Keep Your Eyes on Jesus

Stan McDanielMy college professor had a catch phrase he would use whenever the discussion seemed to get to a point of no resolution. A controversial conversation would be taking place and out of the blue Dr. Stan McDaniel would say, “Keep your eyes on Jesus the author and perfecter of our faith.” I think Dr. McDaniel or Stan as most of us knew him, reflected a pretty good philosophy with that statement.

Of course, that line comes straight out of the Bible; Hebrews 12:2, Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author, and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (NIV). What a way to look at the world by looking to Jesus. The Voice version of the Bible says “Now stay focused on Jesus.” In the midst of everything going on in the world and everything going on in our personal lives let us simply “Keep our eyes on Jesus.”

Not only is Jesus the “author and perfecter of our faith,” he is the one and only perfect example of how to live, think, feel, and believe. If we keep our focus on Jesus, we know we are moving in the right direction.

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When we get bombarded with social and political issues, when we find ourselves in the midst of a theological and doctrinal debate with others and even inside our own minds, when we are so distraught with the burdens of this life, let us keep our eyes on Jesus. When I am in the right state of mind, my focus is not on whether I am right and you are wrong. My focus is not on my financial situation.  My focus is not on the state of my country. My focus is on Jesus. All of these other issues only matter to me to the extent they are related to my focus being on Jesus.

So, thank you, Dr. Stan McDaniel, for helping me keep my focus where it needs to be in the midst of all the distractions. Thank you for giving me a go to verse in the midst of confusion. Thank you for influencing me to be influenced by Jesus!

As we go through the process of discovering our purpose, setting goals, and answering God’s call on our life, as we read and grow to become the best version of what God created us to be, as we climb to our God-given potential let us remember this:

“Keep your eyes on Jesus, who both began and finished this race we’re in. Study how he did it. Because he never lost sight of where he was headed – that exhilarating finish in and with God – he could put up with anything along the way: cross, shame, whatever. And now he’s there, in the place of honor, right alongside God” (Hebrews 12:2, The Message).


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Step 4 to Finding Real Happiness: A Deep Spiritual Connection to God

Over the past few blogs, we have looked at how to find real happiness and joy. To read those blogs please click the links below:

Step One: If You Want to Find True Happiness, You Must Do Something

God Did Not Create Us to be Alone/Step 2: Find Someone

Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

Today we will look at the fourth and final step: connect spiritually. The ultimate happiness in life is not discovered until we connect spiritually. The first part of a spiritual connection is to come to know and love Jesus. However, there is more to deeper spiritual connection than just knowing you will go to heaven when you die. There are several practices to help you grow into a deeper spiritual connection with God. There are four that are foundational to spiritual growth and connection.

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Spiritual connection is limited at best if we are not reading the Bible. The Bible gives us direction, connection, and affection. The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us. He wants you to hear his voice, listen to him. The Bible is not so much a rule book as it is a love letter from God. Open it up and find out how much God loves you.

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Prayer
The Bible is the primary way God speaks to us, prayer is the primary way we speak to God. Reading the Bible and prayer is how we have conversations with God. No relationship can grow without authentic communication. If our spiritual connection, our relationship with God, is going to grow, we must have authentic communication with him through reading the Bible and praying to him.

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Fellowship
If we are going to grow in our spiritual connection, we must grow in our connection with other people who desire to grow in their spiritual connection. That sentence may be worth reading again. Jesus established the church, which is our primary place for getting this type of connection. I know, I know, some of you are saying “the church is full of hypocrites and they have lost the meaning of true spirituality”, and there may be some truth to that. However, we often do not hear the positive side of the church. Churches really are most responsible for the positive change that has taken place throughout history. We have done some things very wrong, but we have done much more right. If you want more input on that subject please read “An Open Letter to the Church”.

The church is what Jesus established for his followers to come together for a deeper spiritual connection with him. With all its faults it is still God’s chosen vessel for deep, spiritual relationships. If we want to grow in our relationship with God we must grow in our relationship with other followers of Jesus.

Giving
If we are to grow in our spiritual connection with the ultimate giver…God…We must become givers ourselves. Giving can be our time, talents or treasures. Better yet, it should be all three. One of the best ways to find real happiness is to become a giver. Psychologist Alfred Adler put it this way, “We could be cured of depression in only fourteen days if every day we would try to do something good for somebody else.”

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I encourage you to schedule time to read your Bible. If you do not understand it then look for a different translation that is easier to understand. Here are some of my favorites: New International Version, The Message, and The Voice. If you do not like reading then listen to it. You can get it on CD or even look it up online for free.

Set aside a time of prayer. However, do not limit your prayer time to just scheduled times. Be open to spontaneous prayers as well. My wife and I have scheduled times when we talk, but we are not limited to those times. We spontaneously talk throughout the day as well. It is the same way with God.

If you are not already part of a church then I encourage you to find one. Please do not just attend, get involved. If you can find one that has a strong small groups environment it may help your connection even better.

Look for opportunities to give of your time, talents, and treasures. Give to your church, give to your community, give to your favorite cause, just be a giver. To some extent the more you give, the happier you will be.


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Step Three to Finding Real Happiness: Feed Your Mind

garbage.jpgWhat if I came into your house with a pile of garbage and dumped it all out on your living room floor? What would you do? You may call the police or you may take matters into your own hands and begin pounding some sense into me.  You would at least tell me to “Clean it up.” Depending on how quickly I responded to your demand, you may revert to one of the other two options.

The garbage on your living room floor can be cleaned up with some focused attention. But what about the garbage we pour into our minds on a daily basis? That is not so easily cleaned up. Be careful what goes into your mind.

Over the last two blogs, we have looked at two steps to finding real happiness: Step one is do something and step two is find someone. Today we will look at step three…feed your mind!

garbage 4Most people do not read a single non-fiction book after they finish school. We fill our minds with junk on the radio, T.V., the internet, and numerous other sources; but we do not take the time to fill our minds with good, positive, productive information. If we want to find real happiness, we must become life-long learners.

How many of you believe everything you read in the Bible? Now, how many of you believe everything you read on the internet? Now, I ask you, how many of you spend more time reading what you don’t believe than what you do believe?

I would encourage you to become life-long learners. Read or listen to something that will help you grow and move in the direction of your goals. If you do not have any goals, then maybe you could start with reading GOALS: Godly Objective Assuring Lasting Significance.

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Learn more about whatever it is you do in life. If you are married, read or listen to some books on marriage (The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman) or go to a marriage conference. If you are a parent, read or listen something on parenting (Scream-Free Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel) or go to a parenting class or conference. If you want to grow spiritually, read or listen to something on spiritual growth (The Bible) or go to church. Wherever you are in life or whatever you are doing, learn more about it so you can get better.

I am a speaker and a life coach who helps people climb to their God-given potential. You know what I read and listen to the most? Books and audios on speaking, coaching, and reaching my God-given potential. Those things not only feed my mind, they feed my soul.

If you want to find real happiness, I encourage you to do something, find someone, and feed your mind. Begin or continue your lifelong quest for learning. You may have finished your formal schooling, but if you want to find real happiness and joy, you must never finish your education.

What is the next book you are going to read? Class you are going to take? Audio you are going to listen to? Whatever it is, write it down (message it to me below if you want) and then take action! Buy it, pick it up, press play, whatever you need to do please do it now!


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Who Do You Know and What Are You Reading? 2 Keys to a Successful Future

Yesterday, as I was rambling through Half-Price Books, I found a book that is a tribute to Charlie “Tremendous” Jones. I immediately picked it up, flipped through the pages, and bought it.

tremendousCharlie “Tremendous” Jones was a speaker and author who passed away a few years ago. As I was flipping through the book I was reminded of one of my favorite quotes and probably the one he is best known for, “You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” What a powerful quote.
“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” We are typically the average of the 10 people we spend the most time with. Tony Robbins says that every individual is a direct result of the expectations of their peer group.

With that in mind, surround yourself with people who are where you would like to be. First of all, if you want to grow spiritually then get involved with a healthy, growing church. That is one of the main reasons Jesus established the church so we could help each other grow (Ephesians 4:11-15).

However, in any endeavor, who you surround yourself with will help determine your success or failure. This is why recovering addicts cannot rejoin the same group of people they were drinking or doing drugs (or whatever their addiction may have been) with. The people you hang around the most will determine your success or failure in life.

tremendous2This is why, as an emerging speaker, I am a part of the Kentucky division of the National Speakers Association. I get to learn from those who are better than I am. If you want to get better than you are, at whatever you do, you must hang around people who are better than you. It may not be comfortable, but it is more comfortable than not reaching your goals.

tremendous4As a life coach, I am a part of the International Christian Coaches Association. I also have attended the American Association of Christian Counselors World Convention numerous times to be a part of their life coaching track where I get to meet the best and the brightest in Christian life coaching and leadership coaching. This year I get to tremendous3present my “Coaching Different Personality Styles” (similar to my “Great Minds Think Together” program)  to fellow coaches from all over the world at this conference. I love being a part of this group of people.

Let me also touch on the other half of Charlie “Tremendous” Jones’ quote “the books you read.” If you want to be closer to reaching your God-given potential in five years you must become a reader. Leaders are readers! Become a life-long learner!

First of all, if you want to grow spiritually you must read the Bible on a regular basis. Learn to love God’s Word. It is literally a love letter from God to you.

Secondly, read books that pertain to what it is you do or want to do. As a speaker and coach, I frequently read books about coaching and speaking. As a husband, I read books about marriage. As a dad, I read books about parenting. If you want to be better at something five years from now than you are today then read good books about that subject.

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“You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for the people you meet and the books you read.” –Charlie “Tremendous” Jones


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Are You Dying From Debt Related Stress?

Yesterday we discussed saving money for an emergency fund. Today we will look at what is becoming a lost discipline: saving money for purchases. We live in an instant gratification society and we feel that just because we want something, we should have it right now – whether we can afford it or not. How do we make it happen? Debt!

IDebt Word And 3d Character Showing Bankruptcy And Poverty believe debt is financial cancer and it is killing people financially. Proverbs 21:20, says; “In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has” (NIV). It is unwise to just blow all we have and then when we find something we want, we just go into debt for it.

young couple worried at home in bad financial situation stress asking for helpDebt-related stress destroys marriages, reduces productivity in the workplace, and in some cases, it is literally killing people (Check out “Maxed Out” by James D. Scurlock). It is okay to purchase material wants if you are financially responsible when you do so. A big part of being financially responsible is saving up the money to make big purchases instead of going into debt.

Dave Ramsey says, “One definition of maturity is ‘delaying pleasure.’” Remember, “In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has” (Proverbs 21:20, NIV). The wise and mature thing to do is save up for big purchases.

debtDebt is a killer! As I said before, debt is financial cancer that is killing people that would otherwise be financially stable. By the way, the belief that the poor must go into debt to get by is a myth. I realize I may get some backlash from that but it is true. As a matter of fact, the less money one has, the more fatal going into debt will be.

debt stressI have had money and I have not had money and in neither case has debt been an asset.   To be honest, over the last 17 years, other than a mortgage I had for about 13 years, I have not had any debt. The freedom I have had during times of plenty and times of…well… not so plenty – I can greatly attribute to my and my wife’s refusal to go into debt.

So, go ahead and get you some “stuff’, just make sure you can pay for it without going into debt. And if you cannot pay for it, at least have the wisdom and maturity to delay that pleasure long enough to save up and pay cash!


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Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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The Shack: A Study in Theology Pleasantly Disguised as a Movie

ShackoverSeveral years ago I read “The Shack” (actually, I listened to it on CD) and recently I watched the movie. I have come to a similar conclusion about the movie as I did the book. It is a study in Theology pleasantly disguised as a novel or a movie.

It gives us a study of the Trinity, redemption, forgiveness, judgment, the relationship between God and humans, etc. I am not saying I fully agree with everything the movie may have taught about these subjects. To be honest, I do not agree with everything I hear taught in a typical church Bible study about these subjects, either.

The movie did seem to hint at universalism (the belief that everybody goes to heaven). I say it seemed to hint at it because it did not directly teach universalism. There are some aspects of the movie that could be taken that way. I do not know if that was the intent of the movie producers. They left this unclear. (Just for the record I do not believe in universalism).

shack_0I enjoyed the movie. It touched me emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I would recommend this movie to a believer or an unbeliever.

Is it perfect Bible teaching? No. But neither is all of the Bible teaching in our churches. Do not get me wrong, I believe the Bible is the perfect Word of God. However, those of us who teach it are very imperfect, even in our understanding of the Bible. (Yes, I do include myself in this.)

Rich Mullins once said, “I think if we were given the Scriptures it was not so that we could prove that we were right about everything. If we were given the scriptures it was to humble us into realizing that God is right and the rest of us are just guessing.” We all have a messed up view of the Bible in some way. If we did not, then we would not need the Holy Spirit’s involvement. Let us speak the truth in love and hopefully, where we are clueless about the truth love will overcome.

So, if you do not want to watch “The Shack” then do not watch it. If you do want to watch it then do so. Come to your own conclusion.

The Bible is truth. I am sold on that. “The Shack” is a good movie that goes much deeper into some of those biblical truths than most other movies (even other Christian movies). Maybe it will drive you to get deeper into the Bible for yourself. A Bible study curriculum could very easily be set up around this movie.

If you like emotional movies with a strong intellectual and spiritual component you will probably enjoy this movie. If you do not, well, you probably won’t.

For those of you who have read the book or seen the movie, what say you?


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What Are God’s Promises to You For Overcoming Fear?

Yesterday I shared with you one action to take to overcome your fears: walking in faith. Today I will share with you the second step to overcoming your fears:

Standing on God’s promises.

There are many places in the Bible that emphasize God’s promises to those who follow him. I will look at three:


-Deuteronomy 31:6

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you” (NIV).

In the midst of your trial, pain, or your extreme discomfort in moving in the direction of your God-given dreams, always know that God “will never leave you nor forsake you.” Therefore we have no reason to “be afraid or terrified.” Because God is always with us, we can, with confidence, “be strong and courageous.”

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“God has said, ‘Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.’ So we can say with confidence, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” (NIV).

Because God will never leave us or forsake us “we can say with confidence, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” That is a reassuring place to be. If God is for us, who can be against us? Bust through that fear because you have the greatest power to ever exist in your corner.


– John 14:2-3

“In my Father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am” (NIV).

 

In Hebrew culture often times a young man would propose to a lady by preparing a room at his father’s house. This is where they would take their bride, assuming she accepted the proposal, to live with him when they get married. In reality, Jesus is proposing to us in this passage. “In my Father’s house are many rooms… I am going there to prepare a place for you…I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am.”


Jesus loves us so much he would rather die than live without us. If you have accepted his proposal, you can definitely walk in confidence with a groom like that.

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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

Tommy is dedicated to helping you make your next event the best you’ll ever experience. Your audience will laugh, learn and be inspired as he mixes enthusiasm and humor with motivational stories to deliver a high content message.

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God, Save Us From Practical People

Do you know what the most repeated command in the Bible is?

“Fear not” or “Do not be afraid.”  Yet, often times, we are controlled and limited by fear.

I am amazed at how adults change the way they talk to young people as they grow older. When kids are very young we say, “You can be anything you want to be!” We encourage them to dream. We want them to reach for the stars!

However, as they become teenagers we began to say things like, “You need to be practical.” “You can’t always do what you want.” “No one in our family has ever done that.”practical people

God save us from practical people!

Give us people who encourage us to dream. Give us people who continue to tell us we can do whatever we set our minds to. Give us people who are not so controlled by their own fear that they want to control everyone around them as well.

“Fear not!” “Do not be afraid!” Keep moving forward in the face of self-doubt. God is bigger than our fears no matter how practical we are encouraged to be.

My friend, Daniel Matthews, has written a great book on overcoming your fears titled; Spear Your Fear: Five Simple Steps to Retrain Your Brain for Success. In it, he gives great advice on how to move forward in the face of fear. Daniel states, “To keep your fears and self-doubt from winning, find your higher purpose, have a single focus, and look beyond the result by developing process-based goals.”

I believe the Bible reflects the same sentiment in Isiah 32:8, “The noble man makes noble plans and by noble deeds, he stands.”

Develop a focused enthusiasm for what God wants you to accomplish. Then develop specific goals to accomplish that. Then, and this may be the most important factor, take action! Just simply taking action will help you overcome your fear.
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Take action!
Take action now!!
Whatever the fear may be, taking action will help you overcome it.
What step can you take right now towards overcoming your fear?  Leave a comment and share your dream with me and how I can help you overcome any fears that may be stopping you.

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_MG_6842cropTommy Lanham is a dynamic, award-winning speaker who has been training individuals and organizations to reach their God-given potential for 25 years. With a unique blend of Ziglar motivation and ragamuffin faith, Tommy delivers powerful, life changing messages filled with humor, hope, and enthusiasm.

Tommy will empower, entertain and energize audiences to achieve extraordinary results and live a life beyond what they ever dreamed possible.

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Follow Your God-Given Dreams

Helen Keller was once asked if there was anything she could think of that was worse than being blind.helen keller.png
John Maxwell defines vision as “a picture of the future that stirs up passion within you.” Do you have vision? Do you have a picture of your future that stirs up a passion within you? The best way to predict the future is to create it.

futureWhat do you believe God’s dream or vision for you may be? Through prayer, reflection, feedback from those who know you best, Bible reading, you can discover your passion. God created you for a reason, for a purpose, for a dream. God has a dream he wants to accomplish through you.

Are you up for the challenge? It will not be easy. It will not always be smooth, but it is where you will live your life to the fullest extent. If you want to climb to your God-given potential, you must discover what God’s dream is for you and then pursue it.

Bruce Wilkinson says, “If you do not follow your God-given dream something significantly important will not happen.”

Several years ago the Statler Brothers had a song called “The Class of ‘57” Some of the lyrics went like this:

class 1957Tommy’s selling used cars, Nancy’s fixing hair
Harvey runs a grocery store and Margaret doesn’t care
Jerry drives a truck for Sears and Charlotte’s on the make
And Paul sells life insurance and part-time real estate.

And the class of ’57 had its dreams
Oh, we all thought we’d change the world with our great works and deeds
Or maybe we just thought the world would change to fit our needs
The class of ’57 had its dreams.

Betty runs a trailer park, Jan sells Tupperware
Randy’s in an insane ward and Mary’s on welfare
Charlie took a job with Ford and Joe took Freddie’s wife
Charlotte took a millionaire and Freddie took his life.

And the class of ’57 had its dreams
But living life day to day is never like it seems
Things get complicated when you get past eighteen
But the class of ’57 had its dreams
Oh, the class of ’57 had its dreams.

(Songwriters DDN REID, HAROLD REID Published by Lyrics © BMG RIGHTS MANAGEMENT US, LLC)

dreams lostMost of the time we do not need to discover our dreams. We typically know what they are, we have just buried them somewhere inside our mind and soul where we do not see them anymore.

Pull them out! Re-discover why God put you on this planet. Do not let the realities of life steal your God-given dreams.

What are some of your God-given dreams?

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Tommy Lanham is a coach, leadership training expert, instructor, motivator, and a believer in Jesus. He is an experienced, trusted and highly enthusiastic speaker who communicates life changing truths in an entertaining way. He connects with his audience inspiring them to take action.

He speaks to various organizations, providing the tools to help you follow your God-given dream to reach your God-designed potential.  

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3 Solid Principles for Stronger Relationships

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3 Solid Principles for Stronger Relationships

     It is estimated that over 99% of counseling is relationship counseling. 70% of people who are fired are fired because they did not get along or fit in. A 20-year Harvard study showed that relationships affect physical health more than food, exercise, or even genetic makeup. It is plain to see that relationships are significant. Even Jesus said there is no commandment greater than loving God and loving people (Mark 12:30-31). As we enter the month of February, the month for relationship and romance, let’s take a look at 3 solid principles for stronger relationships.

  1. Respect

Make people feel understood and appreciated. 46% of people who leave their job say it is because they didn’t feel respected or appreciated. Make sure your respect is genuine. Les Giblin says, “You can’t make the other fellow feel important in your presence if you secretly feel that he is a nobody.”

 

  1. Patience

Control your anger. The Bibles tells us, “Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry” (Ephesians 4:26, The Message). There are some situations when we should be angry. However, if we want to build stronger relationships, we must channel that anger in a constructive way to resolve a situation, not hurt the other person. You can never build a better relationship with someone you are angry with. Be careful with the words you use toward people you want a better relationship with. Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can break my heart.

  1. Forgiveness

Be as gentle with other’s faults as you are your own. The core of the Bible’s message is forgiveness – forgiveness we receive and forgiveness we give. “Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32, The Message). Unfortunately, we like to categorize sin into big sins and little sins. This is the way we categorize it: Big sins are the ones you do and little sins are the ones I do. If you want to build better relationships with those you love, you must be as gentle with their faults as you are your own.

Look for the Best in Each Other

Respect, patience, and forgiveness can catapult your relationships to a whole new level. Whether they be your relationship with your spouse, kids, extended family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, or customers. Here is my last bit of encouragement from the Bible concerning relationships:

Get along among yourselves, each of you doing your part. Our counsel is that you warn the freeloaders to get a move on. Gently encourage the stragglers, and reach out for the exhausted, pulling them to their feet. Be patient with each person, attentive to individual needs. And be careful that when you get on each other’s nerves you don’t snap at each other. Look for the best in each other, and always do your best to bring it out.          -1 Thessalonians 5:13-14 (The Message)

What additional solid principles could you share to help us build stronger relationships?

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