Step 4 to Finding Real Happiness: A Deep Spiritual Connection to God

Over the past few blogs, we have looked at how to find real happiness and joy. To read those blogs please click the links below:

Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

God Did Not Create Us to be Alone/Step 2: Find Someone

Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

Today we will look at the fourth and final step: connect spiritually. The ultimate happiness in life is not discovered until we connect spiritually. The first part of a spiritual connection is to come to know and love Jesus. However, there is more to deeper spiritual connection than just knowing you will go to heaven when you die. There are several practices to help you grow into a deeper spiritual connection with God. There are four that are foundational to spiritual growth and connection.

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Spiritual connection is limited at best if we are not reading the Bible. The Bible gives us direction, connection, and affection. The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us. He wants you to hear his voice, listen to him. The Bible is not so much a rule book as it is a love letter from God. Open it up and find out how much God loves you.

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Prayer
The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us, prayer is the primary way we speak to God. Reading the Bible and prayer is how we have conversations with God. No relationship can grow without authentic communication. If our spiritual connection, our relationship with God, is going to grow, we must have authentic communication with him through reading the Bible and praying to him.

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Fellowship
If we are going to grow in our spiritual connection, we must grow in our connection with other people who desire to grow in their spiritual connection. That sentence may be worth reading again. Jesus established the church, which is our primary place for getting this type of connection. I know, I know, some of you are saying “the church is full of hypocrites and they have lost the meaning of true spirituality”, and there may be some truth to that. However, we often do not hear the positive side of the church. Churches really are most responsible for the positive change that has taken place throughout history. We have done some things very wrong, but we have done much more right. If you want more input on that subject please read “An Open Letter to the Church”.

The church is what Jesus established for his followers to come together for a deeper spiritual connection with him. With all its faults it is still God’s chosen vessel for deep, spiritual relationships. If we want to grow in our relationship with God we must grow in our relationship with other followers of Jesus.

Giving
If we are to grow in our spiritual connection with the ultimate giver…God…We must become givers ourselves. Giving can be our time, talents or treasures. Better yet, it should be all three. One of the best ways to find real happiness is to become a giver. Psychologist Alfred Adler put it this way, “We could be cured of depression in only fourteen days if every day we would try to do something good for somebody else.”

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I encourage you to schedule time to read your Bible. If you do not understand it then look for a different translation that is easier to understand. Here are some of my favorites: New International Version, The Message, and The Voice. If you do not like reading then listen to it. You can get it on CD or even look it up online for free.

Set aside a time of prayer. However, do not limit your prayer time to just scheduled times. Be open to spontaneous prayers as well. My wife and I have scheduled times when we talk, but we are not limited to those times. We spontaneously talk throughout the day as well. It is the same way with God.

If you are not already part of a church then I encourage you to find one. Please do not just attend, get involved. If you can find one that has a strong small groups environment it may help your connection even better.

Look for opportunities to give of your time, talents, and treasures. Give to your church, give to your community, give to your favorite cause, just be a giver. To some extent the more you give, the happier you will be.


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God Did Not Create Us to be Alone / Step 2: Find Someone

In the last blog, we looked at one step to finding real happiness…Do Something! Nolan Bushnell, the founder of Atari, says, “Everyone who has ever taken a shower has an idea. It’s the person who gets out of the shower, dries off and does something about it who makes a difference.” You can read that blog here.

Step two is to find someone. Find someone to share life with. This may be a romantic relationship, but it does not have to be. It can be a close friend, a small group from your church, a family member, or anybody. Rick Warren says, “We discover our roles in life through relationships.” God did not create us to be alone. Even introverts need relationships. Maybe not as many, but we still need them.

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We can’t always put our hand on the right book, audio, or magazine, but we can always put our hand on the phone to call someone. Charlie “Tremendous” Jones says, “You are the same person today that you will be five years from now except for the people you meet and the books you read.” The right relationships take us places we would not otherwise get to go.

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Happiness and joy tend to be more abundant when we focus our attention on others. The odd thing about happiness is the more we try to pursue happiness, the harder it is to find. The more we try to give happiness, the more abundant it will be in our lives. There are many virtues and values, but here is the greatest: one person caring for another.

happy 4We cannot help but feel happy when we care for someone else. When we pour our lives into the lives of other people, it brings a level of euphoria that no self-indulgence could ever reach. Remember, this is a principle and not a tactic. In other words, we cannot help someone for the express purpose of making ourselves happy. Only when we help other people expecting nothing in return will we receive the greatest return.

So, reach out to someone today. Build on an already existing relationship or simply develop a new one. Who will you reach out to today? Write it down and do it now. Remember the first step? Do something! Here is your opportunity to do something now…Find someone!


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Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

happy-7.pngSeveral years ago my wife and I went through a series of four classes at our church. Each 2-hour class was offered once a month. The classes were about the purpose and values of the church; how to grow spiritually; how to get involved in ministry at the church, and how to tell other people about Jesus.

Four months later, the teacher of that fourth class asked if we had taken all the other classes. We responded, “Yes.” He asked,  “Well, you know what you have to do now?” My wife and I looked at each other. Then responded, “No, what?” He smiled and said, “Somethin’”.

In a very simple way, that was extremely profound advice. If you want to find true happiness and joy, you must do ‘somethin’. Happiness will not just show up on your doorstep. Get out and take action.

Nothing happens until somethin’ happens. John Maxwell puts it this way, “What separates the developer of a successful dream from a mere daydreamer is committed action.” If you want to be happy, if you want to be successful, if you want to climb to your God-given potential you must get up and do somethin’.

happyIf you have a dream, write down some actions to take and then pick one to do right now. If you are going to make a significant change in your life it must be done immediately and enthusiastically. Do it now and do it with enthusiasm. If it is worth doing then why put it off? Do it now!

If you do not know what to do or maybe you do not have a specific dream to work towards, then just do something constructive. Volunteer with your church or community, go visit someone in the hospital, call someone you have not talked to in a long time. Do somethin’!

Happiness and joy will not find you, it must be sought out. However, if you only self-indulge to make yourself happy, you will never find happiness. If your actions are only for your benefit, then happiness will elude you. The more “others-centered” you become, the bigger difference you will make in your own joy. That is a principle and not a tactic.

So, step one in finding real happiness is “do something”. Tomorrow we will look at step two.  But first, do step one by writing down an action you will take and then get up and do it! DO IT NOW!!  Take a moment and send it to me using the form below…. I’d love to hear your first action step!


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Do You Want to be Happy?

happy 4Are you happy? Do you want to be happy? What are you doing to find real happiness? Most people want to be happy. I have never met anyone who said, “I want to be miserable.”  But we often look for happiness in the wrong places.

John Maxwell tells of the time an interviewer asked his wife, Margret, if John made her happy. John Maxwell smiled as he expected a positive answer to this question, but to his surprise, she said, “No.” He was shocked until she explained; “It is not up to John to make me happy. It is up to me to decide to be happy.” She went on to explain how expecting someone else to make you happy will almost always leave you feeling unhappy.

It is too big of a responsibility to be in charge of someone else’s happiness. That responsibility can only be placed on the individual. In other words, if you want to be happy you have to decide for yourself to be happy.

Thappy 6hat next relationship will not make you happy.
That next promotion or job will not make you happy.
The next move will not make you happy.
Having kids will not make you happy.
Your spouse will not make you happy.

No’thing’ will make you happy long term. You may experience temporary happiness, but eventually, all of these will let you down. If you decide to be happy and joyful then all of these other experiences will actually be a more joyful experience.

happy 9So, the decision is yours. Will you make the decision to be happy? Paul, in Acts 26:2, says; “I think myself happy” (NKJV). Do not expect other people and situations to make you happy, think yourself happy and everything else will be a happier experience.

Over the next four blogs, we will look at four easy steps to finding real happiness.


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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