An Open Letter to the Church

church3I love the church and I have been disgusted with the church. The church has been my biggest source of comfort and my biggest source of pain. I have found the best people I know in the church and I have found the worst people I know in the church.  The church has made me proud and the church has made me embarrassed. The church has been my refuge from the world and it has brought the world to me. The church has taught me the Bible and I have, at times, had to learn the Bible despite what the church was teaching me. The church has shown me Jesus and the church has shown me Satan.

The church has fallen short of its calling. Even though the church is the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12), it is also inhabited by people. As the church, we are to be a fellowship of people who are the body of Christ. At times, we represent Jesus well and at other times we fail miserably at it.

church6Tony Campolo says, “The church is the light of the world, and like any other light sometimes it attracts bugs.” The longer I am in ministry the more I understand that quote. The church is both great and pitiful at the same time.

The church is this walking paradox that is the greatest source of positive change in this world as well as the greatest obstacle to change. We are often clueless to how much the church has influenced so many great characteristics of our culture. We simply take these characteristics for granted today. At the same time, there are some in the church who fought the very changes that have made such a positive difference in our world.

church5I love the church. It is my biggest source of comfort. It is where I have met the best people on the planet.  It has made me proud.  It has been my place of refuge.  It has taught me the fundamental truths of the Bible. The church has shown me Jesus and Jesus is all these things and more to me. Without the church, I would not have met Jesus. Jesus gives me life to the full, an abundant life, a real eternal life and a more and better life than I ever dreamed of.

So, thank you church! The many churches I have been a part of over the years. The one that birthed and raised me, the ones that taught and groomed me, the ones that have inspired and empowered me, and all the ones that will continue to work in my life as long as I am on this earth. I will never turn my back on you.You are not always perfect, but neither am I. One of the big reasons you are not perfect is because I am a part of you. With all your spots, blemishes, and shortcomings I would rather be a part of you than any other group of people this world has to offer.

So, church, no matter what happens, I will never leave you nor forsake you!


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God and Disc Golf

disc golfOne of my two favorite sports is Disc Golf (my other favorite is Wiffle Ball). Disc Golf is played similar to ball golf. Instead of hitting a ball with a club into a hole, you throw a disc into a basket. Each basket has a specific par, just like in ball golf, and the goal is to get the disc in the basket in as few throws as possible.

disc golf2The interesting thing about Disc Golf is the number of different discs that perform different tasks. You have driver discs, mid-range discs, and putter discs. You also have some discs that are easier to curve to the right while others are easier to curve to the left. Some discs float, in case you do not make those over the water shots, and others do not. Different discs can be made of different kinds of plastic and each one serves a different purpose.

Here is the weird thing. I believe God has made us in a similar way that manufacturers have made those discs. He has made all of us different to serve different tasks. The sad part about this is that discs are more often used for their specific purpose than people are.

Galatians 6:4-5 says, “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life” (The Message). We all have different spiritual gifts, passions, abilities, personalities, and experiences. God has made us for a specific purpose.

Just like certain discs are used for specific tasks, so certain people are made for specific tasks. None of us can do everything. There is something you do better than most other people. Find out what that is and then sink yourself into that.

Be creative! Make the search! Discover your purpose! Then wear yourself out doing exactly what God created you to do!  Anybody up for a game of disc golf??


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Will You Take Extreme Steps To Start Saving Money?

Zig Ziglar used to say, “If you do the things you need to do when you need to do them the day will come when you can do the things you want to when you want to do them.” That statement is true in all areas of life, but especially when it comes to saving money.

If we will save money when we need to save it (NOW) the day will come when we can use our money the way we want to use it; whether it is having enough money to cover emergencies, to cover large expenses, or having enough to truly bless someone who is struggling. Whatever our motivation, it will be nice to have the money when the time comes.

burninghouseIf your child, or someone you love, was in a house that was on fire, what would you do to get that person out of the house? …. Yep! Anything you possibly could, and maybe even more than what is possible, to save your child or loved one. In other words, you would not make excuses.  You would go to extreme measures to save your child or loved one.

We will save money when it becomes very, very, very important to us. Not when the economy changes, not when this person moves out or when that person gets a job, not when the new president takes office. We will only start saving money when it becomes very, very, very important. Just like saving the child from a house fire, when it becomes very, very, very important to us, then no excuse is strong enough to keep us from taking action.john wesley
John Wesley said, “Earn all you can, save all you can, give all you can.” We will not have the money to bless others if we do not save the money we need to bless others. Again, whatever your motivation for saving may be, it will not happen because of outside circumstances. It will only happen when we make an intentional decision to save money no matter what happens. It is kind of like saving your child from a house that is burning down around them.

When will you decide to start saving?


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What Can You Do With a Lot of Money?

 

On Tuesday we discussed saving money for an emergency fund. Yesterday we discussed saving money to make cash purchases to avoid debt. Today let’s look at a third reason to save money, wealth building.

Remember, I am not talking about being eager for money I am simply talking about being wise with money. There is a difference. The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil (1 Timothy 6:10), but to be wise with money…well…that is just wise.

savingProverbs 28:20, says; “A faithful man will be richly blessed, but one eager to get rich will not go unpunished” (NIV). Please do not misunderstand me. I am not advocating a prosperity theology here. I believe this verse describes just the opposite. God does bless those who are faithful. All those blessings are not necessarily financial, although they can be. God blesses in many ways.

However, if your goal for faithfulness is to become wealthy, that would be “eager to get rich” and as this verse says, those will be punished. Again, do not be eager for money, but be wise with it. Saving money for wealth building does not have to be an “eagerness for”, it can simply be gaining wisdom with our money.

Someone who is faithful about saving a little money every month over a lifetime will build wealth. Being wealthy is not a sin. It is the attitude behind the wealth and the accumulation of it that makes it right or wrong. There are many wealthy people who use their money for godly purposes.

saving moneyDave Ramsey often uses the following equation: If you save $100 per month, every month for 40 years at 12% interest you will build it to $1,176,477. Then he goes on to say, “what if I am half wrong?” Well, the answer would still be $588,238.50. That is still not a bad retirement. Imagine the people you could help with that kind of wealth!

What do you want to do with your wealth in retirement?


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2 Keys to Help You Reach Your Potential

What two key words separate those who reach their God-given potential and those who do not?
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Image result for commitment definition  imagesThat is it. Those are the two key words that separate those who move toward their God-given potential and those who do not.  Intentional Commitment.

John Maxwell says, “What separates the developer of a successful dream from a mere
daydreamer is committed action.”

Tony Robbins says it is when something becomes a must that people move forward.

Intentional commitment, committed action, developing your “must”, however you want to say it, it comes down to deciding exactly what you are going to do and then doing it no matter what. (Dave Ramsey calls this your “no matter whats.”).

Zig Ziglar tells the story of when he was a little boy during the depression, he always tried to be at the neighbor’s house at dinner time. The reason?  He thought his neighbors were rich. Why?  Because they had their own cook and the cook had something to cook.
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One day the cook brought a pan of biscuits out of the oven and they were not any thicker than a wrist watch. Zig asked the lady, “What on earth happened to your biscuits?” She laughed a little bit and answered, “Well, these biscuits squatted to rise, and they just got cooked in the squat.”

Often times we get cooked in the squat. We get ready to do something, or we talk about doing something or we seek affirmation and approval from others before we do something, and we inevitably end up getting cooked in the squat.

Be intentional, make a solid commitment, and take action. This is how you get closer to reaching your God-given potential.

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First Step to Getting From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be

     Several years ago my wife and I attended a series of classes at our church. During that last class, the teacher looked at us and said, “You know what you have to do now right?” We looked at each other baffled and then looked back at him and asked, “No, what?”

In that moment, he looked us right in the eye and gave us some of the best advice ever.

“Sometin”.

     That was it. “Sometin”. That is great advice for how to get from where you are to where you want to be. Just get started. Zig Ziglar says, “Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly until you learn to do it well.

I do not know where this originated but it is great advice, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” Just get started. Those New Years Resolutions, goals, plans, whatever you want to call them…Just get started…

On your mark, get set, GO!

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If you wait for all the lights to turn green before you get in your car to drive somewhere you will never get anywhere.

Yet, that is often how we live our lives. We wait for everything to be just right before we move. Go ahead and move. Make mistakes, learn from them, and keep going.

Isaiah 32:8 says, “But the noble man makes noble plans, and by noble deeds, he stands” (NIV). Make the plan and take the stand. In other words, decide what action you are going to take and immediately take action.

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     Do something right now you have been putting off. You know what it is. You do not have to think that hard about it. Do it. Do it now!
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Never Settle – My secret formula to success and accomplishing goals.

Are you on track for reaching your 2017 goals?

What? Did you not set any?  It’s never too late to get started.

Listen as I reveal my secret formula to success in setting and accomplishing goals.

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Abnormal, Unbalanced, and Out of Step

Abnormal, Unbalanced, and Out of Step:  The Art and Science of Embracing Yourself.

“Everybody is a genius.  But if you judge a fish on how well it can climb a tree, it will live it’s whole life believing it is stupid.”      – Albert EinsteinEnergize prioritize communicate decision make.jpg

I believe that when people understand their personality style, they better understand how they energize, prioritize, communicate, and decision-make.

Many live under the myth of living a “balanced life.”  In contrast to that, I like to encourage people to live an intensely focused life.

You can’t do both.

People who live a balanced life may have a comfortable job, nice families and a secure retirement.  But people who are intensely focused…. they…..

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Are You Alive?

How long have you been alive?

This question reminds me of the illustration Tony Campolo uses: Image result for alive images Picture the professor asking his class this question. When they began to answer with their ages, he points out that they are merely answering how long their heart has been pumping blood through their body, not how long they have been alive.

Image result for boy on top of empire state buildingCampolo then illustrates the difference by telling of the first time he was on top of the Empire State Building which, at the time, was the tallest building in the world. It was a life-changing, defining moment for him. In that moment, he was truly alive.

Truly being alive has to do with falling radically in love with Jesus and following your God-given purpose.  Jesus came that we may have life and have it more abundantly; a life to the full; a real, eternal life, a more and better life than we ever dreamed of. (John 10:10, Msg)

Image result for ephesians 1:11-12“It is in Christ we find out who we are and what we are living for. Long before we first heard of Christ and got our hopes up, he had his eye on us, designs on us as part of his overall purpose he is working out in everything and everyone.” (Ephesians 1:11-12, Msg)

That is being alive!

So, I ask you…..   How long have you been alive?


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Can Life Coaches Help With Anxiety And Depression?

anxiety           Some would say that life coaching should not be used to overcome anxiety and/or depression. Others would claim that life coaching interventions can be used for mild to moderate anxiety or depression.

Most life coaches and other professionals in the behavioral sciences would agree that any clients experiencing anxiety or depression that are clinical or suicidal in nature should be handled by a licensed therapist. Therefore, a life coach must be willing to refer a client dealing with serious anxiety and depression issues.

David Rock and Linda J. Page (2009), in their book Coaching with the Brain in Mind, give some direction in how a life coach could work with someone experiencing anxiety or depression. In dealing with anxiety, Rock and Page (2009) encourage coaches to help clients get through their anxiety by modifying their beliefs to be more in line with their behavior.anxiety2

The concept of cognitive dissonance, first described by Leon Festinger (1919-1989), is when someone’s beliefs and actions seem to contradict. To have a client modify their beliefs to better fit their behavior would help them relieve the anxiety.

Coaches can also help reduce anxiety by helping them get clear about their goals.  This helps the client focus, reduce uncertainty, and restore calmness.

“We reduce anxiety and the sense of being overwhelmed that comes from the amygdala’s response to uncertainty. As the amygdala is calmed, cognitive functions such as working memory may be energized” (Rock & Page, 2009, p. 255). They also give the following suggestions when working with clients dealing with anxiety:

  • When anxiety strikes, your breathing may become shallow and quick. You can control the anxiety by controlling your breathing. Inhale slowly through your nose, breathing deeply from your belly, not your chest.
  • Stress will make your body tight and stiff. You can counter the effects of stress on body and brain if you relax your muscles.
  • Try positive imagery. Create an image that is relaxing, such as visualizing yourself on a secluded beach (2009, p. 340).

Depression Though depression can be more than a life coach is trained to work with, Rock and Page (2009) give this suggestion when coaching someone with mild to moderate depression:  Encourage the client to develop some level of exercise routine they are comfortable with doing.

According to Rock and Page, the United Press International did a study and reported “that half of patients suffering from long-term depression felt substantial improvement after a 10-day exercise program” (2009, p. 127). According to Rock and Page exercise also helps prevent depression from returning, releases endorphins which help people relax and feel better, and helps people’s thoughts organize themselves.

Life coaches must be careful not to work outside of their skillset. However, when working with mild to moderate anxiety and depression there are some interventions they can practice to help their clients overcome.

Reference
Rock, D. & Page, L, J. (2009). Coaching with the brain in mind: Foundations for practice. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

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I help clients address lack of focus, self-confidence, and other roadblocks while defining their dreams, identifying changes they want to make and discovering their passions.  With more than 20 years of experience and a master’s degree in life coaching, my mission is to equip and empower clients to climb to their untapped potential.

Primary Specialties: Entrepreneurial Coaching, Leadership Coaching, Goals Coaching
Secondary Specialties:  Marriage Coaching, Ministry Leadership Coaching, Public Speaking Coaching

 

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