Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

garbage.jpgWhat if I came into your house with a pile of garbage and dumped it all out on your living room floor? What would you do? You may call the police or you may take matters into your own hands and begin pounding some sense into me.  You would at least tell me to “Clean it up.” Depending on how quickly I responded to your demand, you may revert to one of the other two options.

The garbage on your living room floor can be cleaned up with some focused attention. But what about the garbage we pour into our minds on a daily basis? That is not so easily cleaned up. Be careful what goes into your mind.

Over the last two blogs, we have looked at two steps to finding real happiness: Step one is do something and step two is find someone. Today we will look at step three…feed your mind!

garbage 4Most people do not read a single non-fiction book after they finish school. We fill our minds with junk on the radio, T.V., the internet, and numerous other sources; but we do not take the time to fill our minds with good, positive, productive information. If we want to find real happiness, we must become life-long learners.

How many of you believe everything you read in the Bible? Now, how many of you believe everything you read on the internet? Now, I ask you, how many of you spend more time reading what you don’t believe than what you do believe?

I would encourage you to become life-long learners. Read or listen to something that will help you grow and move in the direction of your goals. If you do not have any goals, then maybe you could start with reading GOALS: Godly Objective Assuring Lasting Significance.

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Learn more about whatever it is you do in life. If you are married, read or listen to some books on marriage (The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman) or go to a marriage conference. If you are a parent, read or listen something on parenting (Scream-Free Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel) or go to a parenting class or conference. If you want to grow spiritually, read or listen to something on spiritual growth (The Bible) or go to church. Wherever you are in life or whatever you are doing, learn more about it so you can get better.

I am a speaker and a life coach who helps people climb to their God-given potential. You know what I read and listen to the most? Books and audios on speaking, coaching, and reaching my God-given potential. Those things not only feed my mind, they feed my soul.

If you want to find real happiness, I encourage you to do something, find someone, and feed your mind. Begin or continue your lifelong quest for learning. You may have finished your formal schooling, but if you want to find real happiness and joy, you must never finish your education.

What is the next book you are going to read? Class you are going to take? Audio you are going to listen to? Whatever it is, write it down (message it to me below if you want) and then take action! Buy it, pick it up, press play, whatever you need to do please do it now!


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

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How to Make the Most of Every Opportunity

Time management is a myth. Life is not about time, it is about priorities. Ephesians 5:15-16 says, “Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.” How we do this may be different for each one of us of depending on our personality style.

Each personality style has a different time focus and they prioritize their time and activities differently. Some work well with planners and others do not. Each style is motivated differently and they have different causes for procrastination.

How does each personality style best prioritize and make the most of every opportunity?

heart_PNG691The security seeking style-The Hearts-time focus is on the past. Planning is natural and important to hearts. They prefer a step-by-step plan with clear goals, objectives, schedules and milestones. Using planners is natural for them because they like to work systematically through lists. Hearts are motivated by schedules and timelines. Hearts are most likely to procrastinate when they feel they do not have control of themselves and their time. The best way for Hearts to get back on track is to stop over-organizing and get started.

bodyThe thrill-seeking style-The Bodies-time focus is on the now. They are the free spirits who are just living for the moment. They do not systematically work through lists very well. They are motivated by fun and excitement. They tend to procrastinate when they are involved in a long-term project or when something becomes boring to them. The best way for the Bodies to get back on track is to find some way to make things fun again.

soulThe identity seeking style-The Souls– time focus is on the future. Souls tend to look at the big picture rather than the details. Some Souls are not very good at working with planners and those who do use them more as life planners rather than day planners. Souls are motivated by personal meaning and developing people. Souls tend to procrastinate if they are unable to connect meaning or value to their tasks. The way Souls can typically get back on track is to take a mental break or sometimes they simply need to work in seclusion.

mindThe knowledge seeking style-The Minds-time focus is in intervals. This means they are less interested in what time it is and they are more interested in their present project. They tend to measure time by their projects instead of the clock. Minds are the ones who are most likely to lose track of time. Minds tend to get lost in their work or project and ignore the clock altogether. They are motivated by an intellectual challenge or having the opportunity to improve something or solve a problem. Minds tend to procrastinate when they over-analyze the task instead of completing it. Often times the best way for a Mind to get back on track is to take some time alone.

Evaluate how you best work according to your own style. Do not try to make the most of every opportunity by trying to be like someone else. Be who God made you to be and make the most of every opportunity in the style that fits you best.

How will you make the most of your opportunities today?

After reading today’s blog, what personality style do you think you are?  Comment below by clicking on “leave comment” and then at the end of the week, after reviewing each personality type in more detail, you can see if you were right!


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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