Climbing to Our God-Given Potential Together

_MG_0038lowresWOW! Last week I completed 100 blogs over the course of 100 business days. I love traveling this path to my God-given potential and I love sharing this journey with others. Over the past 100 blogs, I have shared with you stories and lessons I have learned over 25 plus years of climbing to my God-given potential.

I am investing the rest of my life sharing my experiences and lessons through speaking, writing, and coaching. For those of you who have joined me on this journey, I hope I get to see more and more of you as we take this journey together. I know this journey may not be everybody’s cup of tea, but for some of you, this is exactly what you want out of life.

_MG_0023cropOver the past 100 blogs, I have shared about:

Overcoming failure

Relationships

Priority management

Our spiritual walk

Goals

Dreaming

Believing

Achieving

Enthusiasm

And a number of other subjects. However, they all have one thing in common – climbing to our God-given potential. It is my heart’s desire to have as many people as possible join me on this journey.

007I will continue to write blogs, but probably not five a week like I have done over the past few months. The main subject in all of them will be how we can better climb to our God-given potential. Thank you for reading as you travel with me.

What are some areas I could cover that would help you in your climb to your God-given potential? Perhaps someone else is needing similar information as they take their journey. What are some success stories you would like to share?

I want to learn from you as much as you learn from me. Remember, we are on this journey together, let’s help each other along the way. Here we go!

Do you need help on knowing where to start?  I offer one complimentary discovery call if you’d like some help figuring out how God has specially gifted you.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

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God and Disc Golf

disc golfOne of my two favorite sports is Disc Golf (my other favorite is Wiffle Ball). Disc Golf is played similar to ball golf. Instead of hitting a ball with a club into a hole, you throw a disc into a basket. Each basket has a specific par, just like in ball golf, and the goal is to get the disc in the basket in as few throws as possible.

disc golf2The interesting thing about Disc Golf is the number of different discs that perform different tasks. You have driver discs, mid-range discs, and putter discs. You also have some discs that are easier to curve to the right while others are easier to curve to the left. Some discs float, in case you do not make those over the water shots, and others do not. Different discs can be made of different kinds of plastic and each one serves a different purpose.

Here is the weird thing. I believe God has made us in a similar way that manufacturers have made those discs. He has made all of us different to serve different tasks. The sad part about this is that discs are more often used for their specific purpose than people are.

Galatians 6:4-5 says, “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life” (The Message). We all have different spiritual gifts, passions, abilities, personalities, and experiences. God has made us for a specific purpose.

Just like certain discs are used for specific tasks, so certain people are made for specific tasks. None of us can do everything. There is something you do better than most other people. Find out what that is and then sink yourself into that.

Be creative! Make the search! Discover your purpose! Then wear yourself out doing exactly what God created you to do!  Anybody up for a game of disc golf??


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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What EXACTLY Is It You Do For a Living Tommy Lanham?

Hi!  I’m Tommy’s wife, Tammy.  Something Tommy and I have in common is we both struggle with a short answer when the inevitable question comes up “So, what do you do?”  I, personally, homeschool a 6th grader and 8th grader, am the chief marketing officer for my husband’s business as well a the owner of Tammy Lanham Images, specializing in photography and marketing for entrepreneurs and small businesses.  See – not really a very short answer, is it?

So I sat down with Tommy Lanham and interviewed him to try and get a better idea of how to market him.  I’ll let you listen in:

So Tommy, what is it you do for a living?
I used to say I was a speaker and life coach. The ppotential 2roblem with that answer is that many people have no idea what that means. It is such a vague description of what I do. It is like asking a mechanic what he does and him answering, “I lift hoods and twist wrenches.”

Give me the short answer.
I help people climb to their God-given potential. Although some think I’m a comedian, I love puns and that my full-time job is keeping my wife happy.  All of that is true, too.

Who is it that you help?
Organizations, churches, ministries, marriages, and individuals.  Hungry ones.

I was recently working with a coach myself and together we came up with,  “I serve those who hunger for their God-given potential.” This better identifies who I work with. People who are content in their day-to-day life probably have no interest in what I have to offer.

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Who will benefit from working with you?
Those who hunger.  Businesses who want to be more successful, more productive, more peaceful.  Organizations who are ready to move forward and really crush it.  Churches who want to go beyond the status quo.  People/organizations who have big plans but don’t know how to move forward with those plans.  Those who are ready to make changes, ready to discover what God has in store for them.

Those people are much less likely to get sidetracked when the climb becomes difficult. Because it will get difficult. If you do not have that inner hunger, all the skill, motivation and coaching in the world will not help you.

How exactly do you work with people?
I do one-on-one coaching, I travel and speak, offer motivational keynotes, present partial and full day training for organizations and events.  I have three popular presentations “Great Minds Think Together” “Organized Dreaming” and “The Climb” that can stand alone or build upon one another to create an unstoppable recipe for success.

Explain to me “Location / Destination / Navigation”
That’s the three programs I just mentioned.
1.  Location:  Step one is figuring out your own location – your starting point on your GPS. Who are you? Get an understanding of your organization’s strengths and weaknesses, personality, spiritual gifts, your present state, etc.  This helps give you an understanding of where you are starting. You cannot map out where to go until you find out where you are.  This self-awareness is discovered and examined in my program “Great Minds Think Together.”  It is the foundation of my 3-step program.

2.  Destination:  Where do you want to be?  What do you want most out of life?  This step is all about discovering your organization’s purpose and future. In this program, you create a vivid picture in your mind about where you would like you or your organization to go. What kinds of goals are you setting?  Get specific about your goal or dream. Do not say, “I want to increase productivity.” That is like telling your GPS, “I want to go north.” That is not a destination. In this program, I help you get specific. My program “Organized Dreaming” helps you set goals with razor sharp focus. It’s a great tool on its own but it’s also an incredibly effective tool when coupled with the foundational program in step 1.

3.  Navigation:  Once your GPS finds your location, and you enter the address you want to go to, then and only then, will the GPS calculate a route for you. Then you can follow the direction to get to your destination. Sometimes you may need to re-calculate along the way just like a GPS does, but that does not mean you abandon the destination. It just means you may need to make some adjustments along the way. The program “The Climb” is the motivation, empowerment and the guide along your journey that helps you navigate which step to take next.

There you go! A simple three step process. Location + Destination + Navigation = your GPS for success in getting from where you are to where you want to be!

So, what is it you tell people when they ask what it is you do?
I am leading an enthusiastic revolution against the mundane.  I don’t think they always get it.

You get up on a Monday morning.  What’s your first hour look like?
I send out reminder emails to my coaching clients of their upcoming coaching calls this week. I do any last minute preparations for any groups I’ll be speaking to during the week and check my calendar for upcoming group presentations or travel.

Then I eat a bowl of cereal and kiss my wife good morning.  Remember, gotta keep my wife happy.  😉  The same things any leader of a revolution does, right?


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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Your GPS For Success – 3 Steps to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.

 

Regardless of what you want to accomplish or achieve as an individual or as a team, there are certain steps you must take to get from where you are to where you want to be. It will not happen automatically. You must be intentional.  That means you’re not going to get there wandering around. gps2

I have developed a three-step process to get from where you are to where you want to be. It is a simple process that anyone can put into practice. I use these three words to outline the simple process; location, destination, navigation.

gps3Location – Where you are

If you are going on a trip you have to begin where you are. If you use a GPS, it first must find your current location before it can program a route to your desired destination. The same is true in life.

Before you can get from where you are to where you want to be, you must first discover where you are. This sounds like a no-brainer but frequently people want to get from one place to another without having a good understanding of where they are. In the behavior science field, this is called self-awareness.

Get an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, personality, spiritual gifts, your present state, etc. This helps give you an understanding of where you are starting. Where are you physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually? You cannot map out where to go until you find out where you are.

Destination – Where you want to be

gps4After your GPS finds your location you can then enter where you want to go. Until you enter a destination, the GPS cannot calculate a route. The same is true in life.

Get specific about your goal or dream. Do not say, “I want to lose weight.” That is like telling your GPS, “I want to go north.” That is not a destination. Get specific.

Describe in detail where you want to go. What will life be like when you get there? Create a vivid picture in your mind and perhaps even draw or print out a picture to put on a vision board. (Maybe I should do a blog on how to set up a vision board.)

Navigation – How to get there

Once your GPS finds your location, and you enter the address you want to go to, then and only then will the GPS calculate a route for you. Then you can follow the direction to get to your destination. The same is true in life.gps

Map out the actions needed to get from where you are to where you want to be. What do you need to specifically overcome the obstacles that may be in your way? Develop what Tony Robbins calls, “a MAP, a Massive Action Plan.”

Sometimes you may need to re-calculate along the way just like a GPS does, but that does not mean you abandon the destination. It just means you may need to make some adjustments along the way.

There you go! A simple three step process to get from where you are to where you want to be. Location + destination + navigation = your GPS for success in getting from where you are to where you want to be!


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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The Top 5 Qualities of a Leader

leadership2What are the most important things you’ve learned about leadership?

I have thought several times about that question. More books than can be counted have been written about leadership (John Maxwell alone has probably written more books on leadership than can be counted). However, with all that information, what would I consider the most important? Through reading, watching other leaders,; and almost 25 years of ministry and helping churches, organizations, and individuals climb to their God-given potential, these are what I would consider the five most important things I have learned about leadership.

  1. Love the People

Love the people you are leading. Care more about them as individuals than the vision or the organization as a whole. Some people, once they feel loved, will follow you anywhere.

  1. Image result for leadership imagesPlace them where they add the most value

Find out people’s gifts, passions, abilities, personality, and experiences and then plug them into appropriate roles. Help them through this process. Value who God made them and then place them where they add the most value.

  1. Begin with the end in mind

Know where you are going as a leader. Begin with the end in mind. You have no business leading someone if you do not have a clear picture of where you are going. “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (Proverbs 29:18, KJV).

  1. Lead yourself first

Lead yourself first. Before someone can effectively lead others they must be able to lead themselves. This means knowing how and being disciplined enough to get from where they are to where they want to be.

  1. Follow the ultimate leaderleadership

To be a great leader you must follow the ultimate leader, Jesus. Only those who have learned how to follow can truly lead. To be the best leader you can be you must follow the best leader to ever live.

I feel these are five very important aspects of great leadership. Whether you are a CEO, minister, spouse, or parent applying each one of the above characteristics will improve your leadership. What are the most important things you have learned about leadership?


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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5 Tips For Being More Productive

timeOver the years I have learned some secrets to being more productive. I must take proper action. It does not matter what we know if we do not put it into practice. Jesus reflected this in the story of the wise and foolish builders. The foolish builder heard what Jesus said, he had the knowledge, but he did not take proper action according to the knowledge. The wise builder heard the teaching of Jesus and then he put them into practice by taking proper action according to the information. The foolish builder’s house crashed and the wise builder’s house stood strong.

time2Productivity has not always been easy for me. I have had to learn along the way. My first breakthrough in understanding how to be more productive was realizing that time management is a myth. Time cannot be managed. I cannot decide that 3:00 P.M. does not work for me where it is, I need to move it to earlier or later in the day. Time cannot be moved or adjusted, therefore it cannot be managed, but I can manage my priorities. If I try to manage my time I will fail, but if I properly manage my priorities then I can be more productive.

Tips I have learned to be more productive:

  1. I forget about saving, managing, or organizing my time. Instead, I focus on managing my priorities.
  1. My favorite time of year is March because of March Madness college basketball tournaments. I love following each team’s progression through the brackets. (Especially the Kentucky Wildcats!) There is something about using a bracket system to find out which team is number one that grabs my attention.

I do the same thing with my priorities. I work my yearly, monthly, weekly, and daily priorities through a double elimination tournament bracket system so I can better discover my number one priority. This has helped me be more productive because it helps me focus on what is most important at that time. Plus, it is just plain fun!Priority Management Infographic

  1. Getting the right amount of sleep helps me be more productive. Sleep is highly underrated when it comes to what helps us be more productive. How much sleep we need may be different for each one of us, but it is vital that we understand how much sleep we need and consistently get that amount if we want to live at our highest potential.
  1. Waking up early. I know for some you may be more productive at night and if that is the case then I encourage you to work in your productive zone. For me, I am most productive early in the morning. The earlier I wake, the more productive I am, typically. This is assuming I went to bed early enough to get the right amount of sleep. Find your strength zone and do most of your work during that time if at all possible.
  1. Focused enthusiasm! When I can stay enthusiastically focused, I can accomplish more than I ever thought possible. Find out what you love to do and then enthusiastically pursue that adventure. In my opinion, the number one way to be your most productive self is to have focused enthusiasm!

What helps you be more productive?


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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Become Greater Than You Are – 4 Case Studies

david palmerOn May 6th, my friend, David Palmer, will graduate from the University of the Cumberlands. This is how his Facebook post read today, “Only took 6 years. Lol May 6th, finally!” David stayed with it regardless of the many challenges he faced over the years. Just like “The Tortoise and the Hare” it does not always matter how fast we finish, but that we have the perseverance to finish no matter how long it takes.

David’s announcement brought back memories of my own journey. I was never a good student academically. I was a “C” student at best. I always enjoyed school. A matter of fact I enjoyed the 6th grade so well I took it twice.

Tommy LanhamEven in college, I did not do well. Just like David, it took me six years to finish. My story was recently highlighted in my friend Daniel Matthews’ book “Spear Your Fear”. Matthews writes,

      Take my friend, Tommy, in the 1990’s, he was asked to leave college because of his grades. He was given a second chance and after a 6-year struggle, he managed to graduate with a 2.3 GPA.
     Most recently, he graduated with a Master’s Degree that was completed in just over one year and did so with a perfect 4.0 GPA. Today, he spoke at his former high school on “The Success of a 6th Grade Flunky.”
     Tommy knows that if you want to become greater than you are, you not only must be able to recognize the successes within your failures, you must be able to exploit them (p. 117).
daniel matthewsAs Daniel Matthews stated, I did go on to get my Master’s in Life Coaching with a 4.0 GPA. Daniel also struggled academically when he was younger deciding to drop out of high school. Several years later he graduated from Indiana Wesleyan University summa cum laude. (To find out more about Daniel Matthew’s journey read the book “Spear Your Fear” available at www.continue2improve.com.)

SorenI used to be somewhat embarrassed that it took me six years to graduate college until I discovered it took Soren Kierkegaard 10 years to get his undergraduate degree and today he is considered one of the top thinkers of the past 200 years. So, hey! I am in good company.

So, whether it is David Palmer, Daniel Matthews, Soren Kierkegaard, myself, or the countless others who have persevered in the face of trial and failure, ignored the naysayers who said it could not be done and realized that this life is not a sprint but a marathon I salute you. I salute us.

Never give up! Continue to press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of you (Philippians 3:12). It does not matter how long it takes it only matters that you complete the race.

Image result for daniel matthews spear your fear imagesThank you, David Palmer, Daniel Matthews, Soren Kierkegaard, and the many others who have inspired me with your perseverance.

God is not done with you…so never settle, live with enthusiasm, and turn the world upside down…Here we go!
Matthews, D. Daniel. (2016). Spear Your Fear: Five Simple Steps to Retrain Your Brain for     Success. Continue2improve. Lexington, KY.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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This Tool Transformed Our Relationship

 

I was recently asked, “What is the secret to a great relationship?” My immediate answer, “Communication!” This may not be the only secret to a good relationship but it is arguably the most important.communication
This is especially true in a marriage relationship. My wife, Tammy, and I went through what we call our “marriage conversion” a few years ago and we learned this one communication tool that has transformed our marriage! Maybe this tool can be helpful in your marriage as well.

Dialogue

This is an invaluable tool my wife and I learned at a marriage retreat a few years ago. This is how it works:

  1. Question – Agree on a question to answer. I will give a list of questions at the bottom of this blog to help you get started. Both of you answer the same question.
  1. Write – Both of you will separately take 10 minutes (timed with a timer) to write a love letter to your spouse answering the question that both of you agreed upon ahead of time. Write the letter specifically to your spouse. Open with Dear _____, and close it with a typical love letter closing. Hence, it is a love letter and not an opportunity to
    “let your spouse have it”. Be honest and also be loving in your letter.
  1. Together – The two of you will agree on a time to come together to share and discuss each other’s letters.
  1. Read – Set the timer for 10 minutes and then exchange letters. Read through the letter twice. Once with your mind and once with your heart.
  1. Discuss – When you are both finished reading each other’s letter, take the remainder of the 10 minutes to discuss the contents with each other. Again, this is a time to be both honest and loving.
  1. Next question – Go ahead and agree on the next day’s question before you finish. My wife and I usually have a list of several questions so we just go straight down the list with a new question each day.

Hope through relationshipsWe have done this little exercise six days a week for the past two and a half years (we take one day a week as a break). It has transformed our communication which has, in turn, transformed our marriage. I believe it can have a similar effect in your marriage.

Here are ten questions to help you get started over the next eleven days (remember, you may want to take a break one day per week). If you would like some additional questions please email me: TommyLanham@TommyLanham.com

  1. What was your first impression when you met your mate for the first time?
  2. What is your definition of a good marriage?
  3. When is your relationship the happiest?
  4. What quality do you like best in your mate?
  5. What is your idea of a great vacation?
  6. What are your goals in your marriage?
  7. Express appreciation to your mate for something that he/she did recently?
  8. What do you enjoy doing as a couple?
  9. What one thing do I want to change about myself that I think would please you?
  10. What do I love most about you today?

Resources for Questions
The Ungame: Couples Version
101 Conversation Starters for Couples. Gary Chapman & Ramon Presson
You can also Google: questions for couples


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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Black Friday Special

If you have been dreaming about reaching your goals and getting from where you are to where you want to be for a while now and things just aren’t happening as fast you would  want, then I’d like to help you create a MAJOR BREAKTHROUGH.

Here’s the scoop….

I’ve heard from many people that are having an especially difficult time following black-friday-special-dealtheir dreams and reaching their goals.  After hearing about so many people’s struggles, I decided to do something about it…

**Black Friday Special**

I’d like to invite you to take advantage of a special, “Organized Dreaming Mastery Class” where we’ll work together to…

  • help you get crystal clear about your dreams and goals.
  • uncover the hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your dreams.
  • become renewed, re-energized, and inspired to turn your dreams into reality.

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3 Solid Principles for Stronger Relationships

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3 Solid Principles for Stronger Relationships

     It is estimated that over 99% of counseling is relationship counseling. 70% of people who are fired are fired because they did not get along or fit in. A 20-year Harvard study showed that relationships affect physical health more than food, exercise, or even genetic makeup. It is plain to see that relationships are significant. Even Jesus said there is no commandment greater than loving God and loving people (Mark 12:30-31). As we enter the month of February, the month for relationship and romance, let’s take a look at 3 solid principles for stronger relationships.

  1. Respect

Make people feel understood and appreciated. 46% of people who leave their job say it is because they didn’t feel respected or appreciated. Make sure your respect is genuine. Les Giblin says, “You can’t make the other fellow feel important in your presence if you secretly feel that he is a nobody.”

 

  1. Patience

Control your anger. The Bibles tells us, “Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry” (Ephesians 4:26, The Message). There are some situations when we should be angry. However, if we want to build stronger relationships, we must channel that anger in a constructive way to resolve a situation, not hurt the other person. You can never build a better relationship with someone you are angry with. Be careful with the words you use toward people you want a better relationship with. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can break my heart.

  1. Forgiveness

Be as gentle with other’s faults as you are your own. The core of the Bible’s message is forgiveness – forgiveness we receive and forgiveness we give. “Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32, The Message). Unfortunately, we like to categorize sin into big sins and little sins. This is the way we categorize it: Big sins are the ones you do and little sins are the ones I do. If you want to build better relationships with those you love, you must be as gentle with their faults as you are your own.

Look for the Best in Each Other

Respect, patience, and forgiveness can catapult your relationships to a whole new level. Whether they be your relationship with your spouse, kids, extended family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or customers. Here is my last bit of encouragement from the Bible concerning relationships:

Get along among yourselves, each of you doing your part. Our counsel is that you warn the freeloaders to get a move on. Gently encourage the stragglers, and reach out for the exhausted, pulling them to their feet. Be patient with each person, attentive to individual needs. And be careful that when you get on each other’s nerves you don’t snap at each other. Look for the best in each other, and always do your best to bring it out.          -1 Thessalonians 5:13-14 (The Message)

What additional solid principles could you share to help us build stronger relationships?

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Tommy Lanham is a coach, leadership training expert, instructor, motivator, and a believer in Jesus. He is an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. He connects with his audience inspiring them to take action.

He travels to speak on goals, priority management, faith, personality types and other related topics. If you would like to find out more about Tommy’s speaking and coaching, please visit his website:
www.TommyLanham.com