Step 4 to Finding Real Happiness: A Deep Spiritual Connection to God

Over the past few blogs, we have looked at how to find real happiness and joy. To read those blogs please click the links below:

Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

God Did Not Create Us to be Alone/Step 2: Find Someone

Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

Today we will look at the fourth and final step: connect spiritually. The ultimate happiness in life is not discovered until we connect spiritually. The first part of a spiritual connection is to come to know and love Jesus. However, there is more to deeper spiritual connection than just knowing you will go to heaven when you die. There are several practices to help you grow into a deeper spiritual connection with God. There are four that are foundational to spiritual growth and connection.

connection2Bible
Spiritual connection is limited at best if we are not reading the Bible. The Bible gives us direction, connection, and affection. The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us. He wants you to hear his voice, listen to him. The Bible is not so much a rule book as it is a love letter from God. Open it up and find out how much God loves you.

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Prayer
The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us, prayer is the primary way we speak to God. Reading the Bible and prayer is how we have conversations with God. No relationship can grow without authentic communication. If our spiritual connection, our relationship with God, is going to grow, we must have authentic communication with him through reading the Bible and praying to him.

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Fellowship
If we are going to grow in our spiritual connection, we must grow in our connection with other people who desire to grow in their spiritual connection. That sentence may be worth reading again. Jesus established the church, which is our primary place for getting this type of connection. I know, I know, some of you are saying “the church is full of hypocrites and they have lost the meaning of true spirituality”, and there may be some truth to that. However, we often do not hear the positive side of the church. Churches really are most responsible for the positive change that has taken place throughout history. We have done some things very wrong, but we have done much more right. If you want more input on that subject please read “An Open Letter to the Church”.

The church is what Jesus established for his followers to come together for a deeper spiritual connection with him. With all its faults it is still God’s chosen vessel for deep, spiritual relationships. If we want to grow in our relationship with God we must grow in our relationship with other followers of Jesus.

Giving
If we are to grow in our spiritual connection with the ultimate giver…God…We must become givers ourselves. Giving can be our time, talents or treasures. Better yet, it should be all three. One of the best ways to find real happiness is to become a giver. Psychologist Alfred Adler put it this way, “We could be cured of depression in only fourteen days if every day we would try to do something good for somebody else.”

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I encourage you to schedule time to read your Bible. If you do not understand it then look for a different translation that is easier to understand. Here are some of my favorites: New International Version, The Message, and The Voice. If you do not like reading then listen to it. You can get it on CD or even look it up online for free.

Set aside a time of prayer. However, do not limit your prayer time to just scheduled times. Be open to spontaneous prayers as well. My wife and I have scheduled times when we talk, but we are not limited to those times. We spontaneously talk throughout the day as well. It is the same way with God.

If you are not already part of a church then I encourage you to find one. Please do not just attend, get involved. If you can find one that has a strong small groups environment it may help your connection even better.

Look for opportunities to give of your time, talents, and treasures. Give to your church, give to your community, give to your favorite cause, just be a giver. To some extent the more you give, the happier you will be.


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Are You Dying From Debt Related Stress?

Yesterday we discussed saving money for an emergency fund. Today we will look at what is becoming a lost discipline: saving money for purchases. We live in an instant gratification society and we feel that just because we want something, we should have it right now – whether we can afford it or not. How do we make it happen? Debt!

IDebt Word And 3d Character Showing Bankruptcy And Poverty believe debt is financial cancer and it is killing people financially. Proverbs 21:20, says; “In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has” (NIV). It is unwise to just blow all we have and then when we find something we want, we just go into debt for it.

young couple worried at home in bad financial situation stress asking for helpDebt-related stress destroys marriages, reduces productivity in the workplace, and in some cases, it is literally killing people (Check out “Maxed Out” by James D. Scurlock). It is okay to purchase material wants if you are financially responsible when you do so. A big part of being financially responsible is saving up the money to make big purchases instead of going into debt.

Dave Ramsey says, “One definition of maturity is ‘delaying pleasure.’” Remember, “In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has” (Proverbs 21:20, NIV). The wise and mature thing to do is save up for big purchases.

debtDebt is a killer! As I said before, debt is financial cancer that is killing people that would otherwise be financially stable. By the way, the belief that the poor must go into debt to get by is a myth. I realize I may get some backlash from that but it is true. As a matter of fact, the less money one has, the more fatal going into debt will be.

debt stressI have had money and I have not had money and in neither case has debt been an asset.   To be honest, over the last 17 years, other than a mortgage I had for about 13 years, I have not had any debt. The freedom I have had during times of plenty and times of…well… not so plenty – I can greatly attribute to my and my wife’s refusal to go into debt.

So, go ahead and get you some “stuff’, just make sure you can pay for it without going into debt. And if you cannot pay for it, at least have the wisdom and maturity to delay that pleasure long enough to save up and pay cash!


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Can Life Coaches Help With Anxiety and Depression?

anxietySome would say that life coaching should not be used to overcome anxiety and/or depression. Others would claim that life coaching interventions can be used for mild to moderate anxiety or depression.

Most life coaches and other professionals in the behavioral sciences would agree that any clients experiencing anxiety or depression that are clinical or suicidal in nature should be handled by a licensed therapist. Therefore, a life coach must be willing to refer a client dealing with serious anxiety and depression issues.

David Rock and Linda J. Page (2009), in their book Coaching with the Brain in Mind, give some direction in how a life coach could work with someone experiencing anxiety or depression. In dealing with anxiety, Rock and Page (2009) encourage coaches to help clients get through their anxiety by modifying their beliefs to be more in line with their behavior.anxiety2

The concept of cognitive dissonance, first described by Leon Festinger (1919-1989), is when someone’s beliefs and actions seem to contradict. To have a client modify their beliefs to better fit their behavior would help them relieve the anxiety.

Coaches can also help reduce anxiety by helping them get clear about their goals.  This helps the client focus, reduce uncertainty, and restore calmness.

“We reduce anxiety and the sense of being overwhelmed that comes from the amygdala’s response to uncertainty. As the amygdala is calmed, cognitive functions such as working memory may be energized” (Rock & Page, 2009, p. 255). They also give the following suggestions when working with clients dealing with anxiety:

  • When anxiety strikes, your breathing may become shallow and quick. You can control the anxiety by controlling your breathing. Inhale slowly through your nose, breathing deeply from your belly, not your chest.
  • Stress will make your body tight and stiff. You can counter the effects of stress on body and brain if you relax your muscles.
  • Try positive imagery. Create an image that is relaxing, such as visualizing yourself on a secluded beach (2009, p. 340).

DepressionThough depression can be more than a life coach is trained to work with, Rock and Page (2009) give this suggestion when coaching someone with mild to moderate depression:  Encourage the client to develop some level of exercise routine they are comfortable with doing.

According to Rock and Page, the United Press International did a study and reported “that half of patients suffering from long-term depression felt substantial improvement after a 10-day exercise program” (2009, p. 127). According to Rock and Page exercise also helps prevent depression from returning, releases endorphins which help people relax and feel better, and helps people’s thoughts organize themselves.

Life coaches must be careful not to work outside of their skillset. However, when working with mild to moderate anxiety and depression there are some interventions they can practice to help their clients overcome.

Reference
Rock, D. & Page, L, J. (2009). Coaching with the brain in mind: Foundations for practice. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

 


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I help clients address lack of focus, self-confidence, and other roadblocks while defining their dreams, identifying changes they want to make and discovering their passions.  With more than 20 years of experience and a master’s degree in life coaching, my mission is to equip and empower clients to climb to their untapped potential.

Primary Specialties: Entrepreneurial Coaching, Leadership Coaching, Goals Coaching
Secondary Specialties:  Marriage Coaching, Ministry Leadership Coaching, Public Speaking Coaching


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2 Keys to Help You Reach Your Potential

What two key words separate those who reach their God-given potential and those who do not?
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Image result for commitment definition  imagesThat is it. Those are the two key words that separate those who move toward their God-given potential and those who do not.  Intentional Commitment.

John Maxwell says, “What separates the developer of a successful dream from a mere
daydreamer is committed action.”

Tony Robbins says it is when something becomes a must that people move forward.

Intentional commitment, committed action, developing your “must”, however you want to say it, it comes down to deciding exactly what you are going to do and then doing it no matter what. (Dave Ramsey calls this your “no matter whats.”).

Zig Ziglar tells the story of when he was a little boy during the depression, he always tried to be at the neighbor’s house at dinner time. The reason?  He thought his neighbors were rich. Why?  Because they had their own cook and the cook had something to cook.
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One day the cook brought a pan of biscuits out of the oven and they were not any thicker than a wrist watch. Zig asked the lady, “What on earth happened to your biscuits?” She laughed a little bit and answered, “Well, these biscuits squatted to rise, and they just got cooked in the squat.”

Often times we get cooked in the squat. We get ready to do something, or we talk about doing something or we seek affirmation and approval from others before we do something, and we inevitably end up getting cooked in the squat.

Be intentional, make a solid commitment, and take action. This is how you get closer to reaching your God-given potential.

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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Can Life Coaches Help With Anxiety And Depression?

anxiety           Some would say that life coaching should not be used to overcome anxiety and/or depression. Others would claim that life coaching interventions can be used for mild to moderate anxiety or depression.

Most life coaches and other professionals in the behavioral sciences would agree that any clients experiencing anxiety or depression that are clinical or suicidal in nature should be handled by a licensed therapist. Therefore, a life coach must be willing to refer a client dealing with serious anxiety and depression issues.

David Rock and Linda J. Page (2009), in their book Coaching with the Brain in Mind, give some direction in how a life coach could work with someone experiencing anxiety or depression. In dealing with anxiety, Rock and Page (2009) encourage coaches to help clients get through their anxiety by modifying their beliefs to be more in line with their behavior.anxiety2

The concept of cognitive dissonance, first described by Leon Festinger (1919-1989), is when someone’s beliefs and actions seem to contradict. To have a client modify their beliefs to better fit their behavior would help them relieve the anxiety.

Coaches can also help reduce anxiety by helping them get clear about their goals.  This helps the client focus, reduce uncertainty, and restore calmness.

“We reduce anxiety and the sense of being overwhelmed that comes from the amygdala’s response to uncertainty. As the amygdala is calmed, cognitive functions such as working memory may be energized” (Rock & Page, 2009, p. 255). They also give the following suggestions when working with clients dealing with anxiety:

  • When anxiety strikes, your breathing may become shallow and quick. You can control the anxiety by controlling your breathing. Inhale slowly through your nose, breathing deeply from your belly, not your chest.
  • Stress will make your body tight and stiff. You can counter the effects of stress on body and brain if you relax your muscles.
  • Try positive imagery. Create an image that is relaxing, such as visualizing yourself on a secluded beach (2009, p. 340).

Depression Though depression can be more than a life coach is trained to work with, Rock and Page (2009) give this suggestion when coaching someone with mild to moderate depression:  Encourage the client to develop some level of exercise routine they are comfortable with doing.

According to Rock and Page, the United Press International did a study and reported “that half of patients suffering from long-term depression felt substantial improvement after a 10-day exercise program” (2009, p. 127). According to Rock and Page exercise also helps prevent depression from returning, releases endorphins which help people relax and feel better, and helps people’s thoughts organize themselves.

Life coaches must be careful not to work outside of their skillset. However, when working with mild to moderate anxiety and depression there are some interventions they can practice to help their clients overcome.

Reference
Rock, D. & Page, L, J. (2009). Coaching with the brain in mind: Foundations for practice. Hoboken, NJ: John Wiley & Sons.

lowres01Do you need help reducing mild anxiety or steps to help with depression?  Register here to schedule a free 50-60 minute discovery call at your convenience.

I specialize in helping entrepreneurs, leaders, and other dreamers turn their dreams into reality.  Those whom I have worked with have described me as an “inspirational motivator.”

I help clients address lack of focus, self-confidence, and other roadblocks while defining their dreams, identifying changes they want to make and discovering their passions.  With more than 20 years of experience and a master’s degree in life coaching, my mission is to equip and empower clients to climb to their untapped potential.

Primary Specialties: Entrepreneurial Coaching, Leadership Coaching, Goals Coaching
Secondary Specialties:  Marriage Coaching, Ministry Leadership Coaching, Public Speaking Coaching

 

Visit the website:     www.TommyLanham.com