Abnormal, Unbalanced, and Out of Step

Abnormal, Unbalanced, and Out of Step:  The Art and Science of Embracing Yourself.

“Everybody is a genius.  But if you judge a fish on how well it can climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life believing it is stupid.”      – Albert EinsteinEnergize prioritize communicate decision make.jpg

I believe that when people understand their personality style, they better understand how they energize, prioritize, communicate, and decision-make.

Many live under the myth of living a “balanced life.”  In contrast to that, I like to encourage people to live an intensely focused life.

You can’t do both.

People who live a balanced life may have a comfortable job, nice families and a secure retirement.  But people who are intensely focused…. they…..

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Gandhi & Michael Jackson – Religious Leaders?

plank-eye.jpg“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged.  For you will be treated as you treat others.  The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.  And why worry about the speck in your friends’ eye when you have a log in your own?  How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye.  Hypocrite!  First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.”  
                                                    -Matthew 7:1-5 (New Living Translation)

This principle taught by Jesus is also taught by other religious leaders like Gandhi and Michael Jackson (Man in the Mirror… and no, I’m not serious about MJ being a religious leader).

It is similar to the concept that you cannot give what you do not have.  You cannot give good financial advice if you are broke.  You should not try to help somebody live a healthy lifestyle if you are not living a healthy lifestyle.

gandhiGandhi’s sister (not Michael Jackson’s sister… her name is Janet… or LaToya…. or Reba, but you never hear about Reba; I wonder what she did with her life…. well…. anyway….) once brought her son to Gandhi and said “Please tell my son to stop eating sugar.”  Gandhi responded, “Bring him back next week.”

A week later, she brought her son back and Gandhi looked at the boy and said, “Stop eating sugar.”  She asked him why she had to come back a week later.  He responded, “Because last week, I was still eating sugar.”

In Galatians, Paul encourages us to gently restore someone who has sinned.  I believe that is the role with our spouse or any other brother or sister in Jesus.  Of course, it must be gentle and for the purpose of restoration.

We should only point out any follower of Jesus’ sin if we follow these 3 guidelines:

  1. We must take care of the sin in our own life first.
  2. Be gentle in dealing with other’s sin.
  3. Only point out the other’s sins if it is for the purpose of restoration.

 

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Tommy Lanham is a personality strategist and trains groups of people in analyzing their own personalities as well as teaching them how to get along with different personalities. He is an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. He connects with his audience inspiring them to take action.

He speaks to various organizations of various sizes, providing the tools to help you follow your dreams to reach your potential.  

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What Do You See When You Look At You?

 

The_looking_glass_self (1)     Charles Cooley’s theory of the Looking-Glass Self in its simplest form is the belief that people see themselves the way they perceive the most important people in their lives see them. As followers of Jesus who should be the most important person in our lives? Yep, that’s right…Jesus! And how does Jesus see you? He thinks you are absolutely awesome! Let’s take a look at some of the ways Jesus sees us:

God’s Most Valuable Creation

In almost every day of creation, God looked at what he created and “It was good.” However, at the end of the sixth day of creation, God looked at all he has created and “it was very good.” (NIV) What made the sixth day so much better? I believe it was because God created humans on the sixth day. Humans are the only thing God created in his image and in his likeness. Of all the things God created, we are the most special. We are God’s most special creation! (You can read the creation story in Genesis chapter 1.)

As Loved and Loving

The hypocrisy of the religious leaders was not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. The Roman soldiers were not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. The nails were not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. Satan himself was not strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross. The only thing strong enough to hold Jesus on the cross, was his love for you and I. Not only that, Jesus has called and empowered to continue to love other people in that same manner.

To love without reason. When Jesus was asked what the most important commandment was Jesus responded, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these” (Mark 12:30-31, NIV).

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Created For a Purpose

Simon Peter was just a common fisherman until he had an encounter with Jesus. At once Simon Peter fell in front of Jesus and said, “’Go away from me, Lord; I am a sinful man!’ Then Jesus said to Simon, ‘Don’t be afraid; from now on you will fish for people” (Luke 5:8, 10).

Simon Peter went from being a sinner who could not stand in the face of Jesus to someone with a specific purpose given to him directly from Jesus. Jesus has a specific purpose for you as well. I would encourage you to find out what that specific purpose is and fulfill it. Jesus sees you as someone who was created for purpose!

Someone with Potential

When the religious leaders brought a woman caught in adultery (you have to wonder why they did not bring the man) to Jesus, they claimed the law said they must kill her by stoning. Jesus eventually responded, after playing in the sand for a while, “If anyone of you is without sin, let him be the first to throw a stone at her.”

Jesus-Writing-in-the-SandAs Jesus bent down to continue playing in the sand, the religious leaders slowly walked away. Jesus then asked the woman, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” she answered, “No one, sir.” Jesus responded, “Then neither do I condemn you. Go and leave your life of sin.” (You can read this whole story in John 8:1-11.)

Notice that Jesus did not ignore her sin, but neither did he define her by it. He saw a potential in her that the religious leaders did not see (or even care to see) nor did she even see in herself until this point.

Jesus sees you the same way. We have all done stupid stuff and we have all sinned big time (those who think you have not sinned big time have sinned the biggest). However, Jesus does not define you by your sin. Instead, he sees you as someone with potential!

“Jesus would rather die than live without you!” –Bob Martin

What are some ways you believe Jesus sees you?

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Stop It! – What Is A “Sabbath” Anyway?

Sabbath literally means to STOP.  Holy rest… that’s it…  What else is there to write?  I guess this would make a really short blog post if I stopped right there so I’ll elaborate a bit.  

Exodus 20: 8-11 says:
“Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy. Six days you shall labor and do all your work, 10 but the seventh day is a sabbath to the Lord your God. On it you shall not do any work, neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals, nor any foreigner residing in your towns. 11 For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, but he rested on the seventh day. Therefore, the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and made it holy.

I think it is a matter of priority management.  If God had said “to remember to rest because your body needs it from time to time, plus it is a good idea to think about holy things from time to time as well – then we would probably never do either one!  We have a hard enough time doing it when it is divinely scheduled.  Holy rest should be the most important item on our calendar.

Holy rest is for everyone involved.  That is one reason I like not going to places of business on Sundays.  Our family hasn’t visited a place of business on a Sunday in over 20 years.  Not because it is my Sabbath but it would more than likely be a Sabbath for the person working.  (As a minister, Sundays are the hardest day of work for me. So we, as a family, take another day during the week off from work.)  According to this passage, observing the Sabbath is not just about me.  It’s also about family (son or daughter) employees (servants) animals (animals) or foreigners (Possibly non-Jesus followers).

So, how do you slow down and observe the Sabbath?

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Tommy Lanham is a coach, leadership training expert, instructor, motivator, and a believer in Jesus. He is an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. He connects with his audience inspiring them to take action.

He travels to speak on goals, priority management, faith, personality types and other related topics. If you would like to find out more about Tommy’s speaking and coaching, please visit his website:
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3 Solid Principles for Stronger Relationships

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3 Solid Principles for Stronger Relationships

     It is estimated that over 99% of counseling is relationship counseling. 70% of people who are fired are fired because they did not get along or fit in. A 20-year Harvard study showed that relationships affect physical health more than food, exercise, or even genetic makeup. It is plain to see that relationships are significant. Even Jesus said there is no commandment greater than loving God and loving people (Mark 12:30-31). As we enter the month of February, the month for relationship and romance, let’s take a look at 3 solid principles for stronger relationships.

  1. Respect

Make people feel understood and appreciated. 46% of people who leave their job say it is because they didn’t feel respected or appreciated. Make sure your respect is genuine. Les Giblin says, “You can’t make the other fellow feel important in your presence if you secretly feel that he is a nobody.”

 

  1. Patience

Control your anger. The Bibles tells us, “Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry” (Ephesians 4:26, The Message). There are some situations when we should be angry. However, if we want to build stronger relationships, we must channel that anger in a constructive way to resolve a situation, not hurt the other person. You can never build a better relationship with someone you are angry with. Be careful with the words you use toward people you want a better relationship with. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can break my heart.

  1. Forgiveness

Be as gentle with other’s faults as you are your own. The core of the Bible’s message is forgiveness – forgiveness we receive and forgiveness we give. “Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32, The Message). Unfortunately, we like to categorize sin into big sins and little sins. This is the way we categorize it: Big sins are the ones you do and little sins are the ones I do. If you want to build better relationships with those you love, you must be as gentle with their faults as you are your own.

Look for the Best in Each Other

Respect, patience, and forgiveness can catapult your relationships to a whole new level. Whether they be your relationship with your spouse, kids, extended family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or customers. Here is my last bit of encouragement from the Bible concerning relationships:

Get along among yourselves, each of you doing your part. Our counsel is that you warn the freeloaders to get a move on. Gently encourage the stragglers, and reach out for the exhausted, pulling them to their feet. Be patient with each person, attentive to individual needs. And be careful that when you get on each other’s nerves you don’t snap at each other. Look for the best in each other, and always do your best to bring it out.          -1 Thessalonians 5:13-14 (The Message)

What additional solid principles could you share to help us build stronger relationships?

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Tommy Lanham is a coach, leadership training expert, instructor, motivator, and a believer in Jesus. He is an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. He connects with his audience inspiring them to take action.

He travels to speak on goals, priority management, faith, personality types and other related topics. If you would like to find out more about Tommy’s speaking and coaching, please visit his website:
www.TommyLanham.com

 

5 Benefits of Working Toward Goals Plus One Bonus!

5 Benefits of Working Toward Goals Plus One Bonus!

goalWhy all the hoopla about goals this time of year? Well, David G. Jensen, Chief Administrative Officer at the Crump Institute of Biological Imaging for the UCLA School of Medicine, did a study and found that people who set goals and develop a plan of action to reach those goals experience six specific benefits.

  1. You are more enthusiastic

As you move toward your goals, it creates an enthusiasm inside of you. Having a goal to move toward is motivating. There is just something exciting about seeing yourself make progress in reaching a goal.

  1. You have better healthhealth

What a person becomes in moving toward a goal is even more important than reaching that goal. If you set a goal to reach a certain weight and you only get half way there, at least you are better off than you were before you started. Plus your goal becomes much more reachable.

  1. You have better performance

Those who have goals and a plan of action to reach those goals perform better in their careers. Most employers want somebody who is goal- oriented because they get more done. If you are an entrepreneur, your business is more likely to succeed if you have some goals you are working toward.

  1. You have a happier marriage

Logo-happy-mariageOften times people set personal goals, physical goals, career goals, but what about marriage goals? Setting some relationship goals with your spouse can help improve your marriage satisfaction.

  1. You are more satisfied with life and work

Having a goal to work toward gives meaning and reason for existence. As you work toward your goal you begin to see the progress and it gives you more satisfaction. When you achieve a goal you can see the difference that it makes in you and the people around you.

Bonus: You make more money!

That is true folks. David G. Jensen found in his study that people who set goals and develop a plan of action to reach those goals earn an average of $4,000 more a month. Now, money isn’t everything, but as Zig Ziglar says, “It is reasonably close to oxygen.” $4,000 more a month may seem unrealistic to some (it depends on how goal oriented you already are) but just think if Jensen is half wrong…That is still an extra $2,000 more a month. What would you do with an extra $24,000 a year?

Are these benefits enough for you to start working toward some goals? Are they enough to get you motivated? Regardless of who you are, I would be willing to say there is at least one of those six benefits you would like to have true in your life.

 

lowres07Tommy Lanham is an author, speaker, pastor, and coach. He travels to churches and other organizations to speak on goals, priority management, faith, and other related topics. If you would like to find out more about Tommy’s speaking and coaching please visit his website: www.TommyLanham.com