

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How Do I Find Out What I’m Passionate About? – Coaching Questions for Discovering Your Passion

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Often, after speaking to people about following their God-given passion, someone will come to me and ask, “How do I find out what I am passionate about?” This question breaks my heart. It hurts me to know there are so many who do not live passionate lives. However, it also means they are beginning to think about their passion. If this is you, then the following coaching questions can help you begin that journey!

  • What do I talk about the most?

Matthew 12:34 says, “out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks” (NIV). What you talk about the most is a good indication of what your passion is.

  • Who do I care about the most?

What group of people do you think about helping the most? Who do you feel you can most influence in a positive way?

  • What need or cause breaks your heart?

It may be a hint as to what you are passionate about when you hear about a need or cause in the world that stirs up strong emotion inside of you.

  • What do I dream about?

If you had all the resources and knew you could not fail, what is one thing you would do with your life? When you think about how things could be better, what are you specifically thinking about?

  • What did you want to do when you were a child?

Often times we lose sight of our dreams and passions somewhere between childhood and adulthood. Some people lose them early on and others do not lose them until they get out on their own and the world steals, kills, and destroys their passions. Those passions you had as a child may very well be the passions God wants you to have today.

If you would like to investigate further into your passion after you have answered these questions, please get in touch with me. Even if you just do one free coaching session, it could help you in discovering your God-given passion. If you do not follow your God-given passion, something very important will not happen.

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Set Yourself On Fire!

I’ve heard that 18th and 19th-century revival speakers were successful because they would set themselves on fire and people would come to watch them burn. Not literally. They were so passionate about what they were doing that they drew people’s attention. There is something magnetic about passionate people.comte-de-mirabeau-quote-none-but-people-of-strong-passion-are-capable

Comte de Mirabeau said, “None, but people of strong
passion are capable of greatness.” Find your passion! Pursue those things that stir something inside of you, not what brings you the most money. Greatness comes from passion. Look for what you have the most passion about and you will find your greatness!

Set yourself on fire and people will come to watch you burn!

When you are doing what you love to do, no one has to motivate you. Often, we trade in our passion for the mundane, mediocre, and most secure. STOP!

Set yourself on fire and people will come to watch you burn!

170178Larry Crabb says, “The core problem is not that we are too passionate about bad things, but that we are not passionate enough about good things.” God has filled you with a passion. Maybe that passion has been suppressed. Maybe it is hidden deep in your soul, but it is still there. You just have to dig it out. The best part of my job is helping people dig out and discover their passions! Our godly passions can give us life. Tony Campolo says, “The world is not so much sinful as is dead.” Sometimes a loss of passion causes that death. We are still walking, talking, and breathing; but something inside of us has died.

Set yourself on fire and people will come to watch you burn!

Let’s look at the word enthusiasm. The en- of the word enthusiasm comes from the Greek word for “in.” The –thus in enthusiasm is a form of the Greek word “Theo.”  “Theo” is the Greek word for God. The word enthusiasm literally means, God-in-you! If you are a follower of Jesus, then you are a walking bundle of enthusiasm. There is a spiritual passion that lives in and through you.

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Set yourself on fire and people will come to watch you burn!

  • What is your passion?
  • What gets you up in the morning?
  • What creates so much enthusiasm inside of you that you have trouble sleeping?
  • What has God put inside you that you cannot NOT do it?

Pursue that! Go after that! Live a life of passion, because life is too short to passively wander along without a care in the world. Care! Be enthusiastic! Live life to the fullest! Follow God’s passion for your life!

Set yourself on fire and people will come to watch you burn!

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What To Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

never give up 2A few years ago I was heading out of Roanoke, Virginia and I saw a billboard that I will never forget. There was a bird, I think it was a crane, with a frog in his mouth. The only part of the frog you could see were the arms, legs, and the lump in the bird’s throat. The frog’s legs were dangling lifelessly. However, the arms of the frog were full of life as he had a death grip around the throat of that bird just below the lump. The words at the top of the billboard read,

NEVER GIVE UP!

That is my encouragement to you, “never give up!” No matter how hard times may get, never give up 4“never give up!” No matter how many times you have failed, remember to get back up and keep on trying. Failure just gives you the opportunity to begin again more intelligently, so, “never give up!” Remember to fail forward and not backward. Learn, grow, and go and “never give up!” The one thing we all have in common is failure. Failure is an event it is not a person. You may have failed, but you are not a failure, “never give up!”

When people are telling you that you cannot do it, when people are laughing at you
because you want to try it one more time, even when you begin to tell yourself that you are not good enough, change those negative failure messages to positive success messages and “never give up!”

never give up3When the only light you can see at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train, keep going and “never give up!” When people put you down and make fun of you because you have the fortitude and determination to live the exceptional life instead of the average, mediocre life, “never give up!” When things are so bad that all you can see is the inside of huge bird’s esophagus… “Never give up!”

You have a focused enthusiasm for exceptional living that unfocused, boring, mediocre existers just don’t have. Do not let them drag you down to their level of unfocused, boring, mediocre deadness. Remain focused, enthusiastic, exceptional and alive as you fail your way to success.

The secret of success is: If you fall down seven times, get up eight.
That is it.
That is what it takes.
So no matter what:

nevergiveup

 

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What Do You Mean by “Love”?

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What is love?

There are three main Greek words for love (Greek is the language the majority of the New Testament was written in):

1. Eros: which is more of the romantic, feeling type of love. It can also apply to the physical, sexual type of love. It is where we get our English word Erotic.

2. Philia: Which means brotherly love or working together toward a common goal. It is where the city Philadelphia (the city of brotherly love) gets its name.

3. Agape: means sacrificial love. This is best exemplified by the love that Jesus has for us. He paid the ultimate sacrifice for us.

To be fair, I do believe that a healthy marriage needs all three of these in the relationship. However, I do believe there is a ranking of importance. Agape love must be number one in a marriage relationship. Secondly, Philia must be a part of the marriage so they can work together and be one. Thirdly, Eros will come and go in a marriage. It is the nature of that type of love. It is not constant. Eros will fade in and out at different times. If Eros is the only love a couple has then when it fades they have nothing left. If they have Philia and Agape love then this will anchor them together much better than Eros alone.

The quote above is really pointing out the difference between Eros (needed but not sustaining) and Agape (the most sustaining type of love).

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“You REALLY Should Laugh More. 4 Reasons Why…”

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Here are some announcements found in actual church bulletins:

“Tonight’s Sermon: WHAT IS HELL? Come early and listen to our choir practice.”

“CHURCH RUMMAGE SALE. A good opportunity to get rid of anything not worth keeping but too good to throw away. Don’t forget your husband.”

“Due to the Pastor’s illness, Wednesday’s healing service will be discontinued until further notice.”

“The peacemaking meeting scheduled for today has been canceled due to a conflict.”

“Don’t let worry kill you…let the church help.”

“Our Church Book Store announces their Semi-Annual After-Christmas Sale.”

“Please help our young people with their Flea Market. They are starting from scratch.”

A man was eating at a nice banquet and bit into something hard that broke his dental plate. The man beside him reached into his pocket and pulled out a dental plate for him to try. He put it in his mouth…pulled it out and said, “This is too big.” The man beside him pulls another one out of his pocket… He tries it and says, “This is too small.” The man beside him pulled a third dental plate out of his pocket. This one actually fit just right. “Imagine that” he said, “I broke my dental plate while sitting right beside a dentist.” “I am not a dentist” the man beside him replied, “I am an undertaker.”

proverbs-17-22Proverbs 17:22 says, “A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”Studies show that laughter lowers blood pressure and strengthens the immune system. Some hospitals actually use laughter therapy in the healing process. Zig Ziglar used to say “Laughter is low calorie, caffeine free, no salt, no preservatives or additives, 100% natural, and one size fits all. It is contagious, but never committed a crime, started a war, or broke up a relationship. It cost nothing and is non-taxable.”

Did you know the average four-year-old laughs about 400 times a day? The average adult laughs only 15 to 16 times a day. Maybe that is one of the reasons Jesus said, “Unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 18:3, NIV).

There are many reasons we should laugh more often as adults. However, I want to address four specific reasons you should laugh more.

  • It Creates Connection

The more laughter within a group, the more bonding within that group. Companies, churches, families, or friendships; if you want a tighter connection with a group of people, laughter can create that connection. Laughter is an encourager. As long as you are not laughing at someone’s shortcomings, laughter within a group can be an encouragement to people. Who does not enjoy being around people who make them happier? Laughter creates connection. If you want more unity in your company, church or family, create more laughter.

  • It Breaks Down Barriers

Laughter can break down the walls that cause division in your organization. Christian comedian Susan O’Donnel says, “It’s really hard to be really ticked off when you are laughing…You can…But you have to be a parent.” (Those of us who are parents can identify.) Laughter actually shuts off the flow of stress hormones. Therefore, you are more relaxed and more accepting and forgiving. If you want to break down some of those barriers of division in your organization bring laughter to the table.

  • It Makes Communication More Effective

Two boys were dressed up like devils for Halloween. As they were out doing their trick-or-treating, a big storm came up. The boys noticed a church nearby that was having services so they decided to go in to get out of the rain. Just as they opened the door a loud crash of thunder sounded and a large flash of lightning lit up the sky. This caused the lights of the church building to go out for just a few seconds. When the lights came back on the congregation noticed the boys dressed like devils. Sensing the fear in the people’s faces, the two boys decided to chase them with their pitch forks. Everyone in the church began to run for their lives.

One man’s shirt got hung on one of the pews and he could not get loose. One of the boys walked right up to him. The man quickly said, “I have been a deacon in this church for over 20 years…But I have been on your side the whole time!”

Stories like this often help people relax and be more open to what is being said next. Because laughter builds better connection and breaks down barriers it helps in making communication more effective.

  • It Creates Optimism

There was a man in a restaurant who noticed a woman staring at him. It was making him a little uncomfortable when all of the sudden the woman got up and began walking toward him. When she got to him she said, “Forgive me for staring, but you look just like my third husband! The color of your eyes, the style of your hair, the clothes you are wearing, your mannerisms… You look just like my third husband!” “Your third husband?” the man replied, “How many times have you been married?” She answered, “twice!”

Now that was one optimistic woman! If you laughed at that story then your optimism went up as well. Laughter actually triggers a flood of endorphins, the natural compound that induces euphoria. Through that process laughter increases your joy and makes you feel more alive! If you want to increase the moral in your organization then increase the laughter.

Here is a word of caution when it comes to laughter. If you have to be dirty or cruel to be funny then do not be funny. Laughter can be damaging when used the wrong way. If want laughter to have a positive effect, then the dirty and hurtful humor must be removed.

I leave you with some encouragement from Psalm 126:1-3,

When the Lord brought back the captives to Zion, we were like men who dreamed. Our mouths were filled with laughter, our tongues with songs of joy. Then it was said among the nations, “The Lord has done great things for them.” The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.  (NIV, emphasis added)

What are some other reasons we should laugh more? 

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He travels to speak on goals, priority management, faith, personality types and other related topics. If you would like to find out more about Tommy’s speaking and coaching, please visit his website:
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Stop It! – What Is A “Sabbath” Anyway?

Sabbath literally means to STOP.  Holy rest… that’s it…  What else is there to write?  I guess this would make a really short blog post if I stopped right there so I’ll elaborate a bit.  

Exodus 20: 8-11 says:
“Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns. 11 For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore, the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.

I think it is a matter of priority management.  If God had said “to remember to rest because your body needs it from time to time, plus it is a good idea to think about holy things from time to time as well – then we would probably never do either one!  We have a hard enough time doing it when it is divinely scheduled.  Holy rest should be the most important item on our calendar.

Holy rest is for everyone involved.  That is one reason I like not going to places of business on Sundays.  Our family hasn’t visited a place of business on a Sunday in over 20 years.  Not because it is my Sabbath but it would more than likely be a Sabbath for the person working.  (As a minister, Sundays are the hardest day of work for me. So we, as a family, take another day during the week off from work.)  According to this passage, observing the Sabbath is not just about me.  It’s also about family (son or daughter) employees (servants) animals (animals) or foreigners (Possibly non-Jesus followers).

So, how do you slow down and observe the Sabbath?

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