3 Easy Steps to Change Your Habits

Recently a fellow enthusiast asked me this question:

“From what I read and understand, change/resolutions, etc., come from changing habits. How does one really do that?? If I want to exercise more, eat healthier things, what habit am I forming and HOW?”

Here is my answer:

Changing our habits is not easy. Our mind gets comfortable acting in a certain way and when we change the routine, our minds will often resist. I do not know your unique situation. However, here are some general tips:

  1. Focus on the results. For any goal you have ask yourself “What is the purpose of reaching this goal?” write that down and read it frequently. It will keep you motivated and focused.
  2. Make it a must. We typically do not do what we feel like we “should” do. However, we almost always do what we feel we “”must.” For example, if we say, “I should start running.” We probably will not. However, if we “must” run somewhere to save the life of someone we love, we will find a way to do it.
  3. Visualize your goals. Getting a clear picture of your goals in your mind or even an actual picture you will see every day will keep you motivated and focused. I am doing a live event in Lexington, KY. on January 19, specifically covering this topic.

This is a quick answer, but hopefully it will help get you started.  Here is the link to the podcast of the radio show “Hope Is Here” hosted by Greg Horn. I was his guest on January 1-5. We discussed goal getting and overcoming discouragement. Listen to the show this week. The clips are only about 15 minutes each. If you have further questions please let me know. I can even do a free coaching call with you if you would like to dig deeper into changing your habits. Thanks for the question.

Additional comments:

Keep in mind that your brain makes neurological connections in the process of establishing habits. When you change your habits you are literally changing brain connections. Your brain will often fight those changes. However, when those new connections are complete then your new habits become easier. When the new connections become strong enough the new habits become more routine.

Also, any kind of accountability will help. Make changes with a group of people or at least with one other individual. Get a mentor that is already doing those things you want to start doing. Hire a coach to help you work those changes more quickly than you otherwise would have.

If you have any questions you would like my perspective on please put them in the comments.


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He is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to ignite their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life-changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Well-Rounded People Have No Point

well rounded 3As a child, I frequently heard people talking about being well balanced. It seemed when an individual fixated on one thing, others looked down on that type of behavior. People talked about being a “well-rounded person” as if that was the goal.

In order to be well-rounded and balanced, we needed to find out what our weaknesses were and work on them. People wanted us to be involved in different types of activities so we could grow up well balanced. It was exhausting.

As I got older, I noticed there were some things I enjoyed and did well. There were other things I did not enjoy and did very poorly. I had little to no interest in improving some of those activities that I did not enjoy. However, if I wanted to be well-rounded I needed to “try harder” at those activities of which I performed poorly.

well rounded personAs I became an adult, I began to notice that many of the people who made the biggest difference in the world were not “well-balanced”, they were intensely-focused. They did not try to do everything equally well, they did just a few things extremely well. They were people who followed their dreams, talents, and strengths in a way that not only served them but served the world as a whole.

Have you ever found it interesting that the higher up you go in education the more narrow your subject matter? Why is that? The higher the quality of education the more intensely focused it becomes.

Please do not misunderstand me, I am not saying we should ignore those areas where we are not very strong. However, most of our time and energy should be invested in becoming even better in those areas where we are already better than most other people. It is not about being balanced. It is about being intensely focused. I encourage people to invest about 20% of their time and energy into improving their weaknesses (maintenance) and about 80% of their time and energy into improving their strengths (mastery).

John Maxwell uses this illustration; imagine a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the highest. Maxwell says if we try really, really hard we might be able to raise our number about 2 points. If we are a 2 in something and we work really, really, hard to improve we might

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get up to a 4. Fours are average. However, if we are a 7 at something and we work really, really hard we could possibly bring it up to a 9. And people pay big money for nines.

Albert Einstein, someone who changed the world by being intensely focused and not “well-rounded”, put it this way, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” Why? Why would a well-functioning fish think it is stupid?  Because it was not made to climb trees. There are some things you are made for and some things you are not. “Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that” (Galatians 6:4, The Message).

Here is the fact of the matter: well-rounded people have no point! Forget about being well-rounded and instead get intensely-focused on what God created you to do. Well-rounded people may be good people. I am not putting them down. They are contributors to their communities. They live stable lives. But intensely focused people…They change the world!


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Abnormal, Unbalanced, and Out of Step

People who are intensely focused can change the world.

 


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

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Are You Wasting Your Life?

How many times have you heard someone make the comment, “I am the same person I have always been”? I am not sure exactly what they mean by that, but I cannot help but see that as an insult to themselves. To say, “I am the same person I have always been” is to say “I have never grown up” or “I am not any smarter now than I ever was” or “I just don’t give a crap about getting any better in any area of my life”.

I know many people reach a plateau and never really grow beyond a certain point. That seems sad to me, not something to brag about.

If you are the same person at 40 as you were at 20 you have wasted 20 years of your life. As we grow older we should be growing in other areas as well. Unless we are perfect, (and none of us are) we should always be growing.

ludicrousThe reason most people do not grow is that growth means change and sometimes change can be painful. There is no growth without change. We have to consistently be changing if we want to grow. That means we will not be the same person we have always been. When we grow, we become different. We change and become better.

If you want something you have never had, you will have to do something you have never done. That is the process of growth. If we just settle, then we will never reach our God-given potential. God is not done with you. So, do not settle. Keep growing. Keep learning. Keep stretching. Do whatever it takes to get from where you are to where you want to be.

I can remember being so shy, I would not look the cashier in the eye as I made a purchase. I hoped they would not talk to me so I would not have to speak. Thankfully, today I am not the same person I had always been.

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I  can remember a day when I hated school or any kind of academics. I had no desire to stretch myself in this area. Thankfully, today I am not the same person I had always been.

Before I got married, I would preach and teach often on marriage and relationships. After I got married I stopped! I realized I was clueless about marriage and relationships. I was married for almost 15 years before I felt mentally, emotionally, and spiritually prepared to teach on marriage and relationships again. It has been a brutal learning process for me; but I have learned from experience, books, audio programs, classes, and especially from other married couples who were much better at this marriage thing than I was. As I have learned, I have become a much better husband, dad, and teacher. Thankfully, today I am not the same person I had always been.

You can change! You can grow! But not if you are satisfied being the same person you have always been.

God is not done with you…so, never settle, live with enthusiasm, and turn the world upside down… Here we go!


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message. You will look like a rockstar for hiring Tommy Lanham!

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Are You Too Good to be Great?

You are doing what you need to do, feeling what you need to feel, thinking what you need to think, and believing what you need to believe in order to get the exact results you are getting right now. If you want to get from where you are to where you want to be one or more of your actions, feelings, thoughts, or beliefs must change. In other words, what got you here will not get you there.

The most common misconception I have experienced in 20 plus years of helping people climb to their God-given potential is the belief that people can remain as they are and still move forward. When you say it out loud it sounds ludicrous, but I am amazed at how many individuals and organizations live this way. You cannot move forward by standing still.

A lot of my work has been with churches and just about every church I have ever talked with says, “We want to grow.” However, very seldom are they willing to do what it takes to grow. There is no growth without change.

ludicrousCraig Valentine often asks the question, “Are you too good to be great?” In other words, is just being good, good enough for you? The enemy of the great is the good.

John Maxwell was speaking once and showed his congregation a book with the top 10 largest churches in America listed, 40 years earlier. He then went on to explain that none of those 10 churches were still on that list. Actually, four of them no longer even existed.

What happened? Perhaps they allowed their successes to ruin them. After experiencing a little success they began to settle. They lost their edge. Perhaps, reaching people with the gospel was no longer their driving force. They became satisfied with their success.

Are you too good to be great? Has your organization arrived at a place where you are comfortable and you have decided to stay there? Have you settled?  Has your church settled?

If you want to continue growing, you must continue changing your actions, feelings, thoughts, and beliefs.


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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