3 Simple Strategies to Deal With Discouragement

In your opinion, what is the biggest obstacle to people reaching their goals?

A couple of weeks ago I asked this question on Facebook. One of the top answers was: “the discouragement of other people.” David Wilkinson, in his book “The Dream Giver”, identifies four different types of people who discourage us from reaching our goals:

  • The Alarmist: They say, “It’s not safe!” They are motivated by fear and tends to exaggerate the risks.
  • The Traditionalist: They say, “It’s not the way we do it!” They do not like change. They often romanticize the past and they are motivated by custom and routine.
  • The Defeatist: They say, “It’s not possible!” They see problems everywhere. They are certain you cannot achieve your goal or dream.
  • The Antagonist: They say, “I won’t let you!” They use authority or intimidation to block your path. They come against you because they are afraid they will lose money or control. Or they may just not like you or what you are doing. (p. 104).

These can be family, friends, co-workers, bosses, neighbors, and sometimes, complete strangers. For some reason, some people just do not want you to follow your dreams or achieve your goals. So, what do you do about it? I am glad you asked. Here are three suggestions:

  1. Change who you spend most of your time with.

We are typically the average of the five people we spend the most time with. Be intentional about who you are around most of the time. You may not be able to completely control who you are around, but you can to some extent.

Hang around with people who dream and are goal oriented. Look for people to dream with you. Hang around people who support you in your enthusiastic journey toward your God-given potential.

  1. Change your self-talk.

Shad Helmstetter says, “by the time a person is 18 years old they have heard ‘no’ or ‘you can’t do that’ over 148,000 times.” If you hear “no” or “you can’t do that” over 148,000 times you will begin to believe it. Those messages that have been programmed into our minds continue to speak to us.

We must change that negative self-talk into positive self-talk. We must reprogram our minds. The best way to do that is to be more intentional about positive self-talk instead of just using negative self-talk by default.

As we make that change, it will change our thoughts, which will change our beliefs, which will change our feelings, which will change our actions, which will change our results. We cannot always change what other people tell us, but we can change what we tell ourselves.

  1. Hire a coach.

A coach helps you overcome the obstacles in your way so you can better and more quickly achieve your goals. Thomas Leonard put it this way, “a coach helps people set goals, do more than they would have done on their own, and improve focus as to produce results more quickly.” When you are dealing with the discouragement of others, a coach can help you put things in perspective instead of being sidetracked by other people’s negativity.

Here are some statistics on coaching:

  • 80% of people who receive coaching report increased self-confidence,
  • 70% benefit from improved work performance, relationships, and more effective communication skills
  • 86% of companies report that they recouped their investment on coaching and more (source: ICF 2009).

Most coaches offer one FREE introductory session. I would encourage you to find three coaches that look like they may be a good fit for you and schedule a FREE session with each one. Then choose one to work with so you can work past the negative input of other people. A good coach will always be an encourager that helps you stretch beyond your comfort zone. You can sign-up for a FREE coaching session with me here.

Getting past those negative influences is not an easy task. It takes finding more positive people to be around, changing your self-talk, and working with an encouraging coach to break through the negativity into the person God has created you to be. God has not called you to be a part of the mediocre, he has called you to greatness!

Which action will you take today?


I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life, design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

 

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What My Mother-In-Law Did To Me In 2017

Last Christmas, my wonderful mother-in-law got me an excellent Christmas gift. She usually gets me good gifts anyway. I love flashlights and it seems like she gets me a new one every year. I love peanuts and she typically gets me a large container of Virginia Diner gourmet peanuts. Wow! My mouth is watering just thinking about it! I am glad Christmas will be here soon.

However, with all the great Christmas gifts my mother-in-law has ever gotten me, last year she topped them all! You guys know I am a personal development junkie. Last year she got me…The brand new…Tony Robbins “Ultimate Edge: A 3-Part System for Creating an Extraordinary Life in any Environment”!

It came with 26 CD’s of Tony Robbins’ teaching as well as 2 DVD’s and an additional 5 CD’s from his audio magazine, “Powertalk.” This is over 40 hours of Tony Robbins teachings and I have listened to all of the core 26 CD’s eight times over the course of 2017. “Thank you, my dearest mother-in-law. I can’t wait to see what you get me this year for Christmas. I have been a very, good boy!”

Anyway, one of the CD’s included in the “Ultimate Edge” is called “Daily Magic.” It is a CD made to use in the mornings to get your day off to a great start. One section of the “Daily Magic” CD is entitled “Get Grateful.”

The “Get Grateful” section is all about having an attitude of gratitude. During this time I reflect and I thank God for those things in my life that I often times take for granted. I thank God for:

My wife
My kids
Salvation
His grace
His forgiveness
His love
My health
That I get to do what I love
And a plethora of other things I am thankful for.

This helps me be aware of how blessed I really am. There is an old hymn titled, “Count Your Blessings” and this is exactly what I have done on almost a daily basis over the past year. It has helped to change my life.

When we start off the day with a grateful attitude, the rest of the day goes better. How can I complain right after I have thanked God for so many things that are right in my life? Having an attitude of gratitude can make the rest of the day so much better.

It is also healthier. Being grateful relieves stress and helps us feel more relaxed. When we thank God for our health, then we will have more health to be thankful for.

If you want to focus on the negatives of life, you will find them. If you want to focus on the positives of life, you will find them. You will typically find what you are looking for.

The more you complain, the more you will have to complain about. The more you are grateful, the more you will have to be grateful about. We tend to attract what we focus on.

As we approach Thanksgiving, I would encourage you to make Thanksgiving more than an annual celebration. Make it a daily habit. I made that change at the beginning of 2017 and I intend to continue that tradition in 2018. It has made all the difference…Perhaps it is the road less traveled.

In 2017, my mother-in-law made me a more grateful person making me more positive, healthy and focused.  Thanks!

What are you thankful for?


I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life,  design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Schedule your free session here.  If you don’t do it now, you may never make this a priority.  Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

 

 

 

Organized Dreaming – 5 Real Steps to Turn Your Dreams Into Reality

When I first got into personal development material, 20 years ago, I got frustrated with all the numerous steps that each author or speaker would teach. I decided I would take all the audios and books on goals and try to find the few characteristics that they all had in common. Then, I did a Bible study on goals. I came up with five simple steps to achieving your goals…Sort of…

This is what I call…Organized Dreaming!

Before we get into the five steps of goal achievement, we need to come up with our “Be, Do, Have” lists.  Some people call it their “dream list.”  It does not matter what you call it as long as you make one.  I offer these FREE worksheets on my website or make your own.  Here is how it works.

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Get three sheets of paper.  At the top of the first page write “Be”, on the top of the second, write “Do” and on top of the third, write “Have.”  Then go back to the page labeled “Be” and begin to write down everything you want to “be.”  I mean everything!  Do not hold anything back, just let your imagination run wild.  This is a brainstorming exercise so there are no wrong answers.  Write down the crazy, the mundane; the big, the little; the simple, the far-fetched; the ordinary, the extraordinary… write it all!

When you can no longer think of anything to write on your “Be” list, then go to your “Do” list and write down everything you want to “do.”  Then go to your “Have” list and write down everything you want to “have.”  Remember, there are no wrong answers so let your imagination run wild.  Some of your answers will be comical and others will be inspiring… all because of your imagination, and remember, the most powerful nation in the world is… Imagination!

Once you have finished doing all three pages, keep those with you for at least 24 – 48 hours so that when you get another idea you can quickly write it down before you forget it.  Continue to let your imagination run wild. Write down even the silly stuff, until you just can’t think of anything else you would like to be, do, or have.  Remember, you can always go back and add to this list for the rest of your life.  As a matter of fact, I encourage you to do so.

focus-mattersNow it is time to pick a focus goal! Out of your three lists of goals, pick one from each list.  If you could only keep one, this is the one you would choose. This should leave you with three goals, one from each list. Now, out of the three selected, pick one goal. Once you pick one goal from your “Be, Do, Have” list (or dream list), you are ready to go through the goals program which includes these five steps:

G.O.A.L.S.

  1. Goal: Write down your focus goal.
  2. Obstacles: What is keeping you from reaching this goal?
  3. Action Steps: How do I overcome each obstacle?
  4. Little Bit O’ Help: Who and what is going to help me?
  5. Set a Date: A goal without a date is not really a goal.

That is it! 5 simple steps to achieving your goals. Five simple steps to making your dreams come true!  Now what?

I bring to the table a set of professional skills to help you identify what you really want in life,  design action plans to reach those goals and get those things accomplished.

I offer one FREE 45-55 minute coaching session, done over the phone at a time that is convenient for you.  In this short call, we will work together to:

  • discover a path you want to take and
  • if I’m the best choice to help you navigate that path.

Schedule your free session here.  If you don’t do it now, you may never make this a priority.  Take 30 seconds and register for your free session.  It may be the best step you’ve ever taken towards making your life something better than you ever dreamed.


Click Here for 2 free goal-setting helps:  “Dream List” and “Goal-Setting Funsheet”

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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

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Climbing to Our God-Given Potential Together

_MG_0038lowresWOW! Last week I completed 100 blogs over the course of 100 business days. I love traveling this path to my God-given potential and I love sharing this journey with others. Over the past 100 blogs, I have shared with you stories and lessons I have learned over 25 plus years of climbing to my God-given potential.

I am investing the rest of my life sharing my experiences and lessons through speaking, writing, and coaching. For those of you who have joined me on this journey, I hope I get to see more and more of you as we take this journey together. I know this journey may not be everybody’s cup of tea, but for some of you, this is exactly what you want out of life.

_MG_0023cropOver the past 100 blogs, I have shared about:

Overcoming failure

Relationships

Priority management

Our spiritual walk

Goals

Dreaming

Believing

Achieving

Enthusiasm

And a number of other subjects. However, they all have one thing in common – climbing to our God-given potential. It is my heart’s desire to have as many people as possible join me on this journey.

007I will continue to write blogs, but probably not five a week like I have done over the past few months. The main subject in all of them will be how we can better climb to our God-given potential. Thank you for reading as you travel with me.

What are some areas I could cover that would help you in your climb to your God-given potential? Perhaps someone else is needing similar information as they take their journey. What are some success stories you would like to share?

I want to learn from you as much as you learn from me. Remember, we are on this journey together, let’s help each other along the way. Here we go!

Do you need help on knowing where to start?  I offer one complimentary discovery call if you’d like some help figuring out how God has specially gifted you.


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

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God and Disc Golf

disc golfOne of my two favorite sports is Disc Golf (my other favorite is Wiffle Ball). Disc Golf is played similar to ball golf. Instead of hitting a ball with a club into a hole, you throw a disc into a basket. Each basket has a specific par, just like in ball golf, and the goal is to get the disc in the basket in as few throws as possible.

disc golf2The interesting thing about Disc Golf is the number of different discs that perform different tasks. You have driver discs, mid-range discs, and putter discs. You also have some discs that are easier to curve to the right while others are easier to curve to the left. Some discs float, in case you do not make those over the water shots, and others do not. Different discs can be made of different kinds of plastic and each one serves a different purpose.

Here is the weird thing. I believe God has made us in a similar way that manufacturers have made those discs. He has made all of us different to serve different tasks. The sad part about this is that discs are more often used for their specific purpose than people are.

Galatians 6:4-5 says, “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life” (The Message). We all have different spiritual gifts, passions, abilities, personalities, and experiences. God has made us for a specific purpose.

Just like certain discs are used for specific tasks, so certain people are made for specific tasks. None of us can do everything. There is something you do better than most other people. Find out what that is and then sink yourself into that.

Be creative! Make the search! Discover your purpose! Then wear yourself out doing exactly what God created you to do!  Anybody up for a game of disc golf??


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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What EXACTLY Is It You Do For a Living Tommy Lanham?

Hi!  I’m Tommy’s wife, Tammy.  Something Tommy and I have in common is we both struggle with a short answer when the inevitable question comes up “So, what do you do?”  I, personally, homeschool a 6th grader and 8th grader, am the chief marketing officer for my husband’s business as well a the owner of Tammy Lanham Images, specializing in photography and marketing for entrepreneurs and small businesses.  See – not really a very short answer, is it?

So I sat down with Tommy Lanham and interviewed him to try and get a better idea of how to market him.  I’ll let you listen in:

So Tommy, what is it you do for a living?
I used to say I was a speaker and life coach. The ppotential 2roblem with that answer is that many people have no idea what that means. It is such a vague description of what I do. It is like asking a mechanic what he does and him answering, “I lift hoods and twist wrenches.”

Give me the short answer.
I help people climb to their God-given potential. Although some think I’m a comedian, I love puns and that my full-time job is keeping my wife happy.  All of that is true, too.

Who is it that you help?
Organizations, churches, ministries, marriages, and individuals.  Hungry ones.

I was recently working with a coach myself and together we came up with,  “I serve those who hunger for their God-given potential.” This better identifies who I work with. People who are content in their day-to-day life probably have no interest in what I have to offer.

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Who will benefit from working with you?
Those who hunger.  Businesses who want to be more successful, more productive, more peaceful.  Organizations who are ready to move forward and really crush it.  Churches who want to go beyond the status quo.  People/organizations who have big plans but don’t know how to move forward with those plans.  Those who are ready to make changes, ready to discover what God has in store for them.

Those people are much less likely to get sidetracked when the climb becomes difficult. Because it will get difficult. If you do not have that inner hunger, all the skill, motivation and coaching in the world will not help you.

How exactly do you work with people?
I do one-on-one coaching, I travel and speak, offer motivational keynotes, present partial and full day training for organizations and events.  I have three popular presentations “Great Minds Think Together” “Organized Dreaming” and “The Climb” that can stand alone or build upon one another to create an unstoppable recipe for success.

Explain to me “Location / Destination / Navigation”
That’s the three programs I just mentioned.
1.  Location:  Step one is figuring out your own location – your starting point on your GPS. Who are you? Get an understanding of your organization’s strengths and weaknesses, personality, spiritual gifts, your present state, etc.  This helps give you an understanding of where you are starting. You cannot map out where to go until you find out where you are.  This self-awareness is discovered and examined in my program “Great Minds Think Together.”  It is the foundation of my 3-step program.

2.  Destination:  Where do you want to be?  What do you want most out of life?  This step is all about discovering your organization’s purpose and future. In this program, you create a vivid picture in your mind about where you would like you or your organization to go. What kinds of goals are you setting?  Get specific about your goal or dream. Do not say, “I want to increase productivity.” That is like telling your GPS, “I want to go north.” That is not a destination. In this program, I help you get specific. My program “Organized Dreaming” helps you set goals with razor sharp focus. It’s a great tool on its own but it’s also an incredibly effective tool when coupled with the foundational program in step 1.

3.  Navigation:  Once your GPS finds your location, and you enter the address you want to go to, then and only then, will the GPS calculate a route for you. Then you can follow the direction to get to your destination. Sometimes you may need to re-calculate along the way just like a GPS does, but that does not mean you abandon the destination. It just means you may need to make some adjustments along the way. The program “The Climb” is the motivation, empowerment and the guide along your journey that helps you navigate which step to take next.

There you go! A simple three step process. Location + Destination + Navigation = your GPS for success in getting from where you are to where you want to be!

So, what is it you tell people when they ask what it is you do?
I am leading an enthusiastic revolution against the mundane.  I don’t think they always get it.

You get up on a Monday morning.  What’s your first hour look like?
I send out reminder emails to my coaching clients of their upcoming coaching calls this week. I do any last minute preparations for any groups I’ll be speaking to during the week and check my calendar for upcoming group presentations or travel.

Then I eat a bowl of cereal and kiss my wife good morning.  Remember, gotta keep my wife happy.  😉  The same things any leader of a revolution does, right?


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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

Check Tommy’s availability or leave him a note:

 

Your GPS For Success – 3 Steps to Get From Where You Are to Where You Want to Be.

 

Regardless of what you want to accomplish or achieve as an individual or as a team, there are certain steps you must take to get from where you are to where you want to be. It will not happen automatically. You must be intentional.  That means you’re not going to get there wandering around. gps2

I have developed a three-step process to get from where you are to where you want to be. It is a simple process that anyone can put into practice. I use these three words to outline the simple process; location, destination, navigation.

gps3Location – Where you are

If you are going on a trip you have to begin where you are. If you use a GPS, it first must find your current location before it can program a route to your desired destination. The same is true in life.

Before you can get from where you are to where you want to be, you must first discover where you are. This sounds like a no-brainer but frequently people want to get from one place to another without having a good understanding of where they are. In the behavior science field, this is called self-awareness.

Get an understanding of your strengths and weaknesses, personality, spiritual gifts, your present state, etc. This helps give you an understanding of where you are starting. Where are you physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually? You cannot map out where to go until you find out where you are.

Destination – Where you want to be

gps4After your GPS finds your location you can then enter where you want to go. Until you enter a destination, the GPS cannot calculate a route. The same is true in life.

Get specific about your goal or dream. Do not say, “I want to lose weight.” That is like telling your GPS, “I want to go north.” That is not a destination. Get specific.

Describe in detail where you want to go. What will life be like when you get there? Create a vivid picture in your mind and perhaps even draw or print out a picture to put on a vision board. (Maybe I should do a blog on how to set up a vision board.)

Navigation – How to get there

Once your GPS finds your location, and you enter the address you want to go to, then and only then will the GPS calculate a route for you. Then you can follow the direction to get to your destination. The same is true in life.gps

Map out the actions needed to get from where you are to where you want to be. What do you need to specifically overcome the obstacles that may be in your way? Develop what Tony Robbins calls, “a MAP, a Massive Action Plan.”

Sometimes you may need to re-calculate along the way just like a GPS does, but that does not mean you abandon the destination. It just means you may need to make some adjustments along the way.

There you go! A simple three step process to get from where you are to where you want to be. Location + destination + navigation = your GPS for success in getting from where you are to where you want to be!


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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The Top 5 Qualities of a Leader

leadership2What are the most important things you’ve learned about leadership?

I have thought several times about that question. More books than can be counted have been written about leadership (John Maxwell alone has probably written more books on leadership than can be counted). However, with all that information, what would I consider the most important? Through reading, watching other leaders,; and almost 25 years of ministry and helping churches, organizations, and individuals climb to their God-given potential, these are what I would consider the five most important things I have learned about leadership.

  1. Love the People

Love the people you are leading. Care more about them as individuals than the vision or the organization as a whole. Some people, once they feel loved, will follow you anywhere.

  1. Image result for leadership imagesPlace them where they add the most value

Find out people’s gifts, passions, abilities, personality, and experiences and then plug them into appropriate roles. Help them through this process. Value who God made them and then place them where they add the most value.

  1. Begin with the end in mind

Know where you are going as a leader. Begin with the end in mind. You have no business leading someone if you do not have a clear picture of where you are going. “Where there is no vision, the people perish” (Proverbs 29:18, KJV).

  1. Lead yourself first

Lead yourself first. Before someone can effectively lead others they must be able to lead themselves. This means knowing how and being disciplined enough to get from where they are to where they want to be.

  1. Follow the ultimate leaderleadership

To be a great leader you must follow the ultimate leader, Jesus. Only those who have learned how to follow can truly lead. To be the best leader you can be you must follow the best leader to ever live.

I feel these are five very important aspects of great leadership. Whether you are a CEO, minister, spouse, or parent applying each one of the above characteristics will improve your leadership. What are the most important things you have learned about leadership?


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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5 Tips For Being More Productive

timeOver the years I have learned some secrets to being more productive. I must take proper action. It does not matter what we know if we do not put it into practice. Jesus reflected this in the story of the wise and foolish builders. The foolish builder heard what Jesus said, he had the knowledge, but he did not take proper action according to the knowledge. The wise builder heard the teaching of Jesus and then he put them into practice by taking proper action according to the information. The foolish builder’s house crashed and the wise builder’s house stood strong.

time2Productivity has not always been easy for me. I have had to learn along the way. My first breakthrough in understanding how to be more productive was realizing that time management is a myth. Time cannot be managed. I cannot decide that 3:00 P.M. does not work for me where it is, I need to move it to earlier or later in the day. Time cannot be moved or adjusted, therefore it cannot be managed, but I can manage my priorities. If I try to manage my time I will fail, but if I properly manage my priorities then I can be more productive.

Tips I have learned to be more productive:

  1. I forget about saving, managing, or organizing my time. Instead, I focus on managing my priorities.
  1. My favorite time of year is March because of March Madness college basketball tournaments. I love following each team’s progression through the brackets. (Especially the Kentucky Wildcats!) There is something about using a bracket system to find out which team is number one that grabs my attention.

I do the same thing with my priorities. I work my yearly, monthly, weekly, and daily priorities through a double elimination tournament bracket system so I can better discover my number one priority. This has helped me be more productive because it helps me focus on what is most important at that time. Plus, it is just plain fun!Priority Management Infographic

  1. Getting the right amount of sleep helps me be more productive. Sleep is highly underrated when it comes to what helps us be more productive. How much sleep we need may be different for each one of us, but it is vital that we understand how much sleep we need and consistently get that amount if we want to live at our highest potential.
  1. Waking up early. I know for some you may be more productive at night and if that is the case then I encourage you to work in your productive zone. For me, I am most productive early in the morning. The earlier I wake, the more productive I am, typically. This is assuming I went to bed early enough to get the right amount of sleep. Find your strength zone and do most of your work during that time if at all possible.
  1. Focused enthusiasm! When I can stay enthusiastically focused, I can accomplish more than I ever thought possible. Find out what you love to do and then enthusiastically pursue that adventure. In my opinion, the number one way to be your most productive self is to have focused enthusiasm!

What helps you be more productive?


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Become Greater Than You Are – 4 Case Studies

david palmerOn May 6th, my friend, David Palmer, will graduate from the University of the Cumberlands. This is how his Facebook post read today, “Only took 6 years. Lol May 6th, finally!” David stayed with it regardless of the many challenges he faced over the years. Just like “The Tortoise and the Hare” it does not always matter how fast we finish, but that we have the perseverance to finish no matter how long it takes.

David’s announcement brought back memories of my own journey. I was never a good student academically. I was a “C” student at best. I always enjoyed school. A matter of fact I enjoyed the 6th grade so well I took it twice.

Tommy LanhamEven in college, I did not do well. Just like David, it took me six years to finish. My story was recently highlighted in my friend Daniel Matthews’ book “Spear Your Fear”. Matthews writes,

      Take my friend, Tommy, in the 1990’s, he was asked to leave college because of his grades. He was given a second chance and after a 6-year struggle, he managed to graduate with a 2.3 GPA.
     Most recently, he graduated with a Master’s Degree that was completed in just over one year and did so with a perfect 4.0 GPA. Today, he spoke at his former high school on “The Success of a 6th Grade Flunky.”
     Tommy knows that if you want to become greater than you are, you not only must be able to recognize the successes within your failures, you must be able to exploit them (p. 117).
daniel matthewsAs Daniel Matthews stated, I did go on to get my Master’s in Life Coaching with a 4.0 GPA. Daniel also struggled academically when he was younger deciding to drop out of high school. Several years later he graduated from Indiana Wesleyan University summa cum laude. (To find out more about Daniel Matthew’s journey read the book “Spear Your Fear” available at www.continue2improve.com.)

SorenI used to be somewhat embarrassed that it took me six years to graduate college until I discovered it took Soren Kierkegaard 10 years to get his undergraduate degree and today he is considered one of the top thinkers of the past 200 years. So, hey! I am in good company.

So, whether it is David Palmer, Daniel Matthews, Soren Kierkegaard, myself, or the countless others who have persevered in the face of trial and failure, ignored the naysayers who said it could not be done and realized that this life is not a sprint but a marathon I salute you. I salute us.

Never give up! Continue to press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of you (Philippians 3:12). It does not matter how long it takes it only matters that you complete the race.

Image result for daniel matthews spear your fear imagesThank you, David Palmer, Daniel Matthews, Soren Kierkegaard, and the many others who have inspired me with your perseverance.

God is not done with you…so never settle, live with enthusiasm, and turn the world upside down…Here we go!
Matthews, D. Daniel. (2016). Spear Your Fear: Five Simple Steps to Retrain Your Brain for     Success. Continue2improve. Lexington, KY.


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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