Embrace Your Weird

Do you ever feel like you just do not fit in?
Do feel like you see things differently than everyone else?
Are you tired of trying to conform to everyone else?
GOOD!

My wife, kids, and I are in the middle of our fourth month-long spending fast. (Not four in a row – this is our fourth year of doing a month-long spending fast in February.) We homeschool our kids. We do not allow our kids to do sleepovers. We have a nightly ritual where we all get together and each one of us will enthusiastically say a short definition of our word for the year. Then we shout out our word for the year all together. I could list a plethora of other ways that my family and I are weird.

If you do not believe me just come hang out at our house for a while…you will see.

My encouragement to my family and to you is…EMBRACE YOUR WEIRD!

Whatever is different or unique about you, embrace that. If you have different gifts and abilities, then embrace them…if you have different passions then embrace them…if you have had different experiences then embrace them…if you have a different way of being motivated, a different way of thinking or communicating…a different way of prioritizing your life then embrace that…EMBRACE YOUR WEIRD!

You were born an original, don’t die a copy!

There are four main personality styles:

HEART is the security-seeking personality. They make up about 40-50% of the world’s population. Their time focus is the past. They are loyal, dependable, organized.

BODY is the thrill-seeking personality. They make up about 30-40% of the world’s population. Their time focus in the present. They are fun, exciting, and adventurous.

SOUL is the identity-seeking personality. They make up about 10-20% of the world’s population. Their time focus is the future. They are dreamers, inspirational, and purposeful.

MIND is the knowledge-seeking personality. They make up about 5-10% of the world’s population. Their time focus is intervals. They are analytical, strategic, and efficient.

Those are the four major personality styles, yet they do not fully describe the depth of weirdness we all have. These four major personality styles help

us better understand ourselves and others, yet the human psyche is more complex than merely four personality styles. There is much diversity within each one of those styles.

So embrace your weird. Develop the strengths you already have. Do not try to conform to what somebody may be. Be the person God created you to be. You are a masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10)!

You were born an original…Don’t die a copy!

EMBRACE YOUR WEIRD!

 


I offer FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham uses speaking and coaching to bring the power of enthusiasm to those who are ready to inspire their fire! He’s on a mission to break the monotony of the mundane and mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages and individual lives as he possibly can.

He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm. Tommy empowers, entertains and energizes audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rock star for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

The Greatest Showman, P. T. Barnum and Tommy Lanham

My wife and kids took me to see the movie “The Greatest Showman” for my birthday. It is a musical loosely based on the life of P. T. Barnum. It is one of the five best movies I have ever watched.

The acting was great, the music and songs were excellent, and it was extremely inspiring. When I came home, I went to my office and began to write. My mind was moving faster than I could think (I know that does not seem possible, but it really did happen).

P.T. Barnum’s story inspired me in my desire to break the monotony of the mundane and the mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages, and individual lives as I possibly can. Barnum stepped outside the status quo and did the unusual, strange, and weird. That inspires me!

I want to share with you what was birthed out of the inspiration I received from the movie. “The Greatest Showman”.

Here are those words:

I am escaping the mundane jungle and living as an ENTHUSIAST. I am ready to leave the mediocre and the status quo behind. The less sense it makes, the more it appeals to me.

I will fight the fight, run the race, step beyond my stride. I will seek out the greatness in others so we can share our journey together.

I cannot be satisfied. It is not in my DNA. I cannot grasp the concept of arrival.

I am only limited by my imagination and my imagination is limitless and running wild. I cannot control it and therefore it is controlling me. The greatest nation in the world is imagination.

I cannot be still. I cannot be held. I cannot be settled.

Here I go! My time is come. I will surpass myself daily.

I cannot hold back. I serve a God with no limitations and therefore when I allow God’s power to work through me I have no limits.

I have left the land of the Mundanians. They are no longer my tribe. They are too small to fit me any longer.

I have entered the land of the ENTHUSIASTS. Feeding my ENTHUSIASM has become my daily routine. The ENTHUSIASTS will change the world and any part they cannot change, they will leave to their own small, mediocre, status quo, Mundanian demise.

I have not come this far to only come this far. There is still more ENTHUSIASM to spread and I will be the number one ENTHUSIASM spreader in the world!

Thank you for letting me share. I am on an ENTHUSIASM journey and the more that come along the better! Will you join me?  Are you ready to become a part of the fellow enthusiasts’ community?

HERE WE GO!


I offer FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham uses speaking and coaching to bring the power of enthusiasm to those who are ready to inspire their fire! He’s on a mission to break the monotony of the mundane and mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages and individual lives as he possibly can.

He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm. Tommy empowers, entertains and energizes audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rock star for hiring Tommy Lanham!

Enthusiasm – God In You

I use speaking and coaching to bring the power of ENTHUSIASM to those who are ready to inspire their fire. This is what I am all about. If you are ready to catch the fire and fan the flames, then you are who I want to work with.

My mission is to break the monotony of the mundane and the mediocre by bringing as much ENTHUSIASM to as many businesses, ministries, marriages, and individual lives as I possibly can. I have an ENTHUSIASM for life that I just want to spread to other people. Life is too short to live it in a mundane way.

Those of you who are a part of what I am doing, I typically refer to you as “fellow enthusiasts” because there is something inside of you that drives you as well. This is my drive, my passion, my calling. Will you join the ENTHUSIASM movement with me?

The word ENTHUSIASM comes from two Greek words.

En: meaning “in”  and  THUS: which is a form of the Greek word “THEO” which is the Greek word for “GOD”.
It is where we get our English word “Theology” which means “a study of God”. The word literally means “God within” or “God in you”.

As followers of Jesus we are, or at least should be, walking bundles of ENTHUSIASM! We have the very Spirit of God living inside of us. According to Acts 2:38, God’s gift of the Holy Spirit lives in us.

Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.  -Acts 2:38 (NIV)

This is why I do what I do. It is the leading of the Holy Spirit, the very presence of God within me, the ENTHUSIASM that drives me to do all this stuff. I am doing all I can to bring the power of ENTHUSIASM to those who are ready to inspire their fire!

Are you ready? Are you ready to take this journey with me? Are you ready to inspire your fire? Are you ready to become a part of the fellow enthusiasts’ community?

HERE WE GO!


I offer FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Subscribe to the YouTube channel to get notified when new videos are posted! 


_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham uses speaking and coaching to bring the power of enthusiasm to those who are ready to inspire their fire! He’s on a mission to break the monotony of the mundane and mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages and individual lives as he possibly can.

He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm. Tommy empowers, entertains and energizes audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rock star for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

Date Your Goal

Date your goal. I do not mean court it or take it out for dinner and a movie (although, you do want it to become a part of your everyday life, so in that sense I guess you should date it, but that is another blog for another time….) but give it a date as to when you will accomplish it. If your goal is specific and measurable (and it is, right?) then you can calculate a completion date for your goal.

I do not know who said it originally but I love the quote “Goals are really just dreams with dates on them.”  If that is true, and I believe it is, then a goal without a date is not really a goal.  At best, it is a dream that has the potential of becoming a goal.  At worst, it is a simple wish that you will never take any action toward.  Set a date!  If you have to re-adjust it later, that is okay!  But set a date so you have something to aim for right now!

Be reasonable when you set a date.  Do not try to lose twenty-five pounds in a weekend.  Sit down and calculate what would be a good and appropriate date to accomplish your particular goal, set it, write it down and then make it come true.  Stretch yourself, but be reasonable.

Dates help you keep on track and stay focused. Keep the date in your mind by reminding yourself of the date frequently. Write it down where you will see it frequently throughout your day.

Your goal is too important and significant to just accomplish “someday.” Be intentional and pick the day. You are in charge of when you complete the goal if you date it. Be intentional and date your goal now!


I offer FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Subscribe to the YouTube channel to get notified when new videos are posted! 


_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham uses speaking and coaching to bring the power of enthusiasm to those who are ready to inspire their fire! He’s on a mission to break the monotony of the mundane and mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages and individual lives as he possibly can.

He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm. Tommy empowers, entertains and energizes audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rock star for hiring Tommy Lanham!

Teamwork Makes the Dream Work

When I was preparing my first sermon at age 15 my minister at the time, Monty Cooper, sat down with me and walked me through the process. A couple of years later when I decided I wanted to go to Bible college to prepare for the ministry my minister at that time, Don Thie, drove me around to different Bible colleges to see which one best fit my needs. He also began to help me work on creating sermons and gave me several opportunities to preach at my church. When I was in Bible college and struggling academically I was about to give up when my Mom, Dallas Lanham, encouraged me to give it one more try. It took me six years…but I did graduate. (I later got my Master’s Degree and finished with a 4.0, but that is another story for another time.)

My point is that every worthwhile goal I have ever achieved I have had some help along the way. Whatever your goal or goals might be you will need other people to help you along the way. It takes teamwork to make the dream work!

According to Zig Ziglar, “Many people have gone much further in life than they thought they could because somebody else thought they could.”  We need people in our lives to help us get where we want to go.

You could probably list some names right now of people who have helped you become who you are, people who have influenced and inspired you… someone who comforted you during a tough time… someone who was a model for you whether they realized it or not.  No matter where you are in life somebody helped you get there.  Like Zig Ziglar says, “If you see a turtle on a fence post, you can rest assured that sucker didn’t get there by himself.”  He definitely had some help along the way.  You will need some help along the way as well if you are truly going to reach those goals.

Some of the things you will want to consider when choosing the people to help you:

  • Are they goal oriented?
  • Do they care about you?
  • Will they truly support you?
  • Have they achieved a similar goal or are they in the process of achieving a similar goal?
  • Do they truly want you to achieve your goal?
  • Do they have any experience or expertise in the area of your goal?
  • Do they have time to help you?
  • Do they have similar values to your values?
  • Do they have any experience or expertise in goal attainment?

This is not a rigid list of rules to follow but is simply some suggestions of things to consider.  You may add or subtract from this list as you see fit.

I also encourage you to write more than just people on your list.  What books could help you achieve your goal?  What audio programs?  What schools or other institutions?  Whatever help you need to make this goal come true for you, write it down.

If your goal is worthwhile you are going to need some help along the way. After you have chosen a goal to focus on begin to list who and what can help you reach that goal. Remember, it takes teamwork to make the dream work!


I offer FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Subscribe to the YouTube channel to get notified when new videos are posted! 


_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham uses speaking and coaching to bring the power of enthusiasm to those who are ready to inspire their fire! He’s on a mission to break the monotony of the mundane and mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages and individual lives as he possibly can.

He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm. Tommy empowers, entertains and energizes audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

 

 

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rock star for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

3 Easy Steps to Change Your Habits

Recently a fellow enthusiast asked me this question:

“From what I read and understand, change/resolutions, etc., come from changing habits. How does one really do that?? If I want to exercise more, eat healthier things, what habit am I forming and HOW?”

Here is my answer:

Changing our habits is not easy. Our mind gets comfortable acting in a certain way and when we change the routine, our minds will often resist. I do not know your unique situation. However, here are some general tips:

  1. Focus on the results. For any goal you have ask yourself “What is the purpose of reaching this goal?” write that down and read it frequently. It will keep you motivated and focused.
  2. Make it a must. We typically do not do what we feel like we “should” do. However, we almost always do what we feel we “”must.” For example, if we say, “I should start running.” We probably will not. However, if we “must” run somewhere to save the life of someone we love, we will find a way to do it.
  3. Visualize your goals. Getting a clear picture of your goals in your mind or even an actual picture you will see every day will keep you motivated and focused. I am doing a live event in Lexington, KY. on January 19, specifically covering this topic.

This is a quick answer, but hopefully it will help get you started.  Here is the link to the podcast of the radio show “Hope Is Here” hosted by Greg Horn. I was his guest on January 1-5. We discussed goal getting and overcoming discouragement. Listen to the show this week. The clips are only about 15 minutes each. If you have further questions please let me know. I can even do a free coaching call with you if you would like to dig deeper into changing your habits. Thanks for the question.

Additional comments:

Keep in mind that your brain makes neurological connections in the process of establishing habits. When you change your habits you are literally changing brain connections. Your brain will often fight those changes. However, when those new connections are complete then your new habits become easier. When the new connections become strong enough the new habits become more routine.

Also, any kind of accountability will help. Make changes with a group of people or at least with one other individual. Get a mentor that is already doing those things you want to start doing. Hire a coach to help you work those changes more quickly than you otherwise would have.

If you have any questions you would like my perspective on please put them in the comments.


I offer FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is on a mission to break the monotony of the mundane and mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages and individual lives as he possibly can because that is the power of enthusiasm!

He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rock star for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

Motivation to Move Forward

Next week I am going on a personal retreat to prepare my heart, mind, and soul for 2018. I will take this time to reflect on 2017 and what went well and what are some areas I can improve.

I will set some specific goals for 2018 and begin the process of developing my 2018 vision board. Through this process, I get myself focused for the year ahead. As I celebrate my victories and learn from mistakes of 2017, I will move forward into 2018 with great enthusiasm!

In Philippians 3:12-14 Paul teaches us about forgetting the past and moving forward toward our goals.  “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.  Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it.  But one thing I do:  Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus” (NIV).

He is teaching us that it does not matter what has happened in the past, but we are to focus on the future.  It does not matter how many times you have failed, messed up, or fallen flat on your face, get up… dust yourself off… keep straining toward the goal ahead of you.  Realize that failure is an event, not a person.  Yesterday ended last night and tomorrow is a brand new day.  It is not going to be easy, that is why Paul uses the word “straining,” but it will be worth it when you press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called you heavenward in Christ Jesus.

As you move into 2018, celebrate your past victories, learn from your past failures and use both as motivation to move forward. Do not let your past hold you back. Keep moving forward!

2018 holds brand new opportunities for you. Will you take hold of those opportunities or will you be too chained to your past to even see those opportunities? My encouragement to you is to forget what is behind and strain toward what is ahead, press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called you heavenward in Christ Jesus!


I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Click Here for 2 free goal-setting helps: “Dream List” and “Goal-Setting Funsheet”

Subscribe to the YouTube channel to get notified when new videos are posted! 


_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is on a mission to break the monotony of the mundane and mediocre by bringing as much enthusiasm to as many businesses, ministries, marriages and individual lives as he possibly can because that is the power of enthusiasm!

He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

Action Steps to Organize Your Pipe Dream Into Reality

Many of us have dreams, but what separates pipe dreaming from what I call organized dreaming? Written down action steps! Once you begin to write down specific action steps toward your dreams, you begin to move from a mere goal setter to goal getter.

Action steps are the steps of action you must take in order to press on toward your goal.  Paul, the New Testament writer, wrote these words to the church in Philippi, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.  Brothers, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it.  But one thing I do:  Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”  (Philippians 3:12-14, NIV).

Although Paul did not use the term, he is talking about action steps.  When you are “straining toward what is ahead” in order to “press on toward the goal,” you are taking action steps.  And in order for you to take the best action steps, you must write down the action steps you need to take.

Notice Paul did not say he had already reached his goal but that he was “pressing on” to take hold of it.  You could possibly call your “action steps” your “pressing on steps.”  Paul also points out that he is pressing on “to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me.”  Remember, goals are Godly Objectives Assuring Lasting Significance.  If you know anything about the Bible, church history or you have been to church more than twice, you will know that Paul definitely achieved lasting significance.  His goals were Godly Objectives.

As you approach the end of 2017 I know you have some goals you want to achieve in 2018. How will your next year be any different than your last year? The answer is in writing down a plan of action to achieve your goals…ACTION STEPS!


I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life, design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Click Here for 2 free goal-setting helps: “Dream List” and “Goal-Setting Funsheet”

Subscribe to the YouTube channel to get notified when new videos are posted! 


_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

 

 

3 Simple Strategies to Deal With Discouragement

In your opinion, what is the biggest obstacle to people reaching their goals?

A couple of weeks ago I asked this question on Facebook. One of the top answers was: “the discouragement of other people.” David Wilkinson, in his book “The Dream Giver”, identifies four different types of people who discourage us from reaching our goals:

  • The Alarmist: They say, “It’s not safe!” They are motivated by fear and tends to exaggerate the risks.
  • The Traditionalist: They say, “It’s not the way we do it!” They do not like change. They often romanticize the past and they are motivated by custom and routine.
  • The Defeatist: They say, “It’s not possible!” They see problems everywhere. They are certain you cannot achieve your goal or dream.
  • The Antagonist: They say, “I won’t let you!” They use authority or intimidation to block your path. They come against you because they are afraid they will lose money or control. Or they may just not like you or what you are doing. (p. 104).

These can be family, friends, co-workers, bosses, neighbors, and sometimes, complete strangers. For some reason, some people just do not want you to follow your dreams or achieve your goals. So, what do you do about it? I am glad you asked. Here are three suggestions:

  1. Change who you spend most of your time with.

We are typically the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Be intentional about who you are around most of the time. You may not be able to completely control who you are around, but you can to some extent.

Hang around with people who dream and are goal oriented. Look for people to dream with you. Hang around people who support you in your enthusiastic journey toward your God-given potential.

  1. Change your self-talk.

Shad Helmstetter says, “by the time a person is 18 years old they have heard ‘no’ or ‘you can’t do that’ over 148,000 times.” If you hear “no” or “you can’t do that” over 148,000 times you will begin to believe it. Those messages that have been programmed into our minds continue to speak to us.

We must change that negative self-talk into positive self-talk. We must reprogram our minds. The best way to do that is to be more intentional about positive self-talk instead of just using negative self-talk by default.

As we make that change, it will change our thoughts, which will change our beliefs, which will change our feelings, which will change our actions, which will change our results. We cannot always change what other people tell us, but we can change what we tell ourselves.

  1. Hire a coach.

A coach helps you overcome the obstacles in your way so you can better and more quickly achieve your goals. Thomas Leonard put it this way, “a coach helps people set goals, do more than they would have done on their own, and improve focus as to produce results more quickly.” When you are dealing with the discouragement of others, a coach can help you put things in perspective instead of being sidetracked by other people’s negativity.

Here are some statistics on coaching:

  • 80% of people who receive coaching report increased self-confidence,
  • 70% benefit from improved work performance, relationships, and more effective communication skills
  • 86% of companies report that they recouped their investment on coaching and more (source: ICF 2009).

Most coaches offer one FREE introductory session. I would encourage you to find three coaches that look like they may be a good fit for you and schedule a FREE session with each one. Then choose one to work with so you can work past the negative input of other people. A good coach will always be an encourager that helps you stretch beyond your comfort zone. You can sign-up for a FREE coaching session with me here.

Getting past those negative influences is not an easy task. It takes finding more positive people to be around, changing your self-talk, and working with an encouraging coach to break through the negativity into the person God has created you to be. God has not called you to be a part of the mediocre, he has called you to greatness!

Which action will you take today?


I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life, design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

 

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What To Do With Obstacles

One of the important aspects of achieving our goals is often overlooked. That aspect is…. the obstacles in our way. What role do obstacles play in our journey to achieve our goals?

Obstacles, when looked at correctly, can often help us reach our goals.  “We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.  And hope does not disappoint us.”  (Romans 5:3-5, NIV).  I think you would agree that having hope definitely helps us achieve those goals.  And what produces hope?  Character!  “The noble man makes noble plans, and by noble deeds he stands.” (Isaiah 32:8, NIV).  Noble means of outstanding character.  And what produces character?  Perseverance.  Perseverance is the ability to continue on after the excitement is over.  Perseverance is being committed no matter what.  And what produces perseverance?  Suffering.  Suffering is what the obstacles in your way often cause.

Now you have to ask yourself this question… “What am I going to do about it?  Am I going to let this obstacle kill my chances of achieving this goal or will it produce in me perseverance, character, and hope?”  The latter choice will “not disappoint us” while the former choice will cause us some level of disappointment for the rest of our lives.

BIRDS AND AIR

Have you ever stopped to think that air is the only obstacle that a bird in flight typically faces?  Yet without the air, the bird falls to the ground instantly?  Often times it is the same way with our obstacles.  So, do not bad-mouth your obstacles too quickly.  They just might be the only thing keeping you going.

Keep in mind you do not want to focus too heavily on your obstacles.  John Maxwell says, “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goals.”  Do not let your obstacles take your eyes off your goals.  Instead, see them for what they are: stepping stones toward your goals.  Think about it, it is much easier to climb a rough mountain than it is a smooth one because the roughness provides the footholds.  That is what obstacles provide on your journey toward your goals.

We must identify those obstacles that are keeping us from reaching our goals. We must identify at least one action step for each obstacle. When we put those action steps into place we are on our way to achieving our goals.  Need some help?


I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life, design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Click Here for 2 free goal-setting helps: “Dream List” and “Goal-Setting Funsheet”

Subscribe to the YouTube channel to get notified when new videos are posted!


_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!